Girls, Spankings/Disciplining: Survey for anyone who was spanked growing up? (Page 4)

[SherbertKay]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Depends on the child honestly.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Rarely. I was an angel 😇 My brother was spanked a lot though.
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? No, I don't remember ever being spanked by anybody else. My dad disciplined us bc my mom was never around.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? If we lied about something important to my dad, we got spanked or if we got physical with our siblings.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Absolutely. But not so much for my brother, he just got angrier.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Depends on how bad. Usually we just stood up or up against a bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I don't remember. I think I was like 8 and I had lied about flipping off my bus driver 😂
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Tingly and painful.
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? The belt.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? For me, it was always clothed. If we really really screwed up it was bare but I never had it bare.
11) Did you cry every time? Yeah, I get really guilty.
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Both. definitely both.
Was there any other emotion you felt? A little anger I guess.

[SherbertKay]

1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? If I did it again.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? My dad really only had to tell me he was disappointed and I would cry and feel bad.
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I think it is effective for certain kids, I don't think it was necessary for me but for my brother it was the only way. He didn't listen to threats, he required action.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? For my brother definitely. He ran away bc of it. For me, not so much, it was just a learning tool.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? It would be a last resort. I would probably not be so harsh and angry about it.

[MemeSupreme]

1) It can be if done right.
2) Spanking would be an understatement and very often.
3) Mainly my step-dad.
4) If I even slightly pissed them off.
5) No, because I didn't fully understand because it seemed anything I did made my step-dad angry.
6) He'd put me where ever he felt like it.
7) Don't remember, but they don't spank me anymore. They route more to kicking/punching and other shit now days.
8 ) Hurt like hell.
9) My step-dad used his hand, but my mom used a belt because it'd hurt her hand to use her hand.
10) Over the clothes.
11) Still do.
12) Painful
13) If I stopped doing something they disliked or not as much, I don't know.
14) Spanking did happen if it was little, but if I had really ticked them off they would sometimes lock me in the fucking closet, kick/punch, and if I cried the asshole would be constantly keep yelling at me to shut up until I stopped. Even that was too much for my mother.
15) In my experience it was abuse because he wouldn't just spank at times he actually would kick or punch me and still does.
16) Well when you abuse your kid it's bound for that kid to hate his/her parents.
17) I'd spank them until around the age I don't have to anymore and I can take certain things away from them, but I would never go to the extent of my psychotic parents.

They're the reason why I'm so fucked in the head today and that's why I despise them. They're just so selfish and manipulative it's not even funny. I'm not calling child services for multiple reasons though, but yeah life is a pain the ass.

[Nicolio]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? At times, but I don't think they should be the go to.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Often enough to be afraid of them, but it wasn't like an everyday occurance.
3. Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? I lived with my mom, so she was the only one.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Well, this is completely from my view and my mom didn't know. My older sister would often hurt me verbally or physically when I was young, so I'd get really mean when I got fed up. One time, I think I told her something like "At least my dad cares enough to pay child support." Or something like that. I think I was 7 or so. My mom pulled me out of my bath and hit me with a belt.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? For the time, yes. As I said, I got fed up often with my older sister, but I didn't tell on her and she only told on what I did.. so I'd get in trouble often for that. I was afraid of spanking, but I also get fed up a great deal.
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Spot I was standing.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? I don't even remember. At like age 10 or 11.. I became a completely different child. My grandfather died and I just internalized everything. Didn't really get into big trouble after that.
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Sometimes belts, sometimes hands.
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Depends on what I did.

[Nicolio]

11) Did you cry every time? I think so
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Painful. I just felt very small and hopeless.
13 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't think they did know, honestly.
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? That was pretty much it. Not much communication went on..
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? It's only abuse if you hurt them badly and you're doing in with the intent to hurt them. Often, just a tap on the butt with get a kid scared. I think that if talking and grounding fails, perhaps it should be used.
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[Nicolio]

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? Oooh, that wasn't what led to the trust issues.. no, not at all. It was other things.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Yes, but I would also make sure to COMMUNICATE with my child. Have a blunt speaking and honest relationship and let them know they can tell me how they feel and that I will openly tell them what i fe

[Nicolio]

Oh wait, no, sometimes, I got put in the corner.

[Nicolio]

*I feel

[swtgrl91]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Often

3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My dad & no

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? When I was suspended from school, doing something deliberately trying to piss them off

5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Hell yea

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? On the spot

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? Like 10 & I threw a shoe at my dad

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Stinging feeling

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Dad used a belt once

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Over clothes

11) Did you cry every time? Not every time

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Painful and mad

13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I never did what I got spanked for again

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Grounding, time outs, take things, etc.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? As long as ur not using a lot of force or leaving marks I think its OK and necessary.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Yes & no

[BritishGeisha]

1) Sometimes, depends on scenario and if it's REALLY, ABSOLUTELY necessary.(something major)
2) Rarely, onlh if we did something really, really bad.
3) Mum did most of the disciplining but Dad mostly spanked us. (Both parents would, but mainly my dad, because he was brought up the old fashioned way.)
4) Something really bad, or not doing as told after being told MANY times. Anything that would endanger us if we wouldn't stop doing it etc.
5) Yes.
6) I can't really remember but I think at least mostly Standing.
7) Can't really remember 7-9 ish.
8) A little bit stingy, but not for to long.
9) No, but my dad did threaten my sister with his shoe once when she was being VERY, VERY naughty! (It was only a soft Croc, it would have hurt less then his hand😂)
10) Over clothes.
11) I don't know, maybe.
12) Sad, we were only ever spanked/smacked if we did something really bad, so I always felt like I'd let them down.
13) I don't know, when we stopped?
14) Naughty step, start chart when we were young.
15) If the child is being really REALLY naughty, I don't see much problem with a firm slap, as long as it's NOT TO HARD (I was NEVER badly injured from it, so I don't see it as that bad) if the child does something minor, I see it as a much bigger problem.
For example my brother when he was 5ish kept running into the road, my parents would say no, they shout, then tried to reward charts, nothing worked, so one day after we nearly got hit my dad spanked him, and he only did it one more time, after which he got another spank and he never did it again.
16) No, not really. If I was spanked I did something pretty major.
17) If they did something terrible, or had REALLY badly behaviour then yes, but never to the point of leaving a bruise.

[Plush_Mari]

1. Somewhat. If you do it to much it could leave a mental scar in the future.
2. Like once. I stayed out of trouble. Though in my house we have Mr. Smart Stick. It was a wooden tennis racket, and you get hit once on your tosh and get a time out.
3. My grandparents, well more so my grandma. My mom and grandpa work mostly
4. Being rude, and doing something bad basically.
5. Yes. I hated the times out after. I could be coloring or playing legos in this time!
6. No. We just stood.
7. Like 4. I was pretty sure I drawed on a wall.
8. Can't remember.
9. Like I said, Mr. Smart Stick
10. Over clothing.
11. The first time, yeah, but it only happened twice after that.
12. Can't remember.
13. When I didn't do it again.
14. Time outs, not being able to go somewhere, no dessert, no TV, stuff like that.
15. I think that its abusive if you do it for a stupid reason, to often, and way to hard.
16. No, I know they were trying to break me out of bad habits.
17. I was raised right when I was younger, so probably. Though there will probably always be a time-out.

[qupid911]

1) To an extent. Communication and no yelling should always be first.
2) Not a lot. As long as I did what I was told I was good. Unless my mom was under the influence of alcohol then it was more often
3) Mom and dad. I fucked up real bad one time and got one my my aunt, and grandma as well
4) Being disrespectful, getting into major trouble at school, talking back too much, touching stuff/throwing a fit in the store and some other stuff I can't think of
5) Heck yea. For the time being anyways. I'd do it again a few weeks later
6) Bend over the bed, rarely on the spot or knee. The only it was on the spot is if I was acting up in the store
7) Talking back. I have a bad mouth. I don't remember how old I was, maybe 16, 17
8 ) Fire and tingles
9) Hand, belt, board, shoe, spoon and paddle (which my dad broke lol). Mom kicked me against the bed once
10) Clothes on
11) Yea. Except for my aunt, her hits don't hurt I had to fake cry😂😂
12) Painful. Embarrassing if others were there
13) They just knew
14) Taking away toys, phone, curfew, outing privileges and birthdays
15) It's still necessary. Especially with this generation (my little brother)
16) If it was unnecessary spanks then yes
17) Nope. Beat that ass just not excessively

[MissMonstaz]

1) Yes, but it should be used as last resort
2) I was spanked often
3) My dad did the discipline in my house. And no, only got spanked by my parents.
4) Getting in trouble at school, not listening to them, being disrespectful, hurting my siblings
5) It was effective, yes.
6) They would spank me on the spot while I was standing.
7) Got my last spanking at 10 years old and I just cried.
8 ) Felt a bit sore.
9) Ya, my parents used a belt and sandals, not just their hand.
10) It was always done over my clothes.
11) Yes, I cried every time
12) It was painful but only embarrassing if my siblings were watching me. I was also angry cause I hated spankings even though I knew I deserved them.
13) I would apologize to them and tell them what I've done was wrong and that I won't do it again.
14) Sending me to my room, confiscating my games/toys, not letting me go out with friends
15) I think spanking should be used as a last resort. I don't think it is abuse unless you leave bruises and the kid starts to bleed. but I do believe it was necessary discipline at times.
16) No, never. I knew my parents were doing that to teach me to be a respectful person. I love my parents and I believe that without the spanking, I wouldn't be as far as I am today and be the respectful person that I am.
17) When I'll have children, I will only use it as a last resort. But, I will not be using any objects like my parents did. Only my hands.

[nevermoregirl7]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes, if not abused.
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? I don't really remember. I would like to say rarely.
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Mostly my dad, though my mom did sometimes spank me.
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?
Talking back, lying, or being disrespectful.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?
Yes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Over the knee
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? maybe 9
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?
11) Did you cry every time? Yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? Painful
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? Not sure
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? time out or going to my room
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? No, I felt it was only punishment for bad behavior
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? No.
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I would spank them if they were being disrespectful or bad. I wouldn't yell at them like my dad did. I think the yelling did more damage than the spanking.

[thesongwentonforever]

1) Yes; whatever I got spanked for, I did no more. Doesn't make it ideal, though.
2) Rarely as a small child, a lot when I was old enough to feel humiliated
3) My dad. And no.
4) Dumb-ass stuff. I probably wouldn't be so resentful towards spanking if my spankings were reasonable; getting my hair wet and messing up my $60 perm, "not taking care of myself", sometimes for no real reason/I was framed, once for saying that I had no money when a family member gave me money and told me not to tell him.
5) I kept my hair relaxer maintained (but cut it all off as soon as I started college), never lied to him about finances and was the "perfect kid"... to his face. Anywhere else, like school, extremely shy and insecure and obsessed with perfection. So if that's the goal, there you go.
6) Wherever I was standing
7) 9th grade!!! I spent the night at a friend's and forgot to wrap my hair to maintain the style.
8 ) I don't know why you ask but it hurt a lot and not just my butt but legs/lower back, too. Once I got a bruise. A few times I self-harmed. A lot of times I self-harmed.
9) Always a leather belt
10) Always clothes on
11) Yes
12) Both; trust issues. I won't even tell him about simple things, like little simple college stories (I say that college is good and that's literally it)
13) I was "perfect" or whatever
14) Taking away my phone, threatening to cut my long hair (ha!)
15) I find spanking okay but cool down before you do it, keep it at the child's butt, and don't do it over trivial things/attempt to "perfect" the child.
16) Yes.
17) I probably won't spank my kids; but if I ever do, it'll be rare/not a damn whipping.

This brought back a lot of feelings and I never talked about this with anyone, but I wish I'd answer this survey earlier.

[thesongwentonforever]

14) forgot to add, one "punishment" he called me into the living room and held me by the throat and scowled at me. No reason. His girlfriend at the time just sat and watched.

[vonasaurus]

well, i was spanked as a kid and i turned out just fine so.

1) yes, though they should be reserved for only the most serious offenses.
2) rarely, because i learned not to repeat the behaviour after the first offense.
3) usually mom, but sometimes dad too if i did something really awful;
4) only serious stuff, like if i hurt someone;
5) oh yes, most definitely effective; feel the sting once, you never want to again.
6) where i was standing;
7) was probably 14 or so~ i don't remember what i did;
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?
9) usually an object (mom used a wooden spoon when i was little); the hand was only used if there was nothing nearby to grab.
10) clothes
11) sometimes; as i got older, i figured that giving them a reaction would only make it worse.
12) mostly just physical pain.
13) good question lol
14) well, i once slammed the door and dad took it off its hinges; i had to get dressed in the bathroom every morning for months. that, and i had to clean toilets after failing a math test.
15) it's not abuse, though it definitely shouldn't be used liberally; as i mentioned earlier, it should be reserved for only the most severe offenses.
16) nah, my parents and i get along perfectly fine; i'm glad they disciplined me, since i didn't grow up to be an entitled brat.
17) i'm not having kids. but, if i did, hell yeah i'd spank them... but only as a last resort. i don't believe that violence should be used to solve domestic disputes, though there are exceptions when it comes to teaching your kids not to be little shits.

[19magic]

1) In moderation and at certain times, doing it too often will lose its effect.
2) It was quite rare by my dad whereas my mother did it weekly
3 ) I don't think I did, just my parents.
4) It was either when I shouted something that was uncalled for, swearing, answering back.
5) yep, I stopped cried and then was sullen cus I realised what I did was wrong.
6) On the spot while standing.
7) I think I was 12 and I said that my stepma wasn't my real mother so why do I have to listen to her, and that she was just some woman or something along those lines.
8 ) It'll hurt for a bit but never till the next day, and never got a bruise from it.
9) dad was just with his hand, while my mother used belts and her hands.
10) over clothes
11) pretty much
12) hurt, upset, regretful, disappointed in myself, and sad that I disappointed my dad
13 ) I'd stop whatever I was doing and if not my consoles were taken away and I had to sit watching soaps.
14) the other ones were go to bed early, no desserts, no sweets/chocolates, or get to stay up longer (if good), the naughty step (for 5-10 mins completely silent and no moving off), my mother has dragged me by the hair and washed my mouth out, sometimes she'd make me eat some of it too.
15) the belt or objects is unnecessary however a slap now and again is a useful punishment it brings you back into reality and cuts your thoughts into half and make you understand why something is wrong.
16) nope
17) My mother is a nutcase so I'd never do anything what she did to me, but all the punishments by dad was reasonable.

[19magic]

dad used to just give me a hiding while my mother used to hit me a few times with her hand or belt

[Razp_Sorbet]

1. Absolutely not. It just makes the kid afraid of you doesn't teach them why what they did was wrong. It also makes them more likely to accept abuse as "normal" in future relationships.
2. I was spanked 1 time ever by my dad, he came back a couple min later and apologized to me because of how bad he felt.
3. Both parents did. Nobody was the designated discipliner, that's not a healthy structure.
4. I think the one time I was spanked I just wouldn't stop throwing a tantrum. (I was really bad with temper tantrums)
5. No
6. I was kicking and screaming on my bed because I had been sent to my room and my dad rolled me over and smacked my bottom 7. I would have been about 68. Sore. Made me scream and cry more9. Just hand10. Over clothes11. Yes I cried12. Fear, pain, sadness13. They knew I didn't. They knew it wasn't an ok thing to do.14. Talk to me, send me to my room, take toys away.15. It's always abuse16. Yes definitely amongst an array of other issues.17. No I will never.

[frerardsprincess]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? No I don’t think hitting or hurting your children physically in any way is a good idea
2) How often were you spanked growing up? Never
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? I only live by my mother so it was always her that would decide how to react to my actions
4-13) N/A
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Usually just a talking to since I was a pretty sensitive child and if my mother told me off I’d usually feel super bad about it and regret it and not do it again. Occasionally I was sent to my room or had phone/computer/toys/going out taken away but that was rare
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I don’t believe it is a good idea and don’t support raising children to believe getting physically beaten for their mistakes
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? If it had happened it probably would of but it didn’t happen so I can’t know for sure
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? I wouldn’t

[AuroraRoseat]

1) No. I feel it breeds resentment than the child learning discipline.
2) Not as often as my brothers. I also got less lickings because I was a girl. The reasons for the spankings were stupid though.
3) Both, but my father spanked me more. No.
4) I stayed up late to do homework (my father spanked me).
I stayed after school without calling home to do extracurricular activities for college (mother spanked me).
I used to wet the bed when I was little (mother spanked me every morning).
Retarded reasons.
5) What I was doing wasn't "wrong". They were just mistakes. When I did do something wrong, I acknowledged it but honestly I can't remember a time when I actually deserved it.
6) It was usually with a belt or a tree limb.
7) I was 14 and that was the extracurricular activity bit I stated in 4.
8) It burned and felt generally unpleasant.
9) Belt and tree limb. Sometimes the cord of curling irons, blow dryers, flatirons etc.
10) Over clothes. My brothers sometimes got bare butt.
11) Yes.
12) Painful and as I got older I found it unnecessary. Disciplinary measures did not need to be taken as I was a good kid. They could have talked it out.
13) Because I didn't do what I was punished for again. But it also breeded resentment.
14) Stupid things. I wasn't allowed to go on a camping trip because I let a friend have my cell phone over a weekend (mother).
Whenever we were too sick to go to church, we were tasked with cleaning the whole house (father).
15) I don't feel spanking is necessary. A tap on the bottom for a small child for reasons when they're acting out, sure. But once they get older, there are more effective methods.
16) For me, it just let me know how uneducated and ill-effective at parenting they are.
17) I agree.

[phhla]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? yes
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? my mom only
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? being disobedient
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? sometimes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? tried to
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 12 talked to an older guy
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? sore
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? objects and hands
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? both
11) Did you cry every time? hell yeah
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? maddddd
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? nun
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I don't know but im not whooping my kids
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? no

[mupli]

1, I think it can be effective depending on the individuals child at an appropriate level. I know it does back in where I came from in refugee camp. But if I believe it's a good discipline method? Well no, as it can cause a child to wrong message or make them hate parents or make them do worse discipline in their children when they have children.

2, I maybe used to get spanked by stick for being stubborn (by dad only) but it was ages when I was a child. My parents are more of words disciplines they rarely used physical. And no one else do displines on me Cuz I was a good girl I listens to elders.

3, yeah as I said rarely. Maybe only a few times.

4, (sorry English not my first language but I'll try answering to the best I can.) If I understand right, my dad i will say cuz he used to. The reason for disciplines was me being stubborn mostly.

5, yes I think it was effective in my case I tends to listens to him, well my parents more afterwards cuz I don't want to get disciplines. Lol

6, when? It is right on the spot whenever I am.

7, I have said it was ages so I don't remember.

8, it stings and hurt.

9, only with stick.

10, never on bare butt. My parents are not that kind. So it was always over clothes.

11, yeah I think I did eventually cuz sometimes I held back tears.

12, both. Other emotions? Well regretting that I didn't listens to them when they just talks.

13, they just know cuz I would behave differently.

14, um express anger warning signs like shouting. Another is telling me what would happens of the choice I would choose.

15, well I feel it was necessary at that time since I been very stubborn.

16, yes I believe it could leads to those for some people but it definitely not in my case.

17, I would never use physical displines. Cuz too many cause of anger and haters than children will learnt lesson. But definitely the method of telling them what would happens in their lives if they chose spectacular choices.

That's how it was for me.

[michellebrown48]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? hell no
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? often ish
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? both and no
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? everything. whenever they were mad
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? nopeeeeeee
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? i'd run away and they would chase me
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? couple months ago
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? wasn't just my ass it was anywhere they could manage to hit
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? object. belts, sticks, chairs
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? over clothes because it is always sudden and i always run away
11) Did you cry every time? yep
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? both. suicidal
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? i didn't
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? threats, taking away my shit
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? it was abuse.
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? i fucking hate them
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? never, ever.

[MlleCake]

1) Nope
2) I was hit, beaten, punched, pinched, kicked down the basement steps and left to lie there with a concussion (hearing on rt side permanently damaged) - very frequently until age ten.
3) My parents, and only them.
4) Whatever they felt like. The common denominator was them being angry.
5) Half the time I never knew. Once it was for asking if my dad could hand me a spoon.
6) It was never that formal.
7) At ten my mother beat me with a section of garden hose. No idea what my infraction was.
8 ) It was rarely the butt.
9) One time it was a slide rule off my father's desk. Go google what a slide rule is.
10) Whatever, wherever, often it was my belly or a punch in the ribs.
11) I only cried until I was four. After that I sucked it up. It infuriated them.
12) I suffered dissociative episodes, and sometimes went out of my body, so I don't really remember how it felt.
13) What lesson? The lesson where I learned how to be a stone cold bitch?
14) Hours of lectures, yelling, and what not.
15) It's the kind of sin that you can't be forgiven for.
16) No issues. They aren't trustworthy, and they deserve any anger that comes their way.
17) I never once had to. Not even once.

[SarahsSummer]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? no
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? never
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? disciplined by both parents. never spanked, but often threatened to spank
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? talking back
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? The threat of a spanking was effective
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? N/A
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 27, asked for more
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? stingy
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? N/A
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? bare or clothed
11) Did you cry every time? N/A
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? turned on, excited
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I was a well behaved ckid
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? grounding, taking away certain privledges
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? I dont think parents should put their hands on their kids
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? N/A
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Probably the same as my parents methods

[angelgirl7]

1) Yes and no.
2) Often.
3) My dad, mainly. My mom didn't like to hit or yell at me.
4) I was a pretty good kid so it was usually disrespecting them/my attitude that got me in trouble.
5) No.
6) When I was really little my dad would make me go over his knee but as I got older he would just beat me where I stood.
7) It's been years... definitely before the age of 13. Not sure what it was for but probably talking back.
8 ) Sore.
9) I don't ever remember an object other than a hand.
10) Usually over clothes though I think when I was very young it was bare butt.
11) Yes.
12) Both.
13) I don't know that I did learn my lesson.
14) Grounding, taking toys away, time out.
15) It depends on what it's for, how often, and how severe the spanking is but for the most part I think it's abusive.
16) Absolutely.
17) I personally don't think I could lay a hand on my children, even as a last resort.

In my opinion, spankings are an old fashioned way to discipline your children. I'm sure a swat once in awhile may be effective to teach a child a lesson but my father would straight up beat me. For whatever reason, it did nothing to teach me a lesson. All it did was cause me to fear him.
I think communicating is a far better way to work things out. Most of the time my parents not listening to me was the reason I would lash out and get beat in the first place. Communication is important to understand why the child is doing what they are doing and to help them understand why it is wrong.

[born_princess]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? Yes but it's not the only way
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often
😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? My Dad and Nop
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? They only shouted me but never hit me but once it happened for disrespecting my neighbour
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Nop
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Go over there knee
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 7 as I got good grades after that
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Sore
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Only hands
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Bare butt and with clothes too
11) Did you cry every time? Nop
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? I was both painful and embarrassed and angry too
1😌 How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I quit all my mischief
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? Taking away my things and cleaning
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? It was necessary for me
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? Nop

[jennyem]

Thanks for answering so honestly @born_princess , i actually really agree with most of your opinions and was disciplined pretty much exactly the same way lol. have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did (eg for shouting at you). Follow me back, would be great if we could just message separately too! thanks xoxo

[born_princess]

thanks dear @jennyem... Yaa I have spoken about this to them and there was nothing I wouldn't approve as I have done wrong... Punishment should be done

[Decemberbaby86]

I don't feel like answering every question so I will answer a few. Yes, I was spanked growing up. My mom and my aunt had wooden paddles. I did not feel abused. The only thing I got from it was to respect my elders and not do what I did again. I can't remember how old I was when I was last spanked but I do remember the moment. Can't remember what I did. I didn't get spanked often bc I didn't want to get spanked so I listened. Other punishments that I got after I was too old to be spanked was standing face to the wall with my arms in the air like a T. My parents did that if I wasn't in bed when I was supposed to be or when I talked back or fought with my brother. Let's say I was ready for bed after that. When I snuck out, my parents grounded me and made me look up missing girls and their stories and I had to write an essay about what I learned from it and how I put myself in danger. I do have a child and I did spank him when needed. He will be ten next month so he's too old now. Now I resort to the standing against the wall like I did (on had to do once) and taking away his Xbox, friends and tv. He's a good kid, so I didn't have to spank him much when he was little. I believe in spankings when needed. Depends on what was said or done as to what kind of punishment I give. My sister never spanked her kids or really stuck to any punishment. In turn, her kids run the house and have no sense of responsibility or resect for authority. Every parent has different ways of punishment. Whatever works.

[blueprincess4177]

1. Yes but i also believe in a strong sturn talking to
2. 3 times maybe 4 times a week
3. my mom, my dad and my grandpa
4. bad grades, smoking, cursing (i would even get my mouth washed out with soap), being disrespectful, etc.
5. at the moment no i would just get more pissed off but over time it molded me into a very laid back chill disciplined adult
6. spanked me with a belt, spanked me with a leash, spanked me with a switch that i had to pick off the tree, I've been spanked on the spot, bed, knee, on the floor, wherever i was they decided i need an spanking thats where i got it
7. 16 and I don't know its been to long
8. stung like a mofo
9. like i said before belt, switch, hand never worked, paddle, leash, a shoe, a flip flop, etc.
10. when i was younger bare ass but when i got older pants on
11. nope
12. no it just pissed me off
13. whenever everyone would calm down
14. spanking and a sturn talking to
15. naw i spank my child when he acts up because he quickly corrects his actions and does the right thing
and yeah it was defiantly abuse at times...
16. nah me and my dad fight all the time but that not why i dont like him its because he has other issues like being a compulsive liar (same for my mom sadly ,_,) so that has a pretty big part in why i have trust with them..
17. i have a kid now and as a parent yes i spank my child.. and yes i give a reasoning of why im spanking him and then spank him
my parents just spanked away

[jennyem]

hey, thanks for answering so honestly. i was raised pretty much the same way. have you ever spoken to your parents about it since you've been older to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did? Follow me back, would be great if we could just message separately too. thanks xoxo

[blueprincess4177]

yes i have, and they know understand now it was wrong. but yes we should :) ill message you in just a sec

[Kibbity_Kabbit]

1) Yes, I believe it is. When used as needed, of course.
2) Rarely, my parents said I was a rather quiet & well-behaved child. Both my brother & I actually.
3) My dad was the spanker, my mom said she couldn't handle the emotional part of it. Other than daddy, our grandparents did the spanking.
4) They used it as a last resort if we were just not listening to them at all. Like during major temper tantrums.
5) Absolutely! It got my attention every time & I was too scared to do anything else at the moment after.
6) They would pop my leg or bottom while I was standing. It never hurt, it just got my attention. I knew they meant business then.
7) I was probably 6-7, most likely I was acting very bratty & whiny.
8 ) Just tingly, from being swatted at. Like other sensations happening when your skin is bothered/touched. Similar to the faintness of itching.
9) I got spanked with hands, belts, & paddles. But again, it never really hurt.
10) Over clothes, unless I was running around naked prior. I did that a lot as a child.
11) Yes, because I was scared & I knew I was in even more trouble.
12) There were feelings of embarrassment, but mostly it was sadness & fear of being in trouble.
13) When I said I was sorry & didn't act that way for the rest of the day.
14) Time-outs were used rather often & taking away a favorite toy.
15) If it doesn't leave bruises or actually hurt, then I don't feel it's abuse at all. I feel it is only necessary when a child is absolutely uncontrollable though.
16) Not at all, I still have a very loving relationship with my family. It may have become a sexual fetish though as I grew up, I do favor it during foreplay with my partners. But that's another discussion.
17) As I've stated multiple times, just as a last resort. I feel my parents were very spot on with how they raised my brother & I. They always talk about how proud they are for how we turned out, so I wouldn't say they did anything wrong.

[ElizabethE2004]

Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? No
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? Very often
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Parents
Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? Brother when parents weren’t around
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? Lying, Bad grades etc.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? Sometimes
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? Make me strip and lay spread out on the bed.
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16 (present
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? Burning Fire
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? Sometimes used ping pong paddle
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? Bare
11) Did you cry every time? almost
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? both
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? vaginal and breast spanks, standing naked in the corner
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? abuse and still is
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? No I would not

[Harleyonfire]

1. No.
2. Actually on the butt spanked? Only once that I remember.
3. My dad
Its a long story and a really dumb one but here goes.

In 6th grade there was the most awful, mean, distusting bitch that ever existed, and her name was Rachella. She bullied me from the first day I started school that year and also got into a fight with one of my friends and hurt her pretty bad. She pulled out a chunk of my friends hair and after she got back from being suspended she bragged about it for a long time too. Basically we're talking about pure fucking evil ok? What does this have to do with me getting spanked? Well one day she decided to come over next to my house where me and my friends hung out and and start shit again. We werent at school, and had had it so we got into a fight right there. I scratched her face really bad and she bled under her eye and ran home crying.

I told my dad what happened and about an hour later Rachellas mom shows up outside. My dad talked to her for a while and then he told me to apologize... and I said no and ran back inside. Later we still argued and I still refused to say I was sorry.

That's what got me spanked. Its the only time I've been legit spanked, though I vaguely remember some things from my first home and the orphanage. That wasn't spanking though.

It kinda hurt, not really that bad though. Mostly I was just scared and sad that id made him get that mad at me. I love my dad, and the way he looked at me after was like he was dissapointed and that's why I cried for a long LONG time after.

He left me in my room, but he didn't make me apologize to rachelle after that. I think he guessed that she really was as mean as I told him after he had to deal with her mom.

Anyway that's my embarrassing story. Hope it answers the rest of your questions.

[kaskas19]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline?
Sometimes, yes. Not always though.

2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)?

Very often. Almost everyday.

😌 Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents?

My dad and his wife. Yes.

4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking?

Any and all sorts of disrespect/acting up.
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong?

Yes

6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing?

My dad made me bend over out coffee table. His wife would take my to the bathroom and bend me over the toilet. Sometimes if they were impatient they would do it while I was standing.

7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do?

7? And I don't remember.

8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking?

It burned like shit.

9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand?

A belt, a wooden spoon, a shoe, a metal spoon

[kaskas19]

10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes?

Usually on my bare butt. But if they were impatient, just over clothes.

11) Did you cry every time?

I eventually stopped crying.

12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt?

Both. I was embarrassed, humiliated, angry and upset. But yeah it was painful as hell.

[kaskas19]

15 ) How did your parents know you learned your lesson?

Until I was sobbing and begging them to stop.

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[kaskas19]

14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you?

Locking me in a room. Putting me in a corner. Screaming at me.

15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline?

I don't know. I do view spanking as a last resort though. Too many kids that weren't spanked are spoiled and are extremely disrespectful, concieted, and go out of their way to make people feel like shit, or get into trouble.

16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents?

Not with my dad. My dad and I gave always been close. His wife on the other hand? Can't stand her.

17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents?

I would definitley use it as a last resort. Probably less yelling

[jasmyne2019]

1) Do you believe spankings are an effective form of discipline? no
2) How often were you spanked growing up (rarely, often or very often)? rarely
3) Who did the discipline in your house? Did you ever get spanked by anyone other than your parents? both of my parents and no
4) What offences did your parents consider deserving of a spanking? sneaking out, talking to guy they told you not to
5) Was it effective in making you stop doing whatever you were doing wrong? no it makes you rebel more
6) When your parents spanked you would they make you go over their knee or bend over a bed etc, or would it just spank on the spot while you were standing? just stand there
7) What age did you get your last spanking and what did you do? 16 i cover for my sister for sneaking out
8 ) What did your butt feel like after a spanking? it hurt
9) Did your parents ever use an object to discipline you or was it just with their hand? hand, belt
10) When you were spanked, was it done on the bare butt or over your clothes? clothes
11) Did you cry every time? hell yes
12) Did you find getting spanked embarrassing or painful, or both? Was there any other emotion you felt? painful
13) How did your parents know you learned your lesson? I don't know
14) What other discipline methods did your parents use on you? yelling, grounding
15) Now that you're older, what is your opinion on the use of spanking as a last resort? Do you feel it was abuse or at times necessary discipline? i feel every situation is different but i would try to not to spank at all
16) Do you believe that spanking may have led to anger and/or trust issues with your parents? yes
17) If you have children would you spank them as a last resort? If so, is there anything you would do differently compared to your parents? probably not because that causes kids to rebel against their parents and cause a bad relationship with parents

[GarysSexyInjunGirl]

1) No because it only makes kids rebel more. I did at least
2) Often
3) My step dads usually. My mother rarely and sometimes grandmother
4) Pretty much anything.
5) No because I rebelled more to teach them a lesson. Lol stupid but true
6) I was just forced to pick out a switch and I got beat with that
7) I don't remember
8 ) A little sore
9) Like I said a switch lol
10) Depending on their mood it could go either way
11) Not really. I just called them names like "Abusive son of a bitch". It simply made me angrier.
12) I got angery
13) I didn't. They learned it was better to just ground me from something I loved.
14) Grounding
15) I'd never do it. It only causes future problems for kids. Like my brothers all have a lot of anger problems.
16) Yes with my step dads. I hate them. My mother rarely did it so I love her very much
17) No. I want their but once and put them in time out or bed. They hate it. When they are older just ground them.

I have the same opinion on yelling. It shouldn't be done. I try my best to never yell although sometimes it's extremely difficult.

Hope this helps.