Should I send a friend request to my crush?

Question

The guy I have a crush on goes to the same university as me. We are in the same Chemistry class and occasionally make eye contact with each other. Nothing flirty. I was interested when I first saw him. We never talked before and because of that I feel awkward sending him a request. I really do like him and based off his vibes he seem like a good guy. I feel like a creep because I just randomly looked him up on facebook. He know I exist so I wouldn't be blind siding him with this request. I know i may be over thinking this but just nervous. How should I message him? According to his relationship status on FB he is single.

Answer 1

ElissaDido

Influencer

3 years ago I had a crush on a guy in Med School. We never spoke to eachother and I wasn't sure if he knew about my existence.
I would sit far behind in the lecture and admire him from afar. Then my friend (who once talked to me) sent me his Facebook profile and she encouraged me to add him. I added him, and he actually approached me first in real life after I added him😍 He came to me in the Library and was like "It's Sarra right? " I was on cloud nine, and same day he messaged me on FB and we ended up talking for hours. We became friends (we still are) and were kinda flirty but I kinda lost interest for whatever reason.

Long story short, go for it, you have nothing to lose, it worked for me.

ElissaDido

+1 y
* who once talked to him

Answer 2

ElissaDido

* who once talked to him

Answer 3

Wowzah

Xper 5

Just add him. You could message him. Maybe ask him for help on a Chem problem.

Answer 4

underconstuxion206 | 359 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 6

I say send him a request, it won't hurt. If he likes you and is just shy and don't know how to make the first move, you sending him a friend request may just be the kind of nudge he needs to make his move. And if he doesn't like you, no harm done, it's just a friend request. Good luck.

Answer 5

martyfellow | 2.5K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Master

Instead of a social media contact, I'd ask him for a coffee or something more face-to-face. He might misinterpret a friend request as just a formality, or on the other hand, an invitation to get aggressive right away... in a face-to-face meeting, there wouldn't be misinterpretation.

Redstrawberries28

+1 y
I was thinking about messaging him because I'm very shy. Never approached a guy before. I feel that messaging him first will smooth things over. I tried to approach him but backed out because of fear. I never been in a relationship before.
martyfellow

+1 y
Coffee at your student cafe would be comfortable and safe, and you could evaluate him up close without feeling embarrassed. If you are too shy, ask a friend to come with you so you'd be a threesome. Ask your friend what she thinks, after the coffee.
Redstrawberries28

+1 y
Ok. Well we are about to go on break so it will have to be after break.
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martyfellow

+1 y
Best of luck, Red!

Answer 6

Redstrawberries28

I was thinking about messaging him because I'm very shy. Never approached a guy before. I feel that messaging him first will smooth things over. I tried to approach him but backed out because of fear. I never been in a relationship before.

Answer 7

martyfellow

Coffee at your student cafe would be comfortable and safe, and you could evaluate him up close without feeling embarrassed. If you are too shy, ask a friend to come with you so you'd be a threesome. Ask your friend what she thinks, after the coffee.

Answer 8

Redstrawberries28

Ok. Well we are about to go on break so it will have to be after break.

Answer 9

martyfellow

Best of luck, Red!

Answer 10

lualesca

Xper 5

Yes you should, i did this in the past.

I added a woman i was interested on facebook, and waited... waited for about 2 months and she texted me first, we went from texting on facebook to dates, later on we merged together in bed, and were together for about 14 months.

Answer 11

MancGuyUK

Xper 4

Just add him he will know you from the chemistry class at your university so your not just a random person he has seen you and made eye contact - I lots of people look at their crushes Facebook page it's nothing really that creepy chat to him when you see him start saying hi to him when you see him at university and take it from their

Answer 12

Usersame | 141 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Xper 5

Sending him a request will make him wonder if you like him (even more if you're not a facebook friend collector). If you don't want to be the one to make the move, i guess this can be a start.
Make sure you talk to him in person too, this is you just knocking on his door. But if he opens he still might not invite you in.

Answer 13

capncool | 243 opinions shared on Dating topic.

Explorer

Before adding him on facebook I'd at least talk to him in person first, find an excuse to say hi and introduce yourself and ask him a question about class (i. e. opinion on a homework question or assignment, what you think will be on the exam, etc.). Take a zero expectations attitude so if nothing happens you won't be disappointed, but if something comes of it then you'll be pleasantly surprised :)

Answer 14

akadatank44 | 3K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

This is gonna sound harsh but grow up. Asking a question about adding your crush on Facebook is high school lol. You are 23 years old. Go up and talk to the dude!!! Ask him for his advice on homework or project. Get to know him not his social media.

Redstrawberries28

+1 y
Well for a shy person like myself, you have no idea how hard it is to just walk up to your interest
akadatank44

+1 y
But what makes you a stronger person is facing your fears and over coming them. It woukd be a good skill to have just saying. Need to find your voice in a way. he's only a person. Stop putting him on a pedestal.
Redstrawberries28

+1 y
Yeah you're right. Still wanna send him that friend request lol. But I agree with you
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akadatank44

+1 y
Maybe add him and message him. Ask him a question about your chemistry assignment. Tell him your not quite understanding it and maybe if you could meet up a little before class starts to go over it. That way it forces you to be one on one.
Redstrawberries28

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I wish I could have gotten this advice earlier because its a good idea. The only problem is that we are going on Thanksgiving break and I will see him
one more time after this. On that day we take our finals and thats it. So this is my only option.
akadatank44

+1 y
Oh dang well that sucks 😕 maybe you can set up a different time before finals?
Redstrawberries28

+1 y
I don't know... Maybe just message him and IF he's interested i will give him my number and meet up on campus after winter break
akadatank44

+1 y
Yeah if that doesn't work there are plenty other fish in the sea!
Redstrawberries28

+1 y
True

Answer 15

Redstrawberries28

Well for a shy person like myself, you have no idea how hard it is to just walk up to your interest

Answer 16

akadatank44

But what makes you a stronger person is facing your fears and over coming them. It woukd be a good skill to have just saying. Need to find your voice in a way. he's only a person. Stop putting him on a pedestal.

Answer 17

Redstrawberries28

Yeah you're right. Still wanna send him that friend request lol. But I agree with you

Answer 18

akadatank44

Maybe add him and message him. Ask him a question about your chemistry assignment. Tell him your not quite understanding it and maybe if you could meet up a little before class starts to go over it. That way it forces you to be one on one.

Answer 19

Redstrawberries28

I wish I could have gotten this advice earlier because its a good idea. The only problem is that we are going on Thanksgiving break and I will see him
one more time after this. On that day we take our finals and thats it. So this is my only option.

Answer 20

akadatank44

Oh dang well that sucks 😕 maybe you can set up a different time before finals?

Answer 21

Redstrawberries28

I don't know... Maybe just message him and IF he's interested i will give him my number and meet up on campus after winter break

Answer 22

akadatank44

Yeah if that doesn't work there are plenty other fish in the sea!

Answer 23

Redstrawberries28

True

Answer 24

GraveTruth

Xper 6

A friend request? Really. lol. You are not 11yrs old.
Go up to him and ask him if he'a available to have coffee or whatever.

Answer 25

orphanedmind

Xper 5

yes, you should just 'friend' him, and let him bring it up if he accepts.

Answer 26

Other_Tommy_Wiseau | 1.4K opinions shared on Dating topic.

Guru

Bruh, all you have to do is go up to him literally at any time and ask him about chem. After like 2 classes or so, send him a friend request and ask him about chem homework or some shit. It's not that hard