Were you spanked as a kid, and did it affect you positively or negatively?

[llorando]

Yes Positively

Yes Negatively

No

[Vesuvius87]

I was spanked seldom times from ages 4-8 by my father (not mother, she never hit me but was a yeller sometimes; that's still not good). Afterwards, it was either getting yelled harshly or getting threatened with the belt. I hated it and still find no gratitute in that.

Even though I'm now happily married with a nearly 11 month-old son, I do not thank the spanking for that. There is nothing to be thankful about getting hit. No one deserves getting hit.

All I see is an adult with poor communicating abilities, awful parenting skills and clueless on how to establish authority without using fear-based compliance and obedience. Yes it does gets the immediate resulted you wanted (total submissive and fear confused for respect) but at what cost? It's useless in the long-run.

[RandomGirl42]

I got a qwik swat from grammie's or mom's wooden spoon on my backside (never hard) a few times and it taught me boundaries or lessons that I was too young to understand otherwise. I dont remember dad ever actually spanking any of us but the threat was there and kept us in line sometimes. I feel it taught me positive lessons even if I didn't see them at the time.

[molonski2]

Anybody who is abused in such a way is affected negatively , they may not be smart enough to understand that but they were abused and taught that completely unbalanced violence is a solution.

The old " it didn't do me any harm " or " I deserved it , taught me a lesson " is complete fantasy and bs.

It was abuse and it did you a great deal of harm.

[Vesuvius87]

Exactly. Hitting is hitting. Even if it doesn't leave marks nor done often, it was still assault and humiliating.

[molonski2]

Absolutely assault and in creates violent adults , if I walked out now and punched a 10 year old kid , they'd lock me up , and rightly so..

It's a complete imbalance of power and is soul destroying " So that'll teach you " will teach nothing except to control others with violence.

Look what happened to all the kids in " reform " school in the 60s - 70s all went on to be criminals and thugs.
It's extreme unbalanced violence.

[Chazmatazz269]

I was spanked. I have a healthy respect for rules and an understanding of negative consequences for bad choices.
I have a lot of experience working with kids of all ages. The vast majority of kids without that kind of discipline are uncontrollable entitled brats.

[Telekinetic-Potato]

I learned about misunderstandings when I was acting up as a kid. I was probably pushing everyone's buttons all day. But when we got to the church, I asked my dad if the guy on the cross was the same Jesus and another question that to him probably sounded like "why are we here?"

I got the holy asswhooping in the entrance where the organ pipes were the loudist. 😂 He told me not to disturb the prayers of others so I was holding my breath because I was kind of a pussy back then.

Aristotle believed if you had a good thought then a true friend would hurt you so you remember.

[FunkyMonkee]

Yes, quite often and mostly for reasons that either weren't my fault or where I WASN'T the guilty party and deserving of the spanking!! I even got a few in my early school years with a wooden paddle!! Mr. Witmus would take me into the closet room and wail away on my ass!! He was the math teacher and reminded me a LOT of Shemp Howard with glasses.

[Apulu_backagain]

Yes and negatively but it wasn't a lot, after first few times my mom felt bad for doing it so she stopped. My dad only slapped me once.

[douride2]

I remember my mother spanking me. I turned out pretty good.

[exitseven]

My father spanked me once. I think it made him upset and he never did it again.

[Finchie40]

Spanked? More like punched , it taught me to punch back and defend myself

[sage2021]

I was never spanked although I did deserve a good spanking every once in a while.🙂

[Vesuvius87]

Good to hear you never had to experience humiliation. Nope, no one deserves getting hit.

[LC75LC71]

I'd laugh at my mom's spankings. Dad would lay them in.. I still remember my stepmom yelling Jim! (My parents divorced in 1983) and I would run in fear! Taught my ass not to fuck around!

[AngryCarl3]

Only once, and no it didn't affect me. It turns out spanking isn't a good treatment for severe mental illness.

[Jeff51]

I've been spanked before. Didn't feel good at all. I turned out pretty good.

[Anonymous]

Yes I was, and I didn't like it. I wasn't even a naughty kid... they mostly blamed me for things my brother did.

[najekim]

A few times. It can be the quickest path to the mind not to do something bad again.

[888theGreat]

yep and all my brothers and none of us were ever arrested and turned out great.

[123459876]

Yes a few times and I can't say it was negative because I still enjoy it as an adult

[Anonymous]

Of course I was spanked! Thats pretty common at least in the South...

[foxsquirrell]

I don't eat on the same table with my father. I would never hurt my own children, but if you are a bone head, a low IQ savage then probably you will.

[Staff2002]

It’s yes cause it showed me all I had to do get my way is to bully someone. I was a bully in middle school.

[NathanDavis]

not really, no

[Abbycado]

Nope, I was not.