Were you spanked growing up?

[Anonymous]

I was spanked growing up, it didn't happen often but when i was bad i got one. It was always my mom who did the spanking and it was always a bare bottom spanking. I say this because i'm sick of all the people who say spanking is abuse and that bare bottom spanking is somehow sexual abuse. I never felt abused in any way and i can tell you my mom didn't get "anything" out of spanking me bare bottom, it just hurt more that way without cloths as a buffer so if i did something that deserved a spanking it was always the worst spanking i could get (bare bottom)

[Telekinetic-Potato]

This one time when I was really little. I was being bad for. . . ok probably since I was born but i was particularly bad recently and we went to church. I was old enough to sort of know the guy on the cross was god but that was all I knew. I didn't know how he got there or what it meant. So I asked my dad (kinda knowing what was coming)

"What did that guy do?" and he looked at me like he was about to kick my ass
"What do you mean 'what did he do' he's god"
"But what makes that guy special,-" before I could finish my sentence he dragged me out of the pew and started smacking me around super old-school. Hahaha I really didn't know anything about our religion yet.

If I were ever spanked bare bottom, first of all it was when I was very young and when I did something pretty bad.

I know some people hear a story like this and want to cringe but this is how I was raised and for the most part, I'm a very nice, extremely forgiving, emotionally strong person. Do I think that the way I was raised is how everyone should be or needs to be raised? No. But I can say, if I specifically were raised differently, I wouldn't have a lot of the good qualities I have.

I think there's two types of parents. The ones who hit their kids to get them to shut up, and the one who secretly feel like their heart breaks when they do it.

[abc3643]

Spanking is totally justifiable to the very young because they don't have any comprehension of logic and the only way to communicate good and bad is directly through a reward and punishment. And the best punishment to a young child who has no attention span is a short sharp pain that they will remember. It's a jolt to the brain's neural network that is like this old joke:
Patient: Doctor, it hurts when I do this...
Doctor: Then don't do that.
Very quickly, the child realizes "If I do X, then I will get spanked and that hurts. I don't want to hurt, so I won't do X."
The child may not yet understand why doing X is wrong, just that it is wrong and that's what's important immediately. The understanding why doing X is wrong will come layer as the child grows and rational thought and empathy kick in. But, until that day occurs, a spanking is a justifiable training tool.

[AlexisinTexas]

Yes, I used to get a lot of spankings. My mom would take me to her walk-in closet where she had a little stool and do it there with her hairbrush, over her knee. It was a scary trip to her room, knowing how much that brush would hurt, but I sure as heck didn't do again whatever she was spanking me for. This was mostly until I was about 15. Heck, it's not even out of the question now, and I am 17.

[Paris13]

Once in a blue moon, Dad would give us a Spanking on the Butt or Mom would use the Fly Swatter.
No big deal, I never called this Child Abuse because I Know my Parents always loved me.
However, if Someone on the street would see this Today, they would Contact Social Services and be on their Merry Way.
Good luck. xx

[Paris13]

Thank you for the Vote of Confidence. xx

[tricia103]

Yeah, my nana used to spank me on my bare bottom. And my dad would use a belt, which was HORRIBLE, but you'd never catch me doing whatever it was I had done wrong again.

Oh, and my mom used a wooden spoon to spank me. Now I'm 16 so they just take my phone when I get into trouble lol

[jennyem]

omg I used to get the belt and wooden spoon combo too! it was horrible at the time but yeh, I agree, you'd never catch me doing the same thing wrong again haha! Have you ever spoken to your parents about it since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did (e. g. the belt). Follow me back, would be great if we could just message separately too! thanks xoxo

[tricia103]

@jennyem Oh yeah I've tried mentioning it to them, but they don't care haha. They like to pull the whole "We're your parents, we do what we want" thing 🙄

[jennyem]

haha, i got the exact same response! I'll message you soon

[OliviaCalme]

@jennyem
"omg I used to get the belt and wooden spoon combo too! it was horrible at the time but yeh, I agree, you'd never catch me doing the same thing wrong again haha!"

I used to get belt too. A thick leather one. That was painful, but effective, I think.

[Anonymous]

I was spanked and Im not damaged. This generation is literally full of wimps. Want your kid to behave and not throw tantrums? Spank them once and I guarantee it won't happen again. Time outs and taking away toys does not work. Im with you on this anon.

[Asker]

was it usually bare butt or with pants/panties on?

[Opinion Owner]

Pants on. I learned quickly not to act like a brat. I dont like trouble or go looking for it and thats from being spanked just once.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

Yes. Not very often, but when I got it, I fuckin DESERVED it. My dad had a leather belt, and he was a biker...

I would laugh at anyone who is enough of a sissy to call it abuse. I MAYBE got spanked a half dozen times from age 4 to 12, when my parents divorced. Maybe. Probably less though.

[N192K001]

Yeah, I was spanked, but in whatever clothes I was wearing at the moment. And now that I am older, I can agree with my parents that I did kinda deserve it. So long as it isn't abuse (striking violently out of pure wrath), but just discipline (controlled, measured use of reasonable force with a cool head), I see no problem.

[WillowTree]

Yes, not often though. I learned to stop talking back and not to bad shit real quick. I didn't get bare bottom spanked. I was hit with whatever object was closest that wouldn't do a lot of physical damage but get the message across.

[CoralSun]

Yes but my parents always had enough respect and consideration to never spank us bare bottom. That borders on disciplining with humiliation which is wrong.

[Mesonfielde]

>> I say this because i'm sick of all the people who say spanking is abuse I never felt abused in any way

That's great, but that doesn't change the definition.

[kittykatbrat]

Spanking IS abuse to me.

[Mesonfielde]

@kittykatbrat exactly

[Anonymous]

Yes. I had both spankings that were controlled, non harmful spankings and that were out of control abuse. There's a spectrum on this one.

[Asker]

was it usually bare bottom or with pants/panties on?

[Opinion Owner]

I don't remember each time. The ones that were out of control involved my legs, arms, back, hands etc. I remember getting a gash on my hand from when the belt slipped and I got hit with the buckle, for example.

[BeerFarts]

Yep, I was spanked, whipped with a belt, had a shoe thrown at me - pretty much the kitchen sink. Lol. I deserved it though because I was a bad kid :)

[helloitsmethere]

In the Caribbean, spanking children is a normal thing.
No one grounds anyone there.

[Major_Vybz]

Hahaha very true.

[Asker]

is it usually bare butt or with pants/panties on?

[helloitsmethere]

Both.

[This_is_my_username]

Yup got sparked when I was really really bad by mama though. My dad always gave lectures and disappointed stares.. That somehow how was worse!

But let's just say.. I never did those things again in my life.

[fauchelevent]

My parents spanked me pretty rarely, it was usually a smack on the cheek or a clip round the ear instead. I do consider spanking abuse though bare bottom spanking isn't sexual abuse in my eyes.

[Snarkymalarkey]

I was spanked a lot growing up, from about 2yrs old to 17 years old. My dad always did the spanking and I always found it more embarrassing then really painful.😕

[Asker]

May i ask why you found it embarrassing? Was it he position you were spanked in, or if you were spanked bare bottom or something else?

[Snarkymalarkey]

A combination of all of that I think. I usually bent over the knee with my bare butt in the air. Obviously it wasn't quite as weird to me as an 8 year old, but as a teenager it was incredibly uncomfortable

[Asker]

I'm glad it was my mom who did the spanking I'd feel really embarrassed if my dad spanked me bare butt. It was bad enough having my mom spank me bare butt over her knee. I'm sorry you had to go through that, if you need or want to talk about it further feel free to message me.

[chelseabloo]

omg @Snarkymalarkey my dad is exactly the same as yours! Have you spoken to your parents about it all since, to mention if you didn't approve of anything they did when you were growing up? Follow me back, would be great if we could message separately, rather than through here! thanks xoxo

[TesticleMonster]

My dad used to spank me and make me say "thank you sir, may i have another". Which of course would make him do it again. He derived some sort of sadistic amusement from it. I didn't think it was funny.

[reixun]

Not for discipline, but my mom is touchy feely and has poked my butt more than once

[Major_Vybz]

Yeah very normal in my country. I got spanked (licks) all the time.

[Lyndsielee666]

My dad spanked me once and I hit him back. I never got spanked after that lmfao. I was a bad child

[anonman32]

i would only ever spank my girlfriend to be honest, never a kid. no i was never spanked during my childhood.

[ObviouslyOriginalMe]

I was spanked and punished physically. I blame my bdsm fetish on it.

[truthbeknown]

Yes, I was spanked. I also don't feel like I was abused or screwed up.

[Hidden_P]

Yeah I was. I don't think it was abuse. I only ever was spanked a couple of times.

[rjroy3]

My mom and dad had the whipping motion down. Clothes didn't help me lol.