My girlfriend wants me to build muscles.

[Anonymous]

I am 29 years old Asian guy I have a girl friend every time when we talk she discuss about my body shape my height is 5’ 10 with slim body she wants me to build muscles does all girls like muscular guys?

[bobair]

Listen... these are called "sh*t tests." She's testing you.

She might prefer you had a built body, but she's already with you so it doesn't matter. What she's REALLY saying is, "Hey... I'm not feeling your masculine energy, so to be sure you're still a man I'm going to try to boss you around in an effort to get you to respond."

The only response you should give her is "No thanks, I like how I look." Or, "Ha! Honey, guys don't get bigger than me. ;) " Laugh it off and ignore it.

Usually sh*t tests come from girls who are feeling particularly insecure about your leadership/decision making skills. Make sure she's not wearing the pants. Start being the "man" by leading her, making choices without asking permission, and otherwise being a stand up guy.

If she really expects you to gain muscle to please her then find someone else who's less superficial.

Now, that being said, hitting the gym is a GREAT way of expressing your masculine power. It strengthens your bones, your heart, your body, your self-esteem, your confidence, and your will power. It's a good activity to consider, but not simply because your girlfriend wants it.

Good luck dude,

~ Robby

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[Panopticus]

I know this question is mainly for the girls to respond to but if I can throw an opinion into the hat? I am wondering what your girlfriend would say if you told her every time the two of you talk that you were not happy with her body? She would probably feel you were trying to lower her confidence level at least.

I would be asking myself why she did not look for a guy naturally possessing the muscular frame she desires.

Women want a man who is healthy and looks like a good provider but mostly they are like us, some girls like Mr Universe, some like men to be how they were born to be. If you take regular exercise - walking, swimming whatever, you will be toned up to your body lifestyle.

If I were you I would look for a girl who wanted me for what I am, not what she can change me into.

One last thing, beware of some of the stuff peddled to beef you up and getting to want too many muscles too quickly, You could easily harm a body that was not meant for what your girl wants you to do with it.

[troamundos]

You got a slim body. She can just learn to live with that. I think she is being inconsiderate and selfish to continually tell you that you aren't good enough unless you spend hours a week adding a bit of muscle to a perfectly healthy body already. She has a monumental sense of entitlement. Its one thing to ask your partner to be healthy and lay off the donuts, its even considerate to care about their health. However its quite another to request that you develop a passion for weightlifting and protein supplement when you already have a perfectly attractive body. There are plenty of girls who find health, and the natural slimness of you men vastly more attractive than an artificial imitation of a bull through copious amounts of time spent at the gym...in my opinion =P

[tex151]

Simple solution to your problem, say ok, I will, and do what you want. If you want to gain muscle for you then go for it, but if it's only for her and you could careless either way, just say ok, and when she brings it up again, say ok, and when she says it again, say ok, and well eventually she will get the point that your not going to do what she wants you to do, and she will stop asking, works every time.

[yeths]

she's insensitive!