Did you get spanked when you were a kid?
I got spanked lots of times. My dad believed punishment and discipline is interchangeable, even using the Bible as an excuse to spank me (taking the word “rod” in the proverb, “Those who spare the rod hate their children,” in a literal sense, even though the proverb’s intent was disciplining in the sense of guidance. Shepherds used rods, staffs or crooks/curved sticks to guide their sheep. Like, what’s not clicking?)
Lots of people seem to think they’re interchangeable too, as can be clearly seen in the comment section here. But did you know? The word "discipline" is from the Latin word ‘disciplina’ meaning "instruction and training.” (The word for “disciple” comes from the Latin word ‘discipulus’ meaning “student.”) It's derived from the root word discere -- "to learn."
However, “punish” comes from the Latin root word ‘punire’ meaning “to inflict a penalty on.”
My dad’s main form of punishment was spanking, the other was (used rarely) standing in the corner for a period of time.
I don’t think he’s capable of disciplining, he’s not gentle in nature. Not even gentle with dogs. I remember, when our dog (he passed away in 2017 at the age of 12) was being stubborn or naughty, my dad would take him by the neck, look him in the eye and talk roughly.
Once, our dad even threw our dog on the bed (he landed on his feet, but it still must’ve hurt.) Before our dog went to live with my mom and older sister (who my younger sister and I have lived with since 2015), I remember our dad calling our dog a demon, and mentioning how the word “Dog” is “God” backwards (gosh, I kept thinking how stupid he was, and I’m not ashamed to call my Dad stupid. I was like, “so what if this word is another word backwards? Smh”)
My dad had no self-control, and that’s common in people who spank their children. The parents that I’ve seen spank their children in public were doing it out of frustration and letting their emotions control their action.
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Usually by my dad, mostly with a belt so he could be sure that I won't be able to sit or sleep for days. Alternatively also smacked across my face or at the back of my head, once even punched a tooth out. Since that's how you make sure that your daughter gets better at school, right? 🙄 And only once by my mum but at least for a better reason than getting a C in math.
And yep, I'm still mad at my dad because of it after all this years. He did apologized a couple times after I became an adult but words cannot make years of fear and pain any better. And since he's dead by now he can't make it up anyway.
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Spanking was funny..
Usually it was Mom with broom..
Shoes, slippers, kicks, punches, tossed, random wooden stick, and sometimes that water Hose pipe..
She admitted a couple of years ago.. she hated me and beaten me & wanted to kill me! Hoping I would die..
She lost it mentally there for few years with father living far away.
Neither for family side supporting her..
Since they did had officially married..
Yeah I am a bastard..
And also my mom had her job to handle..
Bottom line..
I hate her deep down..
But I forgive her..
Because it helps me let go or vengeance..
I would hurt her..
But she can forget the Joy's that further a women gets from watching her son get married and getting time with grandkids..
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Yes, got spanked by my mother a lot in the 1990s. In hindsight, I realise she was going through a stressful time in her life after her boyfriend (my father) abandoned both of us, refusing to pay child support or care for me at all. So she freaked out easily and slapped me for many small incidents.
I remember when I was 5, she got into a loud argument with her mother, and when I tried to intervene, she pushed me away so hard, I fell into a plant in the corner of the room. She was immediately apologetic, but it shows just how aggressive she was back then. She rarely lays a hand on me now (though my stepdad might if I push him over the edge)
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I was the only one out of all my siblings who did but it wasn't a spanking if was a beating it stopped at 12 I set up traps to knock my dad out when he chased me through the house trying to spank me on hit him in his head laying him out after that everything was just fine between me and my dad even had a talk about it a few years ago I'm 35 now he cried and apologized for what he did I told him I did deserve to be discipline but not like that then I told him I wouldn't trade a single ass whooping for the world it shaped me in to the hard working person I am today I'm single and have no kids but when I do my hand will never go up
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Spanked? Yeah right. My mother sometimes beat the hell out of me if she was an angry drunk. Things she did that can explain my antisocial behaviors in my childhood year:
- I had my hair pulled hard and dragged across the room
- Slapped me around, yelling how I'm a stupid mistake
- Spanked/beat my bottom with a tennis shoes to the point I had bruises and it was hard sitting down
- Brought drunk men in the house and sometimes left me alone with them for hours. A couple of them touched me; disgusting pedophiles. My vocabulary in sexual contents and all the diry stuff expanded a lot.
- Shake me violently in another one of her violent drunken outbursts, saying ''Life would you easy if you had never been born''
- Made me go back to sleep on my sheet I accidentally wet one day. I used to be a bed wetter. -
Never. I got good parents who know that spanking only messes up the mind of children. My parents told me to stand in the corner for 30 minutes and think about what I did wrong. When time is up I had to explain it to my parents. I think that's a great way to teach kids how to behave.
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haha yes. And no I'm not some enraged person with mental issues, that inflicts harm on others or small animals either sense that's the persuasion being pushed by the media and society now a days about kids getting spankings. My mom is not and was not abusive and knew her limits when it came to discipline.
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Yes, by my father. He was in charge and laid down the law. Typically with the hand but occasionally with the belt. When we (my sister or I) did something against the rules he would do so. He stopped when I turned 17 but my sister was older and got spanked all the way through 12th until she left the house.
He spanked my mother too, but much less often. He was never sexual with it to my knowledge. I hold nothing against him, and love both my parents. It was just the family dynamic we had. -
My father used to hit me with a belt in frustration during my younger years. The reason I won't use the word spanked is because I considered what he did as hitting/assault.
I would never in my life hit my future kids with a damn belt nor any household objects. That is what savage and lazy people do. -
I /think/ I was spanked once? I have a very vague memory of it. But mostly just the threat of a spanking was enough to make me burst into tears and stop doing whatever I was doing. The threat of being sent to the corner/my bedroom would also do the same thing, so no it's not because I was traumatized by that one spanking. I just have always hated disappointing people and doing things wrong.
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My mom would lose her shit at me and sometimes spank me. My dad was strict and scarier. He rarely got angry, and would always say in a cold way “ x is going to happen if you do y. If you keep on doing it, then z is going to happen. If you still do it, then I’m going to spank you. You don’t want that, I don’t want that. I love you, but I’m your father and I have to teach you. So let’s get it right the first time.“
And if he got mad, like really mad, then it was like the end of the world was going to happen. I love him and respect him, he was always there to support me and he was the one person in the world who I knew would do anything to protect me. I miss him. - 331 opinions shared on Family & Friends topic.
Both... up till about 10 or so.
Respected dad, I feared his spankings... he gave them rarely, 4-5 my whole life.
They hurt.
Resented mom's, she wouldn't hurt that much but would just rample on and on with her scoldings and lectures and would smack ne in anger.
Dad's were business-like. You did X, here is the consequence... spanking... I cry... afterwards. "Don't do X again".
Mom would bicker and scold all the time... dad's spanking wete very rare. -
I got spanked when it was deserved. It was a "make it stick" experience. I don't think spanking is inherently wrong. I think some people go too far.
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until i was 10 after my granddad died then I was beaten, and i mean fully closed fist... a kick here and there and it wasn't just once when it happened it was multiple times
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Yep, by my mom and I am grateful for that. My dad did not care about disciplining me and so he did not spank me.
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Only once and was nothing too serious, it was the day after my birthday and I woke up really really soon in the morning and was jumping alone from the sofa to a little table and to the dinning table, my dad told me a million times to stop it and I just ignored.
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Yes, I was spanked as a child. Mainly from my mom, my dad did once or twice, but it was usually my mom.
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My father, God bless him, did not use spanking as discipline, as he knew it mostly didn't produce any good result. Instead he showed his displeasure at the improper action, and, at least for me, my Dad's displeasure was a much worse punishment than a spanking.
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Yes, a lot, but contrary to most people, I believe spanking not to be bad. In a limit though, but yeah.
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Got spanked and slapped by my mum as a last resort. It actually caused me to not offend a second time. I believe it works as a last resort method.
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Yes, and it really messed me up, even to this day. I will never physically abuse my future kids. Kids need to feel safe in order to grow up, that is just nature. They need a base to build their future life off of. You can't build a castle on water, you need a strong foundation. I am very against physical violence to kids, verbal and mental too. They should be around other kids to discover life, and I will teach my kids how to fight for what they want. But I will not fight my kids.
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Nope. My mom would never hit me no matter how angry she got.
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Yes, and I will spank mine, here is why. i will not be disrespected by my child. If you failing in school ok not worth a spanking I'll take your game, phone, etc. but if your flat out disrespecting me I'mma whoop that ass
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