Do girls like bigger guys?

[BrettH]

now I'm talking about bigger weight and height wise. I'm 6'4 and 280. and I know a few guys around my size. I'm pretty height to weight proportionate. I know I'm really not unattractive but I've always felt that I'm just kinda limited in my chose because of my size. I would love to drop down to 250 but not much less than that because my body is built to be big.

ok so girls do you like bigger guys? and what else does that guy have to have or do for you to like him.. (and I know the personality answer can sometimes be true but for the most part its complete sh*t)

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well now I'm not as big as I was when I posted this. I've lost 80+ pounds and now weight around 200. so what do you girls say about that? is 200 a good weight for a guy that's 6'4?

[hisangel]

See, I never thought of it as liking fat vs thin. What I mean is people act like there is only fat or thin. And you are attracted to one and not the other. I don't believe that. I know guys who only dated thin girls but admitted that if they liked a girl who was bigger, they would date her with no problem. Or you may only date white girls but if you saw a black girl who was a great person, you would have no problem dating her.

I'm like that with guys. I have never looked at a big guy and not been attracted to him cause of his weight. But I've never ended up with a big guy. But the weight is never a turn off. I have fantasized about being with a big guy but I have never met one who I was attracted to their personality. That does mean they have bad personalities, I just mean the guys I knew who happened to be big, who they were or what they were into, didn't interest me. Just like with some thinner guys.

One of my friends only dates big guys. Some are thick, some just fat. But she likes feeling "protected" and likes that in a big guy.

I think we all act like we have an 'ideal" but I don't think I've ever dated anyone who looked like what I'd say my ideal is. They were really good looking guys but just not what I would say is my cut and dry ideal. Cause honestly, most people really do fall for the person. And in anyone you fall for, there is usually one or two things physically that aren't the ideal. But you care so much about the person those things don't matter.

So I just think it's a matter of, if you don't typical flock to something, like a bigger person, you can still fall for that person.

I would never think twice about being with a big guy if I liked him as a person.

[hisangel]

About update: Yeah, that's a good ratio.

[chazellelind]

I can tell you with all honosty that I think that bigger guys are much more attractive than skinny men because of how it makes me feel. obviously its based on taste, so I speak for myself. A girl like me likes being the petite small one wrapped up in my mans safe arms...not muscular..just plumb..I love that! A guy also must have an apitite, he musnt be afraid to enjoy his food, that would make me comfortable to not have to be Perfect. Not that I am saying you are fat...Big boned men are very sexy...who wants to hug a twig now, cumon..hehe

:) Be who you are..The right girl will love you JUST AS YOU ARE!

[Anonymous]

Most girls will say they do, but I don't know if that is the reality. If the guy looks like he exercises, then I would say that girls would be more interested.

[BrettH]

See I agree! a lot of girls say oh yea sure.. but in reality they dont. they want a bigger guy with washboard abs and sorry to say big guys like that are hard to find

[Opinion Owner]

I don't think they want washboard abs. They just don't want dough-boy. It isn't even so much the looks. It is that a dough-boy kind of guy looks like he is not that energetic and that he doesn't have a lot of hobbies. I will be straight with you--lose a few pounds, tone up, and even if you are still a sturdy guy, the girls will be all over you!

[Opinion Owner]

You don't look like dough-boy by the way. Just realized that it sounds like I am calling you that.

[BrettH]

Haha oh I know I need to loose a few pound and well ty I call my self a dough boy so I know what you mean. I do need to get out and exercise and lift weights I was doing a job with heavy lifting and I looked pretty good then but now I've just gotten back to lazy

[Opinion Owner]

Don't think of the weight so much as the tone. It will make you feel and look so much healthier. A lot of people who were active and then stop being active have the same problem. I'm sure you'll get back on track!

[Prometheus]

Some do, some dont.

I used to weigh about 140lbs at 6'5", bulked up over several years to 260lbs.. a lot of people said I was too big. I'm around 210lbs now.. I'd like to tone up just a bit more then hold that weight. It's on the slim side given my height but its a weight I'm happy at.

The protective thing works well, unless you're cocky and aggressive with it. Protective, confident and calm seems to be the way to go. Plus show your girl you're confident and strong with the world but you still need her, it's ok for her to know you're a softie but don't tell the whole world lol.

[BrettH]

Hah yea a bit late everyone knows I'm a softie at heart but if pushed to the point I will retaliate..lol

wow you are really thin for your height. I would love to hit between 225 and 250 and just stay there.. cause I'm at 280 now and I am just alittle on the heavy side and would love to trim down

[Ollie]

Linky :D

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Seriously dude, ANYTHING is possible.

And haha, it's funny what you said about personality. 'Tis a shallow society we live in.

[the-love-guru]

I went to high school with guys that averaged 6'-6'7 and almost always 200+ pounds (or more depending on how tall they were). I've always been partial to the "teddy bear" kinda guys (As I've nicknamed you fellas). As long as the guy is healthy, I don't mind at all. If anything, I feel incredibly safe and secure when I hug them.

Judging from your face shot, you look healthy. Be confident in yourself and your body, and a girl is going to pick up on that. We want to be with a guy who is confident, whether he's 160, 260, or even 360 pounds.

[creding]

A guy I REALLY like is around ur size, maybe a little lighter, he looks good to me, "beauty is in the eyes of the beholder" Some guys wouldn't look good skinny, I know he wouldn't, he looks good because he's thicker. It just depends on the guy, if you look good ur size then don't let a number hold you back, if you look like you need to lose weight, then loze weight. My guy wouldn't be the same if he where buff or skinny, and I know I'm not the only one who thinks that, when I introduce him to my girl friends they always comment to me afterward how he looks good. peoples bodies are different, as you said, I don't think I would look good if I were as skinny as some girls, I'm big boned, or big framed, wutever, I'm not overweight, and I know I don't look bad because when I tell people how much I weigh (I really don't care, it's just a number) they are always like, no way, you look 20 lbs lighter. so wutever, you can look good big, or bigger than most, you are unique.

[thats-her]

I really like bigger guys, I'm only 5'1 and my friends joke that I have a weight requirement LOL... Two of my ex's are 6'4 and it's really hard for me to be attracted to guys that are anything shorter than 5'7 but hey when a guy has a great attitude it still works sometimes, so the big guys that make me laugh my ass off are the perfect guy, as far as changing things about yourself as long as ur not disgusting and you smell good then there's nothing you should need to change because if a girls going to like you she will regardless

[tallenblog]

Honestly, I like bigger guys, that is if (like you said) they are weight-height proportionate. Some guys look better as a bigger guy than smaller. I don't really care what others care about him, but as long as he's attractive to me.

What does a guy have to have? hmmm, well that list can get pretty long. He has to be an all around nice guy who everybody loves, and is respectful towards the ladies. I have to feel safe and comfortable around him. He has to have somewhat of a sense of humor. I have to be able to have fun with him.

:)

[Standingpretty]

I prefer skinnys guys actually, but I do have a friend who loves bigger guys! Just like guys like all types of women there is a woman for every body type. Keep flirting, and don't have too high of standards, and anyone who you like and who shows interest ask her out! Always be on the look out for people who like you. Also, you can tell if someone likes you by reading about flirting body language on the internet, it will help you understand what they are saying without really saying it! Hope this helps!

[Anonymous]

Big guys who are weight/height proportionate are great. I totally dig them. But if they are out of shape and lethargic, no. If they are fit and muscular (not like a body builder but they have muscle tone) I don't care if they have a little bit of padding on top of the muscle.

I did not understand why you thought personality was B.S. to you? I don't care how good looking a guy is or hot or anything, if he is a jerk with no manners, he is not up for consideration.

[BrettH]

I like your answer :) and about the personality thing, most instances I have seen or been in the girl has judged the guy on if he's hot and tones not his personality. I know a lot of girls who are with jerks just because they are hot. so for the most part from what I have seen the personality thing has not been true. if it is for you than you are an exception and I hope you stay that way!

[Opinion Owner]

It has something to do with age (I am in my 40's). In your 20's a lot of girls will put up with crummy guys because of their looks but looks fade and the fit, hot guy stops going to the gym, eating too many cheeseburgers and losing his hair (or any other combination). Then he becomes the non-hot guy with a bad personality. Also girls start wanting more, like a stable guy who will be there for them and they can have children with, not the player.

[BrettH]

Yep that is very true. I just wish some how girls would start thinking that far ahead when in their 20's so I don't have to wait till my 30's for them to get their head on straight.

[Anonymous]

the bigger the sexier!:) I'm dating my boyfriend of 2 years and he's 6' 6" and 260, and I am SO attracted to his body! and I think what makes it even better is that he enhances the fact that he's huge, which makes it even sexier! and when you protect a girl with your body it's such a turn on and is adorable... in terms of other things you can do for a girl to like your is be yourself haha. I know everyone says that but tis true. have a great sense of humor and be a gentleman! hope that helps:)

[BrettH]

Your Boyfriend is real lucky

[Opinion Owner]

Haha thanks I would like to think so... I think you just need to find a girl who appreciates your size and likes you just the way you are, more toned or not:)

[malindaisme]

Im a small girl, 4'11'' and 110lbs, however I love bigger guys. Not over weight, but within healthy/normal range. I do not need a guy with abs of steel, he doesn't have to be a gym nut or a health freak. He just needs to be confident with himself and not lazy. I have never dated a guy smaller then 5'10''. I am generally attracted to guys over 6' and I am totally turned off by skinny guys. I want to feel protected by my man.

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

My husband isn't bigger weight size, but is height size. He's 6'6" but very skinng...just around 200lbs. I know many girls were intimidated by his height and...lack of being muscular lol. I've been with both skinny and bigger guys. I do admit looks count...but I guess weight and height are the two that don't really matter to me much. They never really have.

[xoSilverTiger]

I am more attracted to bigger guys. I like height, and just a broader frame -- it makes me feel smaller and more comfortable. Most girls I know as well prefer men who are anatomically larger than they are.

Then again - it does varies among individuals somewhat

[natasha123]

I like bigger guys I tkink their handsome and cute! my fiancee is bigger 6ft 250 and its fine with me! I looooovee hisss chubbs :P lol

just because a guys got abs and super fit doesn't mean he'd get more woman.. if anything he's super into himself and concieted while bigger guys tend to be sweeter! in my opinion ofcourse.

also.. why care what a girls preference is, a girl will fall for a guy who is himself! and there's someone right for everyone, by your description I tihnk you would have to stay the way you are cause skinny would be hideous.

[DyingAngel]

I think it just depends on the kind of girl you are try to be with. I'm not a stickler on a guys size. I'm pretty petite myself and fairly athletic so pretty much most people are larger than me, lol. I'm the lame girl who goes more for personality type, lol, and mine is pretty out there so I can either run ya off or pull ya in. Looks fad so they aren't top priority. I've dated guys from super skinny to heavier, conservative to heavily tattooed. As long as you have self confidence.

[luvLloyd]

Personally, I don't. But that's just my opinion, there are girls out there who like big guys or guys with chub. To me a guy who is overweight just means he is unhealthy. It means he doesn't really care much about his health and is pretty lazy. Again, that's just my opinion. I am pretty fit myself and love being active.

[MissConfused93]

Some girls do, but personally I can't stand huge guys (height or weight). I'm pretty tiny and weigh just over 100 lbs. I like guys who aren't too tall and have more of an athletic build.

But, personality is a huge factor. In the past I have liked a bigger guy. It all depends on the person.

[YayaVon]

It all depends on the girl. You can jump through hoops all you want to try to get a certain girl, but when it comes down to it, it's about her. Is she willing to go against the norm of "a man has to have a six-pack to be attractive." I wouldn't have a second thought of dating someone your size, and I find myself to be a very attractive, successful person, both inside and out. Perhaps its the "grab the bull by the horns" personality that I have, I couldn't care less what someone looks like, or what outsiders think of me, if there's chemistry, I'd go for it. I bet your just surrounded by girls who are self-centered, and think they're holier-than-thou. Just have confidence. You can look like you just crawled out of bed, but if you have confidence next to a typical "hot" guy who has none, the girls are going to be looking at you for sure. Just remember that you can get anyone you want, if they don't want you, their loss. They missed out on you, and you can happily move onto the next.

[Rena23442]

Depends. I've been attracted to guys that were smaller than me (I'm 5'10 and 120lb)

However I love the feeling of being in the arms of a bigger guy, makes me feel more secure :3

Every girl is different, but my personal preference doesn't swing toward 'washboard abs' and overly muscular builds. I like average, larger if the guy's got other good qualities. I don't go for really fit guys :P

[tuesday1]

lol I like bigger dudes I've never dated one but its crossed my mind several times. For me the guy just has to be nice and able to be himself I like to see that a guy is comfortable around me you know? You got to find the girl who is going to appreciate all the good qualities that you know you have and you are going to have to be a little pushy lol a big dude like yourself can be intimidating so use it to your advantage.

[CuddlyCarla]

Honestly, it really depends on the girl. Everyone has different preferences, as do men. Personally, I'm a short girl, and being with a tall man is always amusing because getting on my tiptoes to kiss them adds for humor but truly, I've dated tall, average, and short guys, and it makes zero difference to me. It's about quality, not quantity.

[Reeses-pieces777]

i'm intimidated by guys who are too big. I have only dated guys who are about my weight and thin or a bit muscular or toned. I'm 5'7 and I'm thin but yeah, I find some whom are bigger really hot but I get approached more by guys who are around 5'7 or 6'3 idk. yep

[msfitz4478]

I like bigger guys. In fact, I am involved with a guy who is 6 foot 5 and probably weighs about 250. He is not the best looking guy I have ever been with, but he is definitely the sexiest. It is not just about his size, but it is part of it. For me it is the whole package.