Im lonely asf. Like I have nobody to talk to about anything, I have nobody to just sit and chill with. Im just lonely. I never did have a whole bunch of friends but I did at least have my sisters, my brother, my parents, my best friend and a few close buddies. I fell off with mostly everyone and I have been desperately trying to hold on to my best friend. I try to keep her interested in me by doing things like paying for us to gout to eat, go to movies, asking to hang out often. But tbh she is kind of doing her own thing. She seems like she really couldnt care less about talking to me. Here is some text messages between us so you can decide if she seems as uninterested as I think:
I don't know if Im exaggerating but it just seems like she is really dry with me. And its cool, I love her anyway she just doesn't realize how much I needed our friendship. And I guess I can pretty much say she is gone. So I don't know what to do. I can't talk to anybody anymore and nobody ever reaches out to talk to me. I would be fine with being alone its just that Im not just alone, Im lonely. I haven't had a heartfelt conversation in years, I haven't felt like I had a close friend in who knows how long. I haven't done anything to make new friends because I can't even hold onto the friends and family I do have. I just feel like Im trying harder than I ever have before to make all my relationships work and in the end nobody cares. If I just dont talk to people then they definitely won't try to reach out and talk to me so it won't solve my lonliness. Im really upbeat and fun and try to be lighthearted so that I can be good company but tbh, nobody cares. I don't know what to do.
If I read it, it feels if it drains you. I am in the problem you describe somehow my whole life. And people drain my energy nonstop so I get tired or exhausted. If people drain your energy they want something from you and do not give but in secret want something from you but they never tell you or say it to you. If that is your situation I hope you are able to get out because it never stops by itself. All I can say accept your self as your self. People that drain your energy have no self-esteem and think you must do this or that to belong to society. But you do not need to do that and you do not need to adept. You have to follow your heart and must be able to do what you like but wrong negative people around you can be able you forget what you like so know, what you like is ok. And not wrong. Do not change yourself but get out that situation. The best way is to be among people even you do not like them, so join a club or collect stamps if that allows you to meet other people. Be among people for awhile and you see you find earlier a way to get out your situation. If you do not, you might get stuck in it forever and you deserve better. They wait till you get emotional and lonely and hope they get you where they want you to be but is not what you want of course but they.
I think many of us have been where you are now. I know I have and totally understand the feeling. IT SUCKS! I joined the gym and also bought some Groupons to try out other stuff like cooking, painting, yoga etc. It helps to focus on yourself. Also if you're up for an adventure, I suggest traveling. Just Google places for solo travelers and you'll get tons of info on places that you can enjoy exploring on your own.
Ypu are trying too hard. Friends change because they have different paths. It is normal. We also have less friends with age. Try going some place that fits your interests, there its easier to find like minded people. Also we distance ourselves feom family. That is normal.
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I never tried to make friends all the friends came to me. All the friends I ever made reached out to me first. I don't know how to make them all I tried to do was keep them once I got to this lonely point when I realized that I didn't hardly have anyone and now more than ever is when I need people. All I need is just one person who won't give up on me and it will solve it all. Just one person
No. Your only trying to be my friend out of pity. I cried about it, and now Im over it. I mean not over it but I tucked the feelings back into the crevice of my whil, I feel better now that I let it out even if nobody was there to listen I still let it all out, and hopefully I won't get overwhelmed with emotions again for a while. Thanks for the offer though that was a nice thing to try to do for me.
Okay, I took an interest to know someone. It's not pity, don't insult me. Secondly, there were a lot of people listening to you, so don't say, nobody was there to listen.
Im not insulting you. If you ACTUALLY took an interest in getting to know me then Im not used to that at all so I just didn't believe it was true. And anyway I appreciate all the advice and supportive comments from on here but I can't cry to any of you and I didn't ask for what looks like pity to me. I wanted advice on how to make friends and I didn't mean to come across as seeking pity or for anybody to be my friend just because I dobt have any irl. But I cried and i feel better and Im ready to squah it, toughen up and put it aside like I always do. Thats all I was saying.
Now you know it was true. Sure you can cry to someone here, you just don't want too. I already said it's not pity. Why don't you want to know each other? Its an anonimius space here. We can chat to heart's content. If you feel like you don't want to talk anymore you are allowed just to take off. What are you losing? If its advice you want, yiu have to give more information for advice to be meaningful.
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