Girls, is it attractive if a guy is protective over you?

[Anonymous]

I've been told I'm a fairly intimidating guy. I'm close to 6 foot 2, I go to the gym, I am masculine with stubble and deep voice what not and I know how to fight. I hate seeing people flirt with my girl though. If I see some guy flirting with her I'll go up to the guy and scare him off, and if guys message her I tell her I'd kick their asses. Do girls find this attractive in their partner? Cause my ex's have told me they freakin love it.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

It seems like a fairly natural stance and I can see that you use your physical attributes to their full advantage. I think most guys would take a protective stance over their GFs just like GFs do with their BFs.

What worries me more though, is why a guy is flirting with your girl when you are there and why other guys are messaging her if she is with you.

[Asker]

those guys dont know I am with her. And she doesn't reply to them.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

Ok but she knows she is with you and how do they get her number? Is this a new relationship?

[Asker]

Facebook. And yes relatively new.

[Sadly_It_Fell_Off]

I see, thanks. I hope it goes well for you both 😄

[SabinaV]

To be protective is really good but not overly. There can still be a fine line with certain things too.

Just not often or overly only when you know you should, that is when someone is really being an arse.

I do think being protective is fine just not so much because overly possessive can be bad too.

[krystennicole]

there's a difference between protecting her and harassing people who soeak to her. threatening people on her behalf is creepy, but keeping her safe is very attractive

[Asker]

Whats your idea of being kept safe?

[krystennicole]

if she's getting cat called on the streets or if a guy won't leave her alone when she asks them to, then i think its ok to say something

[Asker]

Thats when I step in. Or if a guy flirts with her i'll come in and tell him to get lost. They generally take heed and scoot off straight away.

[singlebee]

Yocare actually insecure... and jealous Lol that's not alpha... at all

If a guy doesn't know that she if already taken and you step in before your girl tell him that she if taken then its not smart..

But yes if a guy keeps flirting with your girl even when she had warned him then it's completely OK.

Real guys buy get jealous do fast.

[Ironlak282]

Does the guy who's flirting with your girl know she's taken? Otherwise your just being a bully. Girls probably like a protector but not a i'll break his legs kind of guy.

[BackInTheGame22]

Not really. That sounds more like you scare people off because you're jealous. Some jealousy is ok, but not over the top. A guy who makes us feel safe and protected though - THAT is a turn on

[Asker]

Im a lot taller and bigger and stronger than her. I always defend the girls I am with

[fauchelevent]

If someone is flirting with me, I'd like my partner coming over or taking notice but I'd want him to let me handle it myself. If my partner told me he'd kick someone's arse just for messaging me, that'd be really unattractive.

[wittymilf]

I only like this if they have allowed me the space to try and protect myself first, because it's a bit subjective and some guys get jealous over nothing.

[Sarashigirl88]

Yeah definitely, i love when a guy is protective. I sure don't want a boyfriend who is a wimp or careless.

[Asker]

Thats good to hear. Too many girls say they dont like an alpha male but its how you're all hard wired. No need to deny it.

[Sarashigirl88]

Yeah, i understand that a woman doesn't want anything bad to happen to her man if he gets in a fight and defends her but they shouldn't feel like it's wrong or a bad thing to expect their boyfriend/husband to protect them. That's ridiculous, men are suppose to be like that. It's so crazy how people think today. Times have changed so much. I agree that there should be limits. If you can avoid getting in a fight then great but sometimes its not always that simple. In some situations a man can't just give a guy a warning then walk away. If some guy hits his girlfriend, then he's not gonna take it easy on him. A real man would anyways.

[Asker]

Blame all that PC/leftism/liberalism crap for emasculating men. But i totally agree with you.

[Sarashigirl88]

I should of said if some guy hits another guys girlfriend, then her boyfriend is not gonna take it easy on him but I'm sure you know what i meant lol.

[Asker]

You can also blame all that PC liberalism crap for making masculinity seem like a bad thing and something to be frowned upon.

[Sarashigirl88]

Yeah, i hate that liberal bullshit! It pisses me off.

[karahiri]

No, not really attractive to me. I don't like to be near drama or violent people.

[PunkinPie]

No, because it shows you're insecure and a bully. Sooner or later your agression will turn on the girl herself.

[TuMeManques]

Totally. Even though I can protect myself it's nice to know my man could do it too. And that he would want to.

[zorro8888]

I'm too weak for that, protect me pls!

[TuMeManques]

@zorro8888 I've got your back babeeee 😘

[Anonymous]

yeah, it not only shows that you care but that you are also an alpha male and that is what every woman wants. you just can't go overboard with it.

[Asker]

Whats your definition of overboard in this case?

[Opinion Owner]

if a guy tries to scare off every guy that has a conversation with his girl, or starts trying to control things in her life. when he starts trying to know what she is doing at all times and who she interacts with. that turns a sexy alpha into a crazy psycho.

[bunanababa]

yes but not too overly protective cus then it would be a turn off

[Asker]

what would be 'overly' protective to you?

[bunanababa]

that he would beat up the guy just because he was looking

[Asker]

Not for just looking. If he touches her or continues to flirt thats when I escalate.

[bunanababa]

then it's fine

[Anonymous]

yes but if its overly protective i would fucking hate it

[Asker]

Whats your definition of overly protective?

[Opinion Owner]

like There's a dress code. Too much rules that suffocates a
person and too needy to be with them "
because they are only protecting " us from harm, even if its just hanging out with girlfriends

[rushthesand]

Huge turn off. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

I would tell you to chill man lol

[Touchmehxx]

They didn't love it enough to stay with you :(

[Samantha2448]

I love it personally

[Asker]

what do you love about it?

[Samantha2448]

I feel loved and wanted also I think it's adorable