Were You Ever Spanked As A Child?

[Gloree]

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1 y

Nice how the world doesn't accept this anymore. Poor kids. And now adults be doing it to adults. The world. Gosh!

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1 y

For me, I was rarely spanked as I avoided trouble. Other punishments: I was told to sit on the air, pick pin, kneel down for several minutes. It's a serious ordeal. You don't change position until you're released. I will be crying and begging by then. Gosh.

[youngmix]

Yes I was, but only once. I told my dad that I hated him, and he said "Fuck that." Pulled the belt out, held my hand out, and whipped me ounce across the back of my hand.
He didn't hit me hard, but he scared the hell out of me. Looked like he wanted to hit me more, but he stopped and said, "Don't ever say that to me again in your LIFE! I put close on you, feed you, taught you how to wipe your ass, and taught you EVERYTHING you know. Don't ever disrespect me like that again."

I never said that to him ever again.

[Gloree]

Aww. Sorry but I hate when kids say that to their parents

[youngmix]

Oh I agree, I needed that lesson. My dad gave me everything, and put his whole life into shaping me into the best person I could be. He was meticulous about everything we did, and actively tried to give me the best structure and freedom to turn me into a healthy person.

I heard my cousin say it to her drunk of a dad, and I just regurgitated it. I definitely hurt his feelings, and I needed that boundary to be placed. My dad is my best friend, my best teacher, and my best role model. No one compares to him in my life.

But I never even jokingly said that to him ever again, I didn't even say that other people said it to their parents. I respect my dad to the maximum.

[Gloree]

Glad to hear that

[Jessica405]

No. It was never necessary. My brother and I were taught to make our own rules that we thought were fair and reasonable. We rarely broke those rules, but never seriously.

It helped us develop a responsible attitude to our education and that carried through to my working life, my brother being still at uni.

[Gloree]

Awesome

[Jessica405]

Thanks, but doesn't feel anything special to us. Just the way we were brought up by our parents.

[Gloree]

I like it

[Jessica405]

Strange really, I make no secret, on GAG, that I am sub. Now, being spanked as an adult...

[Gloree]

Really? But that's horrible. I mean, I'm still confused about what to do about my boyfriend who shocked me with it today just because of his car that I accidentally ruined. I thought we were moved past it and all was forgiven but he made me cry today, claiming I used emotional blackmail on him and he still feels the need to shake me like never before. I've left to my house. I'm still not talking to him. Not that he bothered to call anyway.

[Jessica405]

Being sub has to be by agreement. I found out I am like that by accident. Seems like you are having a rough time! I don't envy you!

[Gloree]

Yeah. Don't. I may be single soon

[Jessica405]

Just take care and stay safe!

[Gloree]

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Discipline is required if you want kids to grow up not being entitled self absorbed assholes. Sadly not enough parents do it and now we have a society of snowflake adult children who feel everyone should get a prize and that you can make up your own gender.

Also for the snowflakes going to cry about abuse. There is a massive difference between discipline and abuse.

[Subarugirl]

Discipline and punishment aren't synonymous... Corporal punishment it a lazy parents tool. Studies have not only found that spanking is ineffective but is detrimental to cogitative, emotional and social development in children. The study, “Corporal Punishment and Elevated Neural Response to Threat in Children,” published in Child Development, examined spanked children’s brain functioning in response to perceived environmental threats compared to children who were not spanked. Their findings showed that spanked children exhibited greater brain response, suggesting that spanking can alter children’s brain function in similar ways to severe forms of maltreatment.

According to Jorge Cuartas, a Ph. D. candidate at the Harvard Graduate School of Education, who coauthored the study with Katie McLaughlin, professor at the Department of Psychology at Harvard University stated that spanking elicits a similar response in children’s brains to more threatening experiences like sexual abuse.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl 1st no one cares about your opinions. You have made an obnoxious name for yourself as someone to avoid.

Second... I believe I said, “ There is a massive difference between discipline and abuse.”
so yeah... I know

[Subarugirl]

Actually that isn’t my opinion, that would be research done by neuroscientists from Harvard.

[youngmix]

I'm just curious and ignorant, but how exactly is her name offensive? I'm not arguing with you, I'm just wondering what is obnoxious about it? I feel like I'm missing something. The only two Subaru's I know are the car company and a character from Re:Zero (Japanese animation and light novel).

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl I never said your opinion was wrong. It actually coincides with my stance. I said no one cares about what you want to interject.

[Opinion Owner]

@youngmix. I never said her name was offensive. I said she has made a name for herself as someone to avoid conversations with.

[Subarugirl]

@youngmix he doesn’t actually mean my name. He’s referencing my reputation is suppose because I tend to be outspoken about what I believe and why I believe it, and I don’t I don’t take shit from anyone on here. Some people just can’t deal with it.

[Opinion Owner]

@Subarugirl It’s bot the “outspoken” a lot of people are outspoken. It’s the egressive shaming tactics, bias feminist nonsense, inability to let go and fruitfly’esque in your face badgering.

[Subarugirl]

And what exactly do you mean by aggressive shaming tactics?

[Chris7094]

Yes, quite often and I was slapped across the face for accidentally spilling my juice at supper. I was hit until I could out run my mother. Then she couldn't do shit to me. I never learned anything from being hit except to run.

I raised my son totally different. I never hit him, I communicate.

[Marianna546]

Exactly that's the best thing to do

[Gloree]

Well done

[Gloree]

Your mum was strict as hell

[Chris7094]

Thanks, she was just on edge a lot because my dad drank and they had 3 kids and both worked.
There were times when she just had zero patients. She would flip out if I left 1 sock laying on my bedroom floor. Other times she was too easy on me. I remember she would do my math homework for me because I didn't do it. That was nice of her, but I didn't have a fucking clue what I was doing when we had a math test in school, lol.

[Gloree]

Good to know I know no parent hates their kid

[alice55]

Many many many time, I didn't give a shit I always said "didn't even hurt" because it was true I was getting spanked multiple time a days at least 5 time everyday so after I just didn't feel anything when getting spanked or slapped, didn't even hurt when my head hit the furniture and i ended up bleeding on the floor.

[Gloree]

I'm so sorry

[alice55]

Its ok the only stuff who bothered me was when my mother broke one of my teeth. I have a high tolerance for pain so I didn't felt much, didn't even hurt me when she punched my face and broke my teeth. She must have hit my face too many time and damage my pain detector I think. The most annoying stuff is that she's dumb (like even if I explain to her one hundred time something she still won' remember anything the day after, she can't even take care of her bank account alone, I need to do everything for her, she's a complotist (which get extremely tiring) and is an alcoholic but refuse to admit it.
She also accused my father of cheating on her, etc... got jealous over the smaller stuff and keep on nagging him. Personally I feel sorry for her cause it must be atrocious to live in her mind. At least personally if she bother me too much I can just get away and never talk to her ever again (and she will remain all alone since she made even get away since nobody could support her).
I'm good personally just realized she need a therapist and used me as a punching ball cause she hated me cause she thought my father only loved me and not her. I never considered her as my mother since she always rejected me and never loved me so I never cared for it my grandparents and father love me enough for me to not care about her feelings towards me.

[Apple1996]

Nah my siblings were tho and I was smart enough to learn the things that they got in trouble for and what to avoid with my parents so that I never got spanked, grounded, non of that stuff.

[andreasderjuengere]

Grandma loved to spank me :D but never ''in excess''.

By age 7 I had figured out ways to divert her attention; by age 12 I could somewhat manipulate her.

My parents or Grandpa weren't a threat at all.

[NathanDavis]

a couple of times... and I laughed about it, then I ran away like crazy

[MTC29]

I was seldom spanked, but I saw the business end of my father's work belt (extra wide heavy leather) several times.

Even so, I could never spank of whip a child. It isn't something I'd be capable of.

[FinneasWilson]

No I was beaten, my father was an abuser a violent narcissist.


I personally would never ever smack or beat my child violence is never the answer.

[FinneasWilson]

Well you clearly did have parents or you wouldn’t be here.

[Lucy68]

Spanked, had the belt and the switch. I also had a tv cord, shoe, spatula, wooden spoon, at one point a random stick

[MannyFrs]

tv cord now thats being creative! Kudos to your parents for being different lol

[Kori1236]

Yup. Only a handful of times though. Straight up beatings were more common for me. If I had kids I’m not opposed to spankings but I’d rather use other methods first

[AviatorTom]

NO, but the threat was always there, and my sister and I respected that.

[Anonymous]

What do you mean the world doesn't accept this anymore? In many parts of the world it's still practiced, and people think nothing of it, they accept it as normal. By the way, I wasn't spanked as a child; I was hit with a belt instead.

[ChrisMaster69]

Yeah I think beaten would be closer, it’s amazing how a buckle feels…

[FunkyMonkee]

LOTS of times! a number of times even though I wasn't guilty! Principals and teachers could also paddle our little po-po's, too.

[FunkyMonkee]

What's nice about "the world" not dong it, anymore? It's BECAUSE they don't that we have so many god damn spoiled rotten brats running around!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, very occasionally. It was much more common back then generally. But my mum wasn't really into it. I personally don't think it serves a purpose.

[Gloree]

Same here

[Chazmatazz269]

Spanked, beaten into submission, kicked, choked, and told almost daily that i was the bane of my mother’s very existence.

[XXblack88]

I did when I was little. once I got in high school my dad would just ground me when I was acting up. And it didn't work.

[boggboss]

Couple times although I was a stupid kid

[boggboss]

I'm not saying it's somthing u should do but I do know I probobly wpuld have eneded up joining a gang growing up if I didn't get taught basic action and consequences from getting beat so it worked for me personally but I wouldn't say it should be applied in general

[Gloree]

I understand

[Blackcosmo]

Yup. I wasn't actually a bad kid though and I always cried.

[roy_ricky09]

Spanked... It's nothing
Belts, sticks, slaps, utensils etc...
I was very notorious

[Gloree]

Gosh

[roy_ricky09]

Yea... Lol.. But now I know why... Turned out well..

[Gloree]

Good to know.

[TallAnon]

No, my dad was hit a lot by his father and he took up martial arts so if he ever saw him again, he would kill him. Luckily for both of them, they never met again. Do not hit people.

[HaveNoName]

NEVER !! Yet we feared them because we respected them. One stare of the eyes and it was more reprimanding and effective than a 20 minute bout of screaming.