Extremely rare occurrence for my parents to spank me growing up, it was only punishment set aside for one specific Type of disobedience to my parents; open defiance. As in, where a child is verbally reprimanded then the child chooses to defy the parent and does what got them into trouble anyway.
In talking to my Mom about it as a teen she told me about a cousin who evidentially was a little hellion. She told me how her cousin then about three or four shad been told and told not to get into his parents car on the street side, yet he continued even when both his mom and dad disciplined him verbally for doing so. Evidentially he ran wide around the back of the car as it was parked on a busy city street right into the path of an oncoming car whose driver had no time to react running him over and killing him instantly.
My Mom remembers how this tore up her whole family for a long time. She remembers the little white casket at the funeral. She and my Dad decided that something so tragic would never happen to one of their children if they could prevent it. They both were/are of the oppinion that the cousin died as the result of a tragic accident, set into motion because of his own defiant action. He had been told multiple times not to do what he did and decided to run around the car anyway right in front of his mother who saw it all happen right before her unbelieving eyes.
My Mom and Dad decided that open defiance was the only valid reason that their kids would receive a spanking. First we would be talked to, making sure we understood what was wrong with the action and why. Then if they determined through that questioning that we understood our actions in defying our parents instructions/rules then and only then was a swat or two delivered. Their instrument of choice was a 70's era 2-1/2 inch wide leather belt that made more noise than it stung!
After my Mom explained why they spanked my brothers and I, it gave me a renewed appreciation for how much my Mom and Dad loved us. It wasn't about instilling dominance in the parent child relationship, it was about instilling obedience, maybe even obedience that could save a child's life.
Being a compliant child I remember only getting a few swats, where I think the worst part of it was that I let my parents down. I know for a fact that the spankings I received were never really hard, never left bruises yet they left an impression on me to not disobey them like that again! Now my brothers, they were both a lot more free spirited and were delt with accordingly!
Now that I'm a parent of two beautiful twin boys, my husband and I will have to decide at some point what our last resort punishment will be. We've talked about it and like the progressive approach where the punishment is fitting to the crime and ramps up depending on the occurrence and level of defiance to the parents instructions and predefined rules. So maybe our two will get a spank when they're old enough to understand right from wrong, maybe they won't.
Never been spanked and never will spank. I think it's lazy parenting.
Yes but with a wooden spoon. It was rarely over respect issues and more over academic issues such as if I forgot to being a graded assignment home. I was also slapped or get my face grabbed for every time I tried to stand up to my mother ever time she belittles me and tells me how much she knows that I will be a massive failure in life. There was even a time when I was belted for working too slow on homework or forgetting to take it back to school or occasionally beaten down like for trying a different approach to a project on my own without my partner knowing and without making any changes to the original project. This was all my mother’s doing.
No I would never do this to my children as I would want them to be able to share everything with me and my future wife without regrets. I will never lay a hand on them nor punish them for making mistakes especially anything that severe. A family never gets along if everyone is scared of even one member.
Yes I was spanked and I will spank my children. Spanking is never meant to harm anyone, it’s a part of the discipline process to snap the child out of a naughty mindset. Often the threat of getting spanks causes a child to change their attitude. If done too often, sparking loses any effect.
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Yes, I got spanked as a young child. Was I ever hurt from said spanking? No. I think PC culture has a bad habit of wanting to consider "spanking" a child the same thing as "beating" a child. "Spanking" is really only useful when you need to get the immediate attention of a young child. Often for their own safety. A 2 year old reaches for a red stove burner. You pull them away and say NO, they cry and get mad. 1 minute later they return to reach for that red hot stove burner. Obviously NO was not enough, But you really need them to understand that is not OK. "Spanking" is not to cause pain. It is simply an unexpected impact that gets a child's attention. Strangely, I recall getting spanked as a young child, but I have no recollection of any pain. In fact, I know that my most common reaction in my memory was to seek a hug from the person who spanked me. I was only ever spank to prevent injury, or if my family member had just told me NO, but I then obviously tested them to see if they were serious. This stopped being effective by time I was 5 years old. Of course by then, I understood simple explanations. At that time, spankings stopped (occasionally threatened as this mythical punishment of yore) and grounding became commonplace. I always hated being grounded, but I understood what is was about. Eventually I was spanked again, but it was in front of my much younger stepsisters. I was basically used as an example of what would happen if you misbehaved for my stepsisters, which was at first so much worse than being grounded, but I eventually figured out I could play it up as something terrible so it would terrify them. Kids are worse than adults.
My mom would spank me with a hairbrush or a wooden spoon as a kid. As a teenager, she’d just straight up swing on me, lmfao.
My dad I don’t think ever touched me. Challenged me to fight as a teenager when I was disrespecting my mom once, but that’s it.
I don’t have kids, none coming, but if I did, I’d probably have some kind of physical discipline. Speaking personally, nothing but the threat of violence can truly keep me honest, I’ve never been the type to take commands from people who aren’t me, which I still stand by at 40. And that little fucker would have my genes and be defiant like me, lmao, I don’t even know how to go about getting the behavior I’d need from them without whupping that ass😂 Don’t get me wrong, I don’t endorse beating kids, I’m talking spanking them hard enough to know you mean it, but not to bruise. My mom had some issues, she shouldn’t have swung at me when I was older, but honestly, I’d punch me for doing half of the shit I did haha. But I’ve witnessed this whole “time out” system in practice, and it’s fucking laughable. Young me would have run roughshod over anyone employing that approach lmfao.
Never. Did get the question why one did it, if I knew what could have happened, the outcome and explained why it might not been a good idea. Bought me to think more about actions.
Did not really have rules. Did not do a lot of bad growing up.
They might say something they would do as punishment, and learned once that they where true to their word after having a fight with my brother in the backseat of the car once.
If we would not stop, they would put us of at the nearest church and we would find our way home.
Did not belive they would be so brutal, so we continued. It became a long walk home.
oh yes, once my dad back slapped me out of a chair. Once my oldest brother threw a pillow at me and I threw it back and he ducked and I broke a lava lamp, and my dad whipped my butt good. My brother caused it and said nothing. When I was very young , I turned the stove on and caught a dish rag on fire. Flames were almost to the ceiling , so I went to tell my dad and he was on the toilet , he never moved so fast in his life. He wanted to kill me and lucky for me my mom came back from where ever she was and would not let him.
I was spanked occasionally as a kid, but I was pretty well-behaved so when I say occasionally I mean like a handful of times. As far as if I’ll spank my own children, I’m undecided. It’s pretty far off into the future for me, so right now I don’t really have to worry about it.
When I raised my little ones, I have smacked hands a few times. But no, never spanked them. And hey. my girls turned out great. My oldest one is raising my grand daughter since she was 15, and my youngest is in prison right now for nearly killing a man. ( She hates men. )
And here I thought you were going to say that spanking your child causes emotional trauama. LOL
Never. My parents made me stand in the corner for 30 minutes, think about what I did wrong and then explain to them why it was wrong. I never experienced any physical violence from my family.
I'm not gonna have kids. If I had to, I would raise them just like my parents raised me.
Yes, by my dad when I did shit I did a lot of mess up shit as a kid for some reason. The one time I remember was when I grab my parent's sugar bowl took and pour it down the couch and my father caught me and spank me for it.
Sure. Sometimes it was a spanking, sometimes I had to sit in a chair in the hallway without moving for an hour. My parents used several methods of discipline, and most of them were effective. It was never gratuitous, they didn't use weapons, and there was always a clear reason for it. I don't plan on having children, so the question of whether I'd be able or willing to hit them is moot. I imagine I would find it very difficult.
Yup, and it taught me nothing about right and wrong, only that the powerful have social approval to abuse the powerless and that the only basis of morality that most people want to consider is fear of power.
Gee, and you wonder why so few people respect government.
Yes. With a belt, hand, or the closest object nearby. Every time I did something "wrong."
Spanking my kids will not be my first disciplinary method. It will be the last one! They really gotta be bad for me to do that.
I find it really strange that people bend their kids over their knees and spank them. No, I was never "spanked". I was slapped around the head/face sometimes. I don't think it's a good thing so I don't do the same to my own kids.
I was brought up by a typical Tiger Mother and Dragon Father.
Spankings weren't part of the culture.
But this definitely was:
It only happened a few times during my childhood. But it would be after many warnings that i wouldn't listen to. My parents regretted too much about doing it afterwards so thats why it was so rare apparently. I wouldn't ever do that to my own kids
I was spanked a few time but my parents would warn me like 3 times before spanking me, I’ll always go things to test their patience and date them! And well I ended up spanked! 😂🤣😂
I was spanked as a kid - I don't remember the spankings cause I was so young - but I remember talking about them - and that is how I know I was spanked.
Nope, never was hit as a child. If I have children, I will never hit them either. To me, that is abuse and I do not and will not stand for it.
I got spanked once as a kid... Right in the ass with a belt... After that I learned to just not get caught lol
My parents didn't believe in hitting as a punishment as they NEVER wanted my brother and I to think that hitting others was okay
I was spanked very often. Sometimes beaten in the head or chest with an open palm.
Occasionally my brother and I got bruises from when my parents forgot to take off their rings before hitting us.
Usually we’d get these bruises on the face.
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