Were you actually spanked growing up?

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I always heard that spanking is so wrong and shouldn't be done, but not a single person I've meet was ever spanked growing up. I don't know if it's because i'm kinda young and people just don't spank their kids for discipline anymore, or if its more to do with the part of the country I'm in (New England area) I'm not saying spanking ir right or wrong i just think it's stranhe i haven't meet a single person who was spanked growing up.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

Whether spanking is in vogue depends upon the culture in which you and your parents were raised. If you came from upper middle class roots and your parents and Ivy League products, I suspect that spankings would be a foreign concept. If you came from lower middle class roots and your parents were both high school drop outs, spankings were probably quite familiar.

I received a few spankings when I was a child. Most of my peers did. We were not traumatized by the experience and we learned that here were rules which MUST be followed and that there is someone bigger and stronger than us who can enforce rules and the laws, so it was very adaptive for us to learn to comply with the structure that was imposed on us. Many may want to comment that such an approach does not inspire rugged individualism; to that I would offer two observations:

1. Over the long haul of your life, compliance with the structure and requirements of our society will gain you more than will rebelliousness and attempting to be an iconoclast.

2. On Sunday mornings, as I am driving to church, I see legions of "rugged individualists" who have joined together for extended bike rides in the suburban neighborhoods. They are primarily aged 25-35, Caucasian males, young professionals, their bikes all look alike, and they are all wearing the team uniform (their spandex - I presume - bicycling pants and shirts and their helmets.) In their own minds, they may be rugged individualists but, to me, they look like a pack of the legendary lemmings on their way to the sea.

Tdieseler · Accepted Answer

Spanking? awwww... thats so cute.
Where i come from, we call it asswhooping. spanking is a couple hits and you go and the world has a problem with that... pfft... they should watch an asswhooping in progress cuz anything goes. Starts out nice and quiet with the switch/cane or tv cable or hand or whatever is available, then when you try to run, furniture gets moved around and thrown, shoes whistling past your head as you try to get away. hearing feet behind you with a voice telling you that you are gonna get more JUST for running...
What do you think made me a very good athlete in school? lol
Im all for spanking, its the way my parents were raised, its the way i was raised, and dammit my kids gonna get some...
right? @Negrodamuss
Funniest aspect of an asswhooping in progress is when the SJWs try to say something, anyone who has spoken against an asswhooping WHILE its in progress has ALWAYS become part of the whooping lol... written in stone.

Prettygurl12 · Accepted Answer

I was spanked.

I can count on one hand the number of times. I wasn't a bad kid.

The way it works is as follows:
Parent: Listen, these are the rules. If you break them, you will be spanked.
Me: Breaks rules
Parent: Re-explains rules and reminds me that if I break them I will be spanked.
Me: Breaks rules again.
Parent: Spanks me. Explains to me how we arrived at this. How I was told twice what the rules were and how I deliberately disobeyed (at least the second time lol). Reminded me about how I was told what would happen if I disobeyed and how it's my own dumb fault for getting spanked because they were more than fair.

I remember that happening like 5 times max. And prior to being spanked I remember deliberately making the choice to disobey a second time because I thought I was a sneaky little bugger haha

These all happened between ages 5 and probably 10. When you're old enough to understand direction. I also remember debating whether or not the spanking was worth whatever it is I wanted to do against the instruction of my parents.

bente2 · Accepted Answer

Nope. I think it's more of a "person of colour" thing. I've heard black people, turkish people etc talk about being spanked but never white people.

The only thing I've ever had is my mother dragging me by my upper arm harshly or tugging my ear. My dad once hit my shoulder, but not too hard.

SovereignessofVamps · Accepted Answer

Yeah, I think lots of kids aren't hit and act better now. Sooo many older people act way worse, and technically can be more mature... but just not be more mature when it comes to lifestyles or random decisions.

No I wasn't. Brother was and he just acted worse.

Kaazsz · Answer

I live in new england but i can't say whether they spank here. My mother did not discipline us, she simply beat the shit out of because she was a raging psychopath who was admitted to the nuthouse on several occasions lol. So i dont know if that counts! Im surprised you dont know anyone who didn't get hit. I thought everyone got beat to some extent lol.

skeptic002 · Answer

more like they smacked me with the cooking spoon for cursing  lol but i learned my lesson and cursed in private

helloitsmethere · Answer

Let's see:
The metre stick
A shoe/sandal
A belt
A wooden spoon
My mom's hand
In the Caribbean it is VERY common and legal to slap the fuck outta your child if they act out. I came out quite fine, so did my sister, my mom, my dad, my aunts and uncles, grandparents, cousins and friends :)
My dad never slapped me though, neither did he slap my sister. He would just shout at us if we were misbehaving.

jman46241 · Answer

Hell yeah i was spanked! Got the belt from my Dad, fly swatter from my Mom.. I got in a little trouble in Jr. High and would two whacks from the Principal instead of spending 2 hours in detention. I think it's much more effective and easier than grounding and time outs..

Theodorable · Answer

Yeah. My parents whipped the hell out of me often enough until I was about 13. It didn't kill me. I'm perfectly fine. I might be a little aggressive towards random mother fuckers at the club, but I think that's pretty healthy. To be a man is to be a warrior. It's in our nature.

Jan1ssary_ · Answer

Yeah I was spanked a lot by my father. He was throwing, and hitting me to walls and shit, but He was usually beating me with his belt. I knew he loves his son but he was just agressive and problematic man. There were times I deserved, but He also beat me a lot for stupid things aswell.

I don't want to harm my kids with beating them, I hope I can controll my temper.

edmdancer2000 · Answer

I'm in the uk, and certainly had my fair share of them :(

it's not something i advertise nor tend to chat to people about in real life, would be just way to embarrassing. so maybe there are more out there who have got them, but just prefer not to admit to it, who knows.

Carly

Hopefuldreamer8 · Answer

I was spanked once and a while, and my mother always explained why she was doing it. I always deserved it. It always with her hand and it was never more than a few slaps on the butt.

Sara413 · Answer

I was a couple times. Never beaten or made to feel afraid of my parents. It was just the last tool in their repertoire when I was being a complete fuck head. And it worked.

writing_essays · Answer

I was spanked as a child and I was extremely obedient to my parents as a kid and was full of love, compassion and empathy for others. I was also very happy. That changed when I got older.

beachflamingo · Answer

I was, but I was a good kid. It only happened like three times max. I was only grounded once in my life when I got older. They never really had a reason to punish me.

Anonymous · Answer

I was spanked with a wooden spoon and a spatula or just the hand. spanking isn't bad unless you're giving the kid bruises and beating him or her senseless and then it's bad that's where it becomes abuse.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Yup I was spanked growing up and I thank my parents for it I deserved it when I Acted out. And I support doing it as a discipline I'll do it to my kids to if they deserve it.

NightUnderTheStars · Answer

Yup, my mum would spank me when i was wrong, but she was always there to comfort me afterwards. My backside was often blue growing up haha. But i turned out alright i guess ;)

El_Muffidore · Answer

Spanked, kicked, beaten with a plastic spoon used for cooking and even lifted up by my neck till the point of almost blacking out.

Alistar · Answer

Yes Not with cruelty, not with anything other than an open hand, and not without good reason. My parents remain my closest friends.

Doffydood · Answer

No, because I wasn't a little demon child :) I know a few children that could use a good spanking though.

SarahsSummer · Answer

it was threatened enough but never had to get to that stage

Anonymous · Answer

I was spanked a couple of times and they were when I was very young. Honestly people are over-blowing it being wrong. It terrified me then but that made me behave. That said will I spank if I were ever to have children? Probably not

ElissaDido · Answer

Yes but only on very rare occasions and they didn't really hurt.

Anonymous · Answer

I was never hit spanked or anything but i just had LONG boring endless infinte lectures that i wished if i would just get hit and then they would let me go cry in the room but nope

Anonymous · Answer

I was and I don't think its wrong, it s to discipline your kids so they make better choices, and out of my friends I have turned out better than the ones who got gold stars for everything

woefulfairies · Answer

of course I was. it was effective, but I can't say that I would do it to my kids.

goldfinch23 · Answer

I was. I know sometimes I deserve that. I'm not blame my mum.

Chris_68 · Answer

I've not been spanked and I have never spanked my children. But I've spanked my girlfriend quite often - consensual sexual spankings :-)

Winter_Storm_Guy · Answer

Yes my parents spanked us. My mom would use her shoe, paddle from the paddle and the ball. My dad would use a belt.

Giacomanzo · Answer

No, but honestly I don't think I've never given them a reason to. I was quite a shy kid, and I don't really remember a time disobeying to my parents before getting 16.

Saoirse_Nua · Answer

No I wasn't - It is not a big thing where I am from

Anonymous · Answer

once my dad took his leather belt and whipped my back and my ass and I couldn't sit down or lay on my back for three weeks

Anonymous · Answer

I was hit with a belt, paddle, hanger, shoe, stick, fly swatter. My mom once threw a knife and a frying pan at my brother when he was like 10? Pretty much whatever they could find, they tried to hit you with.

jakeofalltrades · Answer

I was, I wish parents would spank their kids more often, all they are doing is raising a generation of spoiled brats

Anonymous · Answer

Spanked?  HAHAHA My mother beat the living day light out of me. 😏 She doesn't anymore, tho. I have learned. 😅😆

LivingLife94 · Answer

I was never been spanked by my parents. I have been spanked during sex many times before!!!

Dred1614returns · Answer

I was, my parents were, their parents were, etc.. I don't see a problem with it.

TheInvisibleMan · Answer

I wasn't either but almost everybody I know was. So if you have questions, ask me.

Anonymous · Answer

Not spanked, beat up in rage. Rage about unimportant things like not answering why I was sad. Or not knowing a song text. Or not being #1 in class.

vekin · Answer

Yez i got some hits by my dad as a child, sometimes it is the best way to learn respect

RockRules · Answer

My parents never spanked me, because they know how to be good parents.

Anonymous · Answer

Its a good thing they never spanked me, i probably would've liked it.

archiz · Answer

my parents never really laid a hand on me

VomitV · Answer

Yes, and it was effective.

greycadillacs · Answer

I was spanked maybe twice

datgirl · Answer

Oh helllllzzz ya, but I never saw it as abuse.

CheyenneBae · Answer

Nope, because I was a good girl 👼

_HimigNgKalayaan_ · Answer

Nope. Got hit with belt.

Anonymous · Answer

By my boyfriend😈😈😈🙈🙈🙈😏😏😏

ProbablyTooMature · Answer

Uh, of course. :-P

lushbomb · Answer

OHHH YEAH LOL

Hollywood-Glam · Answer

Nope.

SweetNB1tchy7 · Answer

yes I have been

Other_Tommy_Wiseau · Answer

Of course

Anonymous · Answer

No, I wasn't.

Autumn-Bunny · Answer

Yeuppppp

Icyfire101 · Answer

Nope

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