Girls, Do shy/inexperienced/quiet girls play hard to get?

[Anonymous]

If so why? Or are they misunderstood or something, are they indirect? Are they mistakes for playing hard to get and want to be straight forward but can't or are scared/nervous/anxious? I feel they have trust issues with guys or a poor view on guys and thats why they need time to trust guys.

[xLulu]

They're scared. It's not really that they're playing hard to get it's just that we're generally worried you might not actually like us. I've been asked out a few times by the same guy and every time I treated it as if he was joking simply because I didn't think he'd actually be interested, but he ended up being deadly serious about it. I've turned someone down before because I didn't know how to act on a date and so ended up rejecting the entire date altogether.

Trust is important and time is important. It's also important to just let them know you genuinely like them and you're not just flirting for the sake of flirting.

[Asker]

Why be scared? I try to make them comfortable and I do but what that next step that makes them break from their shell completely? Do shy/inexperienced/quiet girls get jealous if they see their crush with another girl are they thinking worst case scenarios? Do they think they can't just friends? Do these girls get more jealous more than experienced girls?

[xLulu]

I don't think we get more jealous honestly. If anything we tend to be able to get along with guys pretty well so we just think ''ah they must be friends too''.

Yeah, they might get jealous when they see their crush with another girl but who wouldn't be just a tiny bit jealous? They just wouldn't really act on it. If their crush hasn't shown them any attention they might just think that he wouldn't like them anyway I suppose but otherwise... I don't think they'd go straight to the worst case scenario.

I don't think it's that they're scared of you, but just of things they haven't done or experienced. In time it becomes less.

[Asker]

Would you sat this kinds of girl don't know how to express their feeling yet? And if so how can a guy help them get over that little confidence that they need.

[xLulu]

I think they know how to express it, they know what they want to say they just don't really feel confident vocalizing it just yet. Give her time, make sure she knows what she says is appreciated and that she can tell you anything. Compliments help, but don't shower a girl with them. Just small ones, those help.

[Asker]

Great advice, I love shy innocent girls, but thanks

[xLulu]

Not everyone does, many guys just don't have the patience for us so it's great to hear someone ask for advice on this!

[Asker]

No problem, I believe most guys do like more straigje forwy girl but I love shy innocent girls. They have a mysterious side to them that I feel I can get to because a lot of guys like you said just aren't patient.

[Anonymous]

Dude, maybe. I don't like talking to much about that. But we do, we get nervous or shy around the guy we like. I don't know, but that is the way we are.

[Asker]

Well I want a shy/nervous girl to open up to me and show her true feeling and her wild side that I know she has.

[Opinion Owner]

Then, do it by step by step, don't rush because some girls get freak out, and they might not want to talk to you again. Just slowly and steady.

[Asker]

👍thanks for advice