What's one thing people always seem to get wrong about you?

[ManOnFire]

For me it's thinking I must be some kind of pure, soft, or naive guy just because I smile and I'm kind to people. Then when I show them how much of the opposite I can be they get offended.

What's one thing people seem to get wrong about YOU?

[VIVANT]

I think one of the things people most often misunderstand about me is my relationship with thinking. It’s easy to assume that because I analyze things deeply, the analysis itself is the problem — that if I thought less, things would feel easier, simpler, or less complicated. But for me, thinking is usually the way I make things less complicated. It’s how I organize information, find patterns, understand people, and turn something overwhelming into something I can actually work with.

The difficult part has never been that I have thoughts. It’s when I don’t have the space, time, or context to process them. Trying to skip the process doesn’t create simplicity; it usually creates more confusion because the pieces haven’t been integrated yet.

I think people sometimes see the visible result — the long explanations, the connections between ideas, the questions, the distinctions — and assume the solution is to remove the thing they’re seeing. But that’s like looking at someone using a map and deciding the map is the problem because it has too many details. The details are what allow the person to know where they are.

I can actually be very playful, spontaneous, and animated. My brain just becomes extremely focused when I’m working with information. That isn’t me trying to be complicated or trying to appear a certain way; it’s simply the mode my mind uses when it’s trying to understand something.

[ManOnFire]

As long as you aren't spending more time overthinking than taking action.

[VIVANT]

That’s a fair distinction. I don’t think thinking itself is the problem; it depends on whether it’s helping someone understand and move forward or replacing action. I’ve found that people sometimes mistake a longer processing period for avoidance, when for some people that processing is actually part of how they get to action.

[sage2021]

That I am an easy pushover because I am so kind to people.

The other thing that used to happen to me through the years of starting a new job was that the women were jealous of me a lot.

I remember two women said to me, "When I first met you I couldn't stand you. But then I got to know you, and now we're good friends".

One of them was my friend for more than 30 years!

[sage2021]

Thank you for the MHO 🙂🧡

[Chazmatazz269]

A lot of people seem to think i’m bad. I’m big, i shave my head and i have one very visible tattoo. Maybe above all of that, i don’t smile easily. So i might look like i’m in a bad mood even when i’m not. Resting dick face, if you will.
A few people have been very upfront with me about their preconceived notions, and it always results in a grand conversation! I would honestly rather someone tell me that they were afraid i was going to eat their children than ask me how i feel about the weather.
For the record, i just have a very straight face. Even if i am in a bad mood, you will never know it unless you are the reason for my mood.
The only look that i can’t seem to suppress is my “Are you stoopid?” face. If you do or say something extremely dumb in my presence, i can’t shut that look down. I might not necessarily say anything, but i will definitely have to fix my face.

[Lliam]

Liberals think I am a conservative and conservatives think I am liberal because I am not an ideological sheep. I develop my own opinions on individual issues.
For instance, I support women's rights as well as second amendment rights. I never developed TDS. I criticize both parties. I am totally opposed to U. S. aggression and sanctions.

[ManOnFire]

That is me also. I'm neither fully democrat or Republican. In fact I don't get heavily invested in politics. I have thoughts about things going on, but I'm not like a Washington observer or anything.

[AMS700CX4u2]

Politics reduces intelligent beings into name calling , rock throwing , fools.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

All sorts of stuff, some people think I'm too nice/ almost a pushover because of my pragmatism. Some people think I'm a chaotic dick because of how decisive I can be once I feel like I see a situation clearly.

Sometimes people think I'm dumb or lucky when my way of thinking isn't intuitive to them.

Some people think I've never suffered because of how confident I am when it comes from having lost almost everything I cared about multiple times in life.

Most people don't know anything about anything. Especially don't worry about judgement from people who don't know themselves at all.

[blueonblack22]

I’ve had people assume I am physically weak because I am a “nice guy”. But once I am in a fight I’m someone 99% of people don’t want to mess with. Just because I don’t like to fight doesn’t mean I don’t know HOW to fight.

I’ve had shock a few people with that.

[ManOnFire]

They think the same thing about me also. When I was a kid I used to fight back in school, and people got shocked by it.

[canamlusciouslad73]

There are a million anti-black male stereotypes you MAGAtards believe and use to justify our continued oppression.

[blueonblack22]

@canamlusciouslad73 ah I never mentioned race / politics and ManOnFire is African American. He never mentioned race / politics either.

So what does that say about you?

[AviatorTom]

Many people think I'm originally from the Midwest US, because of my accent.

I'm actually from the Northeast and had a strong local accent growing up, but I've done so much traveling around the world as an adult that I've lost my accent. In fact, there have been a few cases where I have adopted the local accent of wherever I was, and locals think that I am a local like them.

[ManOnFire]

Interesting.

[elizamichale1]

Because of my work most people assume i wouldn't be an honest or decent person n won't be able to be truly friendly but thankfully once someone gets to know me their perception completely changes

[ManOnFire]

So I'm not really sure but somehow I think many "workers" are more decent and honest than you're average woman.

[elizamichale1]

Well normally people think girls like me must be horrible at relationships n can't have one n can't be trusted n can't be honest n decent... unfortunately we have to face it all

[Visrako]

A rare woman indeed Eliza... the best

[elizamichale1]

@Visrako aww 😘😘😘😘

[_Jenny_]

@elizamichale1 Same here 💕💃

[elizamichale1]

@_Jenny_ what do u mean

[_Jenny_]

@elizamichale1 Because of our work people can make condescending and not understanding

[elizamichale1]

@_Jenny_ oh u r also a prostitute?

[_Jenny_]

@elizamichale1 Yes, I thought you knew that

[elizamichale1]

@_Jenny_ oh nice to find a colleague hehe
N no i didn't, sorry

[Kassandra1994]

Well shame on them. I been treated horrible by chruch religous lunatcis.

[elizamichale1]

@Kassandra1994 oh those r the worst ones

[OneViewpoint]

LOL, all sorts of stuff. I'm an introvert. I generally give people nothing to work with. But I'm also a tall, fit, muscular, well dressed guy. People read me as...

• Shy
• Aloof
• Arrogant
• Scary
• Threatening

No one ever seems to read me as an introvert who simply doesn't want to engage in meaningless small talk with strangers.

[TrueConfection]

People seem to think I’m terrible or snobby maybe? I’m not super smiley unless I’m talking and laughing. Some people are good at smiling all day, but I’m not and I think people get the wrong impression until we start talking.

[ManOnFire]

I won't lie, women who don't smile or it takes a lot to make them laugh or smile tend to give me the same impression as well. Probably most men. Generally I think it not only necessary implies snobbiness but that she sees smiling and laughing as weakness.

[AMS700CX4u2]

I was born with a smile on my face , a mischievous smile that makes people suspicious. In my senior years people think I am affluent but we are on disability. in my forties, women found it inviting but I never cheated on my spouse. Riding rescue on my youth, I never got to deliver a child, Women would not relax.

[TrueConfection]

I know, but I can’t help it. I tried practicing a fake smile in the mirror, but it was just so unnatural that I couldn’t do that either. I gave up. It just has to come natural.

I think it stemmed from being very shy when I was little. I went from insecure to feeling confident enough to not worry about opinions. I didn’t get a lot of social instruction growing up other that proper etiquette.

I’ve had good friends tell me that they didn’t like me when they first saw me. It’s been that way since I was a child. I’m too old to fix it now.

[ManOnFire]

@TrueConfection Yeah childhood stuff always seems to shape us or traumatize us so much. Lack of social exposure and social savvy is one of those that can make life tough to navigate at times too.

[TrueConfection]

I’m good at socializing and I love people. I’m not good at faking anything though. I’m also very truthful! I never could lie.

[FunkyMonkee]

They're either scared of me or maybe think I'm a freak or a druggie or a psycho but, I wouldn't harm a fly and would do what I could to help any of those people if they needed it. I'm just about the last person they need to be afraid of and, I have never used drugs or booze. Anyone that's gotten to know me knows I'm a major sweetheart. My fiance says I'm the most wonderful man she's ever met!

[Sugar100]

People think I’m quiet or bad person but I’m most romantic loving girl in the universe. I would of been the perfect girlfriend for guys of guys gave me a chance be my boyfriend 😓 my heart is full of love 😓

I love being social around people I’m very family oriented I wanted a big family many many babies many dogs home full of warmth.

[Dancer102]

That they think I am mentally retarded and that no one wants me which isn’t true. I’m being bullied because of my disability and it’s not cool

[ManOnFire]

Sorry to hear that.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

That I'm unapproachable;

That I'm a snob;

That I'm tall.

That I inherited my wealth;

That I'm forgiving;

That I'm not vindictive or vengeful;

That my standards are too high;

That I'm high maintenance.

[ManOnFire]

If they think you're unapproachable is it because you're acting that way?

[Billlewis]

Oh, yeah; niceness in a guy is widely viewed as being weak, by most nowadays. I see it all the time. I'll be out, and if you say hello to someone, next thing you know, they're asking you for money.

[NathanDavis]

it used to happen, not so much so anymore though...

many would assume that I was way too serious, not friendly and even arrogant, sometimes because I really wasn't the one to initiate or approach people...

but they got around and close anyway... we ended up being great friends, and for life too, lol

[ProbablyClueless]

I think it's because I'm bald headed, don't smile much and I give off the vibe of someone that's super dialed in, but a LOT of people assume I'll be uptight and judgmental until they actually talk with me.

[loveslongnails]

That most people think I'm obligated to respect the content of your opinion simply because I accept your right to have that opinion. If I need to explain this further, you're likely to be of those people. :)

[ManOnFire]

Nope. I definitely get what you mean.

[loveslongnails]

Very cool

[astlavista]

People sometimes think I’m too serious or distant, but I’m actually just careful about who I open up to.

[ManOnFire]

That's fair.

[Pterodon]

That since I’m MAGA white I’m racist despite raising a biracial son that was a product of rape and having a black fiancé

[ManOnFire]

Wow that is definitely a surprise.

[CaribbeanPrincess91]

If you are MAGA you are racist because you subscribe to a racist party. What aren't people getting?

[Pterodon]

How exactly are we automatically racist and wasn’t it the republicans that set the slaves free and wasn’t it the democrats that started the KKK?

[Anonymous]

That I act the same at work as I do everywhere else, but it is just because I can’t tell customers what I really think

[ManOnFire]

Yoo, this is one I deal with too. The people on my job think they literally know more about me and my personal life than I do. Like they assume some kind of idea about me that is not even correct lol

[HellGeist]

Some people think I'm quiet because I'm smart, but I'm mostly quiet because I just don't like talking to most people.

[RavVid]

Very similar. If I can help people I will and I am very tolerant but I still have limits.

[xawyx-3]

Just one thing, lol, many people seem to get most things wrong about me, not just one :P

[FreyaRed]

That I’m a person who uses physical assets to exploit others. When I show them I have some kind of dignity and refuse a free drink or meal, then I turn to be arrogant.

[ManOnFire]

Yeah if you've got boobs that's rare for a girl NOT to try to exploit people with them.

[FreyaRed]

My boobs are just B cup, so not really impressive. You theory is also, the world doesn't turn around "a buck, a yen, a mark or a pound" but around boobs?
'Cabaret' needs to write a news song XD

[ManOnFire]

I assumed boobs because you get offered free stuff. I know that typically happens when a girl has big ones.

[DonaldDarko]

I'm not sure. A guy I worked with who'd been in prison a long time complained about not being able to read me to someone. I guess he was good at reading People in prison or something. I still don't really know what he was on about.

[AngryCarl3]

Imma say what I always say.

Just because I'm dumb, doesn't mean I'm ignorant.

[_Jenny_]

@ManOnFire people sometimes are very condescending because of the work that I do. It’s my job and I don’t like it when other women think they are better than me and talk trash about me, calling me a slut.

[Erica8]

That I'm easy because I’m an easy-going woman. But it’s not true.

[browsingthroughthe]

I'm also a cool guy 😎 even if people don't think I'm that cool

[MikeMetal79]

not as dumb people think I am cause of a my dyslexia and I tend to be a quiet person.

[Taranis_Thunor]

People assume that because I'm smart, polite autist that I'm a good person and try to walk all over me. That's why I got no friends and if someone ever dies it IRL it's ending in a fight.

[fish5505_87]

I am not the most argumentative person on the planet!

[dragoblack]

Usually what im trying to get across/explain. People keep jumping to the worst conclusions

[browsingthroughthe]

That I'm a troll 🧌😠

I promise I'm a good man 😆😅

[Taranis_Thunor]

People assume that about me too

[browsingthroughthe]

I feel for you, potential Thor lol 🔨 lol 🌩️⚡

[exitseven]

people are afraid of me. I am really nice.

[ManOnFire]

What do you think makes them feel frightened of you?

[canamlusciouslad73]

Except to black folk.

[exitseven]

I lived through some interesting times.

[canamlusciouslad73]

I lived through the Civil Rights Era.

[exitseven]

I lived through the 70s

[Agape93]

Lately, humanity. As @goaded can attest, I have little. I have to fake it

[CaribbeanPrincess91]

That I'm dumb and naive. I play dumb and let people reveal themselves. I have very strong discernment and things seldom get past me. We both know what you're doing. I'll play you while you think you're playing me.

[Sickworld]

People always think that I am so innocent

[MrChinaski]

They think I'm serious.

[canamlusciouslad73]

If they don't see me, my blackness.

[Xdressertiff]

That i have confidence.

[Shiprex]

That I am ok

[robocop666]

everything