I am scared to send friend request to my crush. What should I do?

[Anonymous]

I met a guy about 4 months ago and really liked him. I found his facebook account and I have stalked him ever since. I feel terrible. I know he's single through his facebook and I really want to make friend with him. But I don't have any mutual friends with him, is that too weird to send a friend request? And if I send it, he will know that I tracked him (and he will know about my purpose when making friend with him). Well we haven't seen each other since that first time, but I was like "love him at first sight" (not sure about "love" thing). And he didn't feel the same way, I think. I was dreaming, thinking about him and "our future" ( I am crazy, I know). I am really scared that he is gonna meet someone, love her, and that makes me sad because I can't have what I want. I think I am obsessed and a coward. What should I do?

[ak666]

If you met him already one time and at least briefly talked and know his name, I think you can approach the friend request in a way that's totally non-stalkerish (even though you are such a stalker!).

You can just be like, "Hey Kevin (or whatever his name is), I'm Sarah (or whatever your name is) from (insert place/event where you met)."

You can even leave it at that and see if he responds, but that's a totally cordial kind of request and message, not exactly screaming "stalker alert!"

That said, try to keep your feet grounded in reality, or else your imagination will have you practically marrying each other in your dreams. when in reality, you wouldn't have even gone on a first date together. That's a massive fantasy/reality discrepancy, and it'll tend to make everything awkward between you two if you can't keep your feet on firm ground instead of flying away into la-la land.

[Kasper_sefi]

send a the friend request spend time with him as "friends" like go to concerts cinemas bowlings whatever

that way you'll have memories with eachother

[Anonymous]

it is not the end of the world just a friend request send it

[Anonymous]

Just add him. It's not weird to send him a friend request.

[BeastRB]

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[Anonymous]

it just a friend requet not some marriage proposal
if he rejects it (which most likely doesn't happen in most cases), then you would have a reason to move on and stop dreaming
he won't kill u or something

[far2gud4u]

just add him

[Anonymous]

same girl same
I know how you feel