Do you find mind games disrespectful? (looking for male opinion)

[Anonymous]

like a girl would toy around with you even though she shown interest and give you load of b.s.

do you prefer women who go for the lets just be friends and see where it goes approach? I prefer this one. why would you go for a beech when you can go for a nice girl instead? I feel this approach conditions an equality relationship. not to say it would definitely happen but promotes that I think.

do you see problem down the road with mind game approach? a girl that plays these games loses my trust for one thing. and I wonder if subconsciously she ends up feeling better than you or something and you end up having to please her throughout your life for her approach. bad ending in my view. the mind game approach conditions an inequality relationship I feel.

i feel mind games are rude and disrespectful and a man with integrity should not put up with it. especially since there are nice respectful girls out there. who cares about the myriad of reasons why girls do this? the bottom line is for a man's interest, this is disrespectful. if you making excuse to justify her behavior, it like you are making excuses to justify a child's misbehavior.

if you disagree,consider this, how would you view a friend if he/she disrespects you? I think it should be looked at this way here.

[sa230e]

Mind games are a two way street. On one hand they allow women to weed out the loser guys that have less than honourable intentions. On the other hand they can push away potential guys mates that have integrity.

Also they're a method women seem to use to get a sense of your character. As men we have the luxury of knowing exactly how attractive a woman is simply by looking at her. I'm guessing that for women you're a walking question mark until she can run some tests. They seem to be less visual and more attuned to the vibes we give off. They attempt to sort of put us into strange situations to test how we act under pressure.

The sure way to lose is to jump through her hoops. Assuming a woman is naturally attracted to a masculine and authoritative man, the response she's hoping for is what you described: not putting up with it. Mind games aren't disrespectful so much as a test of your respectability. She knows she's pretty and if she senses you're a man who has no problem with just getting up and walking away you've earned her respect. If you play along and jump through her hoops she looses respect for you.

Also, I get the impression that the women who play them are the ones who have been hurt. Evidently it was painful enough for them to take the risk of overlooking Mr. Right to ensure that it doesn't happen again.

[Asker]

While I 'm sympathy to girls that were hurt by bad men in the past, I cannot condone them trying to screw me up. that's like saying since you were abused in the past, that justifies your crime. gimme a break.

[Gregs]

the best way to deal with mind games and pass women's "tests" is to walk through the world with the attitudes of a man that knows what he will and will not accept. Ill tell you now that even the seemingly nicest girl is going to push boundries and play mind games, the best thing you can do is be yourself, and when a woman senses that your the type of guy that isn't going to put up with crap and that playing mind games with you will actually be detremental to her having any kind of relationship with you, just see how all the BS melts away.

But expecting girls NOT to play mind games is asking too much.

[Asker]

I beg to differ. not all girls resort to this bs. and its even possible some girls are naturally compel to do so. I don't see why I need to put up with this krap when there are better ones out there. of course if you are bored and wanna put up with the krap for kicks ,thats a different story.

it is disrespectful, and I have my intergrity. I'll not be fooled into thinking I have to put up with this like many guys out there when I don't. the ones that gave me this bs have all been dumped.

[Asker]

if you wanna test a guy, there are more respectful ways to do it. like getting to know him/lets be friends and see where it goes. both these approaches are respectful without turning him off. and I kept ones that are respectful from onset. as soon as a beech starts mind games, I develop trust issues. and I hate beech with self righteous/arrogrant attiitude, but I suppose it may be the guys fault for not providing enough control in the relationship.

[Asker]

Once a girl gives me trust issues, pretty hard for her to recover from that. girls are notorious for being picky. I say its time for me to level the play field.

[Gregs]

Half of your attitude is right but It seems to me you are missing out on a lot of fun and maybe getting too emotional when these girls test you. Understand that women get approached all the time and expect men to act certain ways, and you might just be the one she is waiting for all along so while its important to be ready to walk away from a girl and never look back, its also just as important to give women some space to redeem them self. check out some stories in my profile bro

[GIntrovert]

I don't interact with girls who do that.. clearly something wrong with them...