Should I send a friend request to my crush?

Redstrawberries28

The guy I have a crush on goes to the same university as me. We are in the same Chemistry class and occasionally make eye contact with each other. Nothing flirty. I was interested when I first saw him. We never talked before and because of that I feel awkward sending him a request. I really do like him and based off his vibes he seem like a good guy. I feel like a creep because I just randomly looked him up on facebook. He know I exist so I wouldn't be blind siding him with this request. I know i may be over thinking this but just nervous. How should I message him? According to his relationship status on FB he is single.

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Should I send a friend request to my crush?

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Most Helpful Guy

martyfellow
mho 20%

Instead of a social media contact, I'd ask him for a coffee or something more face-to-face. He might misinterpret a friend request as just a formality, or on the other hand, an invitation to get aggressive right away... in a face-to-face meeting, there wouldn't be misinterpretation.
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  I was thinking about messaging him because I'm very shy. Never approached a guy before. I feel that messaging him first will smooth things over. I tried to approach him but backed out because of fear. I never been in a relationship before.
  
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- martyfellow
  
  Coffee at your student cafe would be comfortable and safe, and you could evaluate him up close without feeling embarrassed. If you are too shy, ask a friend to come with you so you'd be a threesome. Ask your friend what she thinks, after the coffee.
  
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  Ok. Well we are about to go on break so it will have to be after break.
  
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- martyfellow
  
  Best of luck, Red!
  
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Most Helpful Girl

ElissaDido
mho 16%

3 years ago I had a crush on a guy in Med School. We never spoke to eachother and I wasn't sure if he knew about my existence.
I would sit far behind in the lecture and admire him from afar. Then my friend (who once talked to me) sent me his Facebook profile and she encouraged me to add him. I added him, and he actually approached me first in real life after I added him😍 He came to me in the Library and was like "It's Sarra right? " I was on cloud nine, and same day he messaged me on FB and we ended up talking for hours. We became friends (we still are) and were kinda flirty but I kinda lost interest for whatever reason.

Long story short, go for it, you have nothing to lose, it worked for me.
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- ElissaDido
  
  * who once talked to him
  
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underconstuxion206
mho 24%

I say send him a request, it won't hurt. If he likes you and is just shy and don't know how to make the first move, you sending him a friend request may just be the kind of nudge he needs to make his move. And if he doesn't like you, no harm done, it's just a friend request. Good luck.
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Usersame
mho 8%

Sending him a request will make him wonder if you like him (even more if you're not a facebook friend collector). If you don't want to be the one to make the move, i guess this can be a start.
Make sure you talk to him in person too, this is you just knocking on his door. But if he opens he still might not invite you in.
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lualesca
mho 13%

Yes you should, i did this in the past.

I added a woman i was interested on facebook, and waited... waited for about 2 months and she texted me first, we went from texting on facebook to dates, later on we merged together in bed, and were together for about 14 months.
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MancGuyUK
mho 15%

Just add him he will know you from the chemistry class at your university so your not just a random person he has seen you and made eye contact - I lots of people look at their crushes Facebook page it's nothing really that creepy chat to him when you see him start saying hi to him when you see him at university and take it from their
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akadatank44
mho 12%

This is gonna sound harsh but grow up. Asking a question about adding your crush on Facebook is high school lol. You are 23 years old. Go up and talk to the dude!!! Ask him for his advice on homework or project. Get to know him not his social media.
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  Well for a shy person like myself, you have no idea how hard it is to just walk up to your interest
  
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- akadatank44
  
  But what makes you a stronger person is facing your fears and over coming them. It woukd be a good skill to have just saying. Need to find your voice in a way. he's only a person. Stop putting him on a pedestal.
  
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  Yeah you're right. Still wanna send him that friend request lol. But I agree with you
  
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- akadatank44
  
  Maybe add him and message him. Ask him a question about your chemistry assignment. Tell him your not quite understanding it and maybe if you could meet up a little before class starts to go over it. That way it forces you to be one on one.
  
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  I wish I could have gotten this advice earlier because its a good idea. The only problem is that we are going on Thanksgiving break and I will see him
  one more time after this. On that day we take our finals and thats it. So this is my only option.
  
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- akadatank44
  
  Oh dang well that sucks 😕 maybe you can set up a different time before finals?
  
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  I don't know... Maybe just message him and IF he's interested i will give him my number and meet up on campus after winter break
  
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- akadatank44
  
  Yeah if that doesn't work there are plenty other fish in the sea!
  
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  True
  
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capncool
mho 9%

Before adding him on facebook I'd at least talk to him in person first, find an excuse to say hi and introduce yourself and ask him a question about class (i. e. opinion on a homework question or assignment, what you think will be on the exam, etc.). Take a zero expectations attitude so if nothing happens you won't be disappointed, but if something comes of it then you'll be pleasantly surprised :)
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Other_Tommy_Wiseau
mho 12%

Bruh, all you have to do is go up to him literally at any time and ask him about chem. After like 2 classes or so, send him a friend request and ask him about chem homework or some shit. It's not that hard
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blutwolfe
mho 8%

sounds like the exact same scenario I'm in, except I don't know her social media, and I don't have any lol
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TheCloud2
mho 3%

send him, talk to him in person every day, hell notice that you're talking to him every day and getting close then make a move
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scooogy
mho 3%

Better talk to him in person first
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SuicidalTeen
mho 5%

You should talk to him more so he think you're weird.
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amorpheus69
mho 5%

Yes. There's nothing like the 'shoulda', 'coulda', 'woulda' feeling you may regret.
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  I know smh. Just gotta get over my fear.
  
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Ronin122
mho 4%

I've just done this and it's the second day and she didn't accept it 😕😓
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- Redstrawberries28
  
  She probably didn't see it yet. Just stay optimistic.
  
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GraveTruth
mho 13%

A friend request? Really. lol. You are not 11yrs old.
Go up to him and ask him if he'a available to have coffee or whatever.
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SuperSaiyanBlueGoku
mho 0%

Yes, please send me a friend request.
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Theodorable
mho 7%

Absolutely.
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orphanedmind
mho 5%

yes, you should just 'friend' him, and let him bring it up if he accepts.
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What Girls Said 3

Wowzah
mho 31%

Just add him. You could message him. Maybe ask him for help on a Chem problem.
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jeannine22
mho 17%

You definitely should.
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Luci92
mho 13%

Just send it, yr overthinking it way too much.
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