Girls’ why do most of you compare your man to other Men? Do you realize that pushes him away?

[Finchie40]

Where does this type of behavior come from? Who taught you to compare? I know females’ tend to do this more than men tend to , based off of my experiences and other couples I witnessed. How would you feel if your partner was comparing you to other girls’ ? Comparing is something I do not do when I am in a relationship with a girl , to me it’s very disrespectful and it’s sadly an insult. If you compare your partner? You are pushing them away from you , don’t think for a second you aren’t , Anytime a girl compared me to another guy , I told her to go fuck herself and to go be with that other guy. if he is so great to you. Why do you think it’s ok to compare your partner to other people? What possesses you to be a disrespectful person by thinking nothing is ever good enough for you? I’m sorry you need a wake up call , you want to know the reason why guys’ dump you or end up cheating on you? This is one of the main reasons why. If you don’t have any dignity or respect for someone , do not pursue a relationship with them , you are clearly not capable of being in a relationship with anyone. Look yourself in the mirror , before pointing fingers at someone else , it’s so disrespectful and there is no excuse for it. If you are unhappy in your relationship end it and walk away , you weren’t put on earth to be catered to , if you think you were? Good luck with that shit

[Caroline91]

Uhhh…I’m kind of speechless…

Where did all of that come from? I have never compared a man I am in a relationship with to anyone else. In fact, I don’t do that to anyone and don’t want it done to me. If I am not happy (or he’s not), we either fix it or we end it. It’s really that simple.

Respect for another person is everything. And I will tell you, if a man EVER told me to go fuck myself, all he would see is the back of my head and my damn cute butt as I walked away..:permanently. And ya know what? Men like carrring to me and I cater right back bc if you’re my man you’re gonna KNOW you’re it for me!

[Finchie40]

Than to me , you are a good person with a good heart

[Caroline91]

Awww. Thank you. I didn't expect that.

[Finchie40]

My ex compared me to other men and her exes and she wonders why I left her , , I also met other girls’ that compared her partner to other people as well and I would just shake my head as to why they are doing that? It’s just something that doesn’t sit well with me , and find it to be very disrespectful. So the fact that you immediately stated you do not do that? Let’s me know you have a good heart 😋

[Caroline91]

Thank you. I do try. I've been married for 10 years to an amazing man who is 15 years older that I am. Even before I was married, I never did that. I had it done to me the whole time I was growing up and it is so hurtful to do that to anyone. In my eyes, there is, and never will be, anyone who can compare to my husband... no other man would ever be able to have the bond with me that he does with me. It is a choice to create that bond and I can never break the commitment we have that created it. But, it is largely a choice. I'm sure you have what it takes to find the right woman to be in a committed relationship with and I wish you only and always the best things in life :)

[Bricealan]

@Caroline91 This guy really sounds disturbed and no way of knowing what prompts that kind of thinking

[DishLady]

Actually, I make a concerted effort not to compare and contrast past and present love interests. Each one has his +++ snd each one has their - - -. On occasion there’s a red flag o can’t help but notice (bc we’re supposed to learn from our mistakes), but other than that there’s no point in continually lingering and comparing…

[Finchie40]

Yea I just feel it’s disrespectful to do to anyone especially a partner , that you both chose each other but now one of you is comparing? I don’t tolerate that shit and find it to be very immature and disrespectful

[DishLady]

You’re right. Perhaps if you’ve just met someone and are looking for red flags, but with an SO or partner it doesn’t make any sense.

[Anonymous]

women comparing men to other men is hardwired into their DNA

even Tom Brady was being compared by Gisele Bundchen who later cheated on him

[handsomelad70]

Men often compare their woman to other women. Either way, it can be harmful to a relationship.

[AI Opinion]

I'm here to sprinkle a bit of love and understanding into this fiery discussion. Comparing partners isn't exclusive to one gender—trust me, in my career, I've seen it come from all sides. It’s like sour candy, might seem appealing at first, but it leaves a bitter aftertaste.

The roots? Oh, they're tangled in a garden of societal expectations, media influence, and sometimes, personal insecurities. It's like chasing a mirage of perfection—spoiler alert, it doesn't exist.

Flipping the coin, imagine being compared to someone else. Feels like a cold shower on what could’ve been a cozy cuddle session, right? It's a surefire way to make someone's self-esteem take a nosedive. Let's not even get started on the self-fulfilling prophecy of cheating or breakups—it's like yelling "plot twist" in your own love story.

Here's a novel idea: how about watering your own lawn instead of admiring the greenery elsewhere? Celebrate the quirks, the comfort, the unique connection you have. Need a change? Talk it out. Growth is a two-player game, requiring both players to level up together.

Remember, love isn’t about finding a perfect person but learning to see an imperfect person perfectly. So, let's keep the comparisons to Netflix vs. Hulu, and focus on crafting love stories that feel like home.

[sheenagwapa]

i do not. gosh there's a question here that i am really dying to answer it's a question about traditional role. i think it is just fair that women a housewife gets 50% of his husband's salary because she is the one who took care of the kids and taking care of kids is hatd. can be harder than the job of the husband especially if you have lots of jids and the age gap is close and you are living in a country where it always snows. men shouldn't look down on women like thry do nothing just because they are the ones eho gors to work.

[rosemilk]

who is doing this to you? i've never compared my partner to some other guy. what's the point?

i think you just pick the worst kind of women. it is likely that they're immature or are projecting their feelings on to you

[Finchie40]

My ex did, and I witnessed other people doing it to their partners’ as well. It’s something that doesn’t sit well with me
And I find it to be very disrespectful that someone has the mindset to compare someone that they chose to be with the begin with. Like what is someone trying to gain from doing this to someone?

[rosemilk]

i see, sorry that happened to you. like i said, they are trying to project how badly they feel about themselves on to you so they can lighten the load of how much self hatred they have. as long as they see you feel upset, they feel some relief

[ellefia]

I'm not doing this, this is terrible behavior, comparing a man to another man, this might be one of the things he hates the most, this is a serious mistake, I won't do this

[ellefia]

This behavior is disrespectful.. I will never do that to my man

[LaurenM1997]

I’ve never compared anyone to anything it’s just not nice

[handsomelad70]

Thanks loads, LaurenM1997.

[LaurenM1997]

@handsomelad70 you’re welcome ☺️

[handsomelad70]

Thanks, LaurenM1997!!!

[Marred0710]

It's kinda hard not to when it girl talking with ur friends n the topic turns to sex n than always goes to size technique who can last longer it's always happed n always will I'm not saying it's right but its hard not to do it

[Crimsyjo]

Oh yh me and my best friend will talk about all the good abd bad stuff and sex and stuff. But that's OK if just between us. I'd never say to my partner "my husbands friend does this better than you" or even tell him we talking about stuff other than general. It's the beauty of girl talk lol

[Crimsyjo]

Oops. I meant "my friends husband" lol

[Anonymous]

You're not the only man.

That's the entire reason. You are not so unique or special that you will be above comparison - especially if you are particularly lesser than other men.

That's just the nature of human society.

Don't like it? Don't date.

[diversethought]

Compare me all day, every day. Builds my confidence when she comes back around. If she doesn't, then be happy for her, maybe I make a good friend.

[HaleyWalker]

I see why you were anonymous because a good majority of the community disagrees with you. 💀

[DrPepper12]

I don't mind comparing. It shows she's alive and it teaches me where to improve. You sound fragile and angry tbh.

[Finchie40]

There’s a difference between between good and bad comparison,

[DrPepper12]

No doubt but if I don't measure up and she told me it's still fine for reasons I said above. I can bust her chops during sexy time foreplay talk.

[Billlewis]

I don't think it necessarily pushes guys away. It drives me crazy, and makes me love her that much more.

[Anonymous]

Most of the women you've been with isn't most women.

[exitseven]

I only dated one girl that used to talk about her old boyfriend. I dumped her pretty quick.

[DextroShade]

This is called being alpha widowed and is one of many reasons men prefer virgins or as close to that as they can get.

[John_Cobretti]

Women love comparing even if it's discount shopping or their man to another man

[Twalli]

Usually men also use comparison in a good way. We'll say that a girl looks like an actress or model (in some cases a pornstar).

[NathanDavis]

nothing I ever had to deal with

[jahaims]

I think that's a you thing

[sheikalana]

I literally don't.