Am I wrong that I don't want to pay for the hotel room?

[nice-girl]

My boyfriend has always payed for the hotel room in which we go to have sex. (We both live with our parents and we don't do it at home) I had the impression that he was not ok with this until one day he told me that it would be better if I help him pay that so we could go more often. I said no. Better not go there at all.
I told him from the begging that better not having sex at all than going to a hotel. It seems bad to me if half of the money that I make in a day goes for a hotel room. I pay for all the other things for myself. On the other hand it feels bad that I go in a hotel for sex only if he pays for the room. I'd it wasn't for me I wouldn't

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And do you think that he feels bad or used about this or he just wants to save money?

[trumpify]

hi, I can understand what your situation is. if it's too expensive and you don't earn enough and you've told him that you don't want to go there, it's ok not to pay. you can find other alternatives where the sex can be hotter too ;) as a guy, I think he might feel taken advantage of a bit but if you two have good understanding, you can talk it out. I'm open to answering your questions if this isn't what you wanted to know :)

[aftermydemise]

what's so wrong about going to a hotel to have sex? if you want it bad enough you'll help him pay for it eventually lol. What would you rather spend the money on? how much is the room? why not just do it at home? you're both adults. if you really pay for everything else then he should man up and stop crying about paying for the room himself also.

[nice-girl]

The hotel room might be the item that he spends the highest percentage of his monthly wage. Sorry but I don't want to do the same

[Leonie-M]

you should pay the room too sometimes. but maybe you have a friend that lives alone who you could ask to borrow the apartment sometimes or you can find another solution that does not cost so much. ever heard of air bnb?

[bc1989]

sorry I don't understand why it's his responsibility to pay

[nice-girl]

It's not his responsibility. Just that I don't think that a hotel room is worth it. I'm not going to work hard and get stressed in the job just to pay for a hotel room. Also it costs more to be a woman for clothes, hair etc.

[bc1989]

he deserves better than you

[Danny_dan92]

Can you believe this chick? I mean damn. Your username does not add up. Because her not being a caring generous girlfriend is not gonna get her anywhere

[Billlewis]

Wait, hold on -- you don't understand why it's his responsibility to pay for the room? Um, maybe because he's enjoying the privilege of being intimate with an unbelievably gorgeous young woman?

[Danny_dan92]

Nice white knight

[Finchie40]

You shouldn’t feel bad hotels aren’t cheap and it is a waste of money , if he was smart he would just save that hotel money and get his own apartment so you guys can screw whenever you wanted , I dated a girl that would pay for hotels just so we could have sex , I asked her why she wanted to waste money on hotel rooms and she would tell me she just likes the thrill of it of being private and no one bothering us , I fell for it even though I was skeptical about it thinking why couldn’t we just screw at my place or hers? I felt like I was a male escort that she was paying for my services considering she would text me the hotel and room number and tell me to meet her there when I was done work, So of course I showed up and we would have amazing sex but I felt bad she was wasting money on these Hotel rooms so I told her I would help her pay and she say No it was on her. It was very seldom that we would have sex at her home or mine until the 1 day her husband. Knocked on my door

[pharaoh_lover48118]

So let me get this straight. He was paying for it gladly without complaining and it was fine but he wants to be with you more often and he can't afford it so he asked you to help him seeing you more often. But all you consider is how much you are gonna pay.
I swear am not judging I just repeated what you said. I really think you should reconsider what you want from this relationship.

[nice-girl]

Yes I have doubts about this. That 's why I asked the question here. Just that I don't think that a hotel room is worth it. I pay for all the other things for myself

[pharaoh_lover48118]

he also pays for all other things for himself. and I think you should really talk to him about it I mean to you sex isn't very important in a relation at least not during this time of your life as you both are struggling to build your life. So why don't you suggest that you hang out in any place more often where you will spend less money and enjoys each others company till you sort your financials out.

[nice-girl]

I said this. He countinues to pay for the hotel room but seems like he has hurt feelings about this

[matheus_mb]

I think that if you wanna keep having sex in a hotel, even if you feel bad about it, it's fair to share. Both of you have pleasure, both of you should bear the cost. If you don't wanna go to a hotel though, you gotta find another way.

[nice-girl]

I told him from the begging that I don't want to go to a hotel and that if we don't have where to go better not do it at all. In my opinion a hotel room is not worth it. Now I'mnot sure about this because is more difficult to stop all sexual relationships but it would be easier if we didn't start them

[matheus_mb]

Where else can you go? You can suggest him a new place.

[nice-girl]

Like the toilet of a bar or the car? We can't go anywhere else

[matheus_mb]

Wouldn't a motel be cheaper? Where I live motels work exclusively for this purpose, they're made for couples to have sex.

[nice-girl]

We already go to a motel. I don't want to pay for it too. Do you think he feels used or bad about this or he just wants to save money when he mentioned that I could help him pay it?

[matheus_mb]

Both things are possible. I imagine that it must be bad for the "pocket" to pay for it all the time, I think he means what he says, but more things can really be considered.

[ko4er]

it's better to find time that your parents or his parents not at home and you can do your sex. because sex give you some power and making you better sometimes.

[nice-girl]

I know this but this times are very rare

[Aakash024]

Sharing is caring.. do ttmm.. else you need to support him at least as much as possible.. Else better to avoid it..

[nice-girl]

Avoid what? I pay for all the other things for myself

[Aakash024]

Avoid the plan I meant to say

[Aakash024]

you are not wrong basically.. but your partner will get upset on you.. possibly angry also..

[nice-girl]

Just that for me it's not worth it. Everyone has his/her economical priciples. I wouldn't be upset if he told me that he doesn't have the money to pay for a hotel room. I really feel used in my job and I am not working to pay for a hotel room

[Aakash024]

hmm.. cool

[Aakash024]

Money matters.. 😂

[alppleorange123z]

Don't you enjoy the whole process then you should talk to him that you too want to share the cost if you can afford. May be he is struggling with money. When he pays that's out of courtesy

[nice-girl]

I just think that it's not worth it. He mught be spending up to 20% I'd his monthly wage for this. I don't want to spend 10% of mine on this

[ccal28]

he shouldn't be the only one paying ALL the time but try saving up for your own place it's cheaper in the long run

[Ali55sven]

Jeez, he might aswell hire a stripper at that expense.

[Ali55sven]

Use a friends house or something. Anyways you look like a youtuber.

[thomasans]

I couldnt afford a room very often when I wanted to get laid. There are many other options-car, blanket, tent in the back yard...

[thomasans]

And if you pay for the room you should be able to host other clients.

[Anonymous]

your are wrong and yes he will feel being used infact it would be nice to at least pay for it once in 3-5 times

[pranav8]

you are behaving like a b**** rather than a partner

[Anonymous]

tell u what. u guys can use my spare bedroom anytime u like, for free as long as I get to watch. ;)

[Anonymous]

Come on. That is ridiculous. It's your job to pay. He is having sex so are you...

[nice-girl]

I know that this is ridiculous. But I don't think that the hotel room is worth it. I'm not going to get stressed and feel used in my job to pay a hotel room. I would better work less and relax.

[Opinion Owner]

You should talk to him about it then. Tell him how you feel about it and tell him that it doesn't interest you and that there's better solutions.

[nice-girl]

I have told him he said ok but maybe he has some hurt feeling about this. Do you think that he feels used or he just wants to save money?

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe both.

[Danny_dan92]

You're kidding me right?

[Danny_dan92]

Do you have any idea how selfish you sound? You're boyfriend has every right to be bothered. A relationship should be 50/50 how about you split the room price in half with him? That might be a good idea. Take it from me, I once dated a girl like you and after awhile I felt neglected. Yeah money is not everything in the world, but a simple thing like splitting a bill shows you actually care about the guy. Give what I said a try and see how he changes

[nice-girl]

Thanks for your opinion. Maybe I should give it a try as you say. But I can't go on with this. A relationship should be 50/50 but my 50 says that it isn't worth it to pay for a hotel room.

[Danny_dan92]

Why? Is the sex not good? Cause I'm under the impression that you are not happy with this dude anymore. Over the years I've noticed that if a girl or better yet if anyone is happy with the person they are with that they will do anything with no questions asked.

[DontStepOnTheCat]

Id probably break up with you.

[nice-girl]

Why? With my budget there are a lot of other things that I would consider to buy than a hotel room. How is this my foult? In my opinion even his wage is wasted for this. But it's his choice

[DontStepOnTheCat]

then we do it in the car.

[Anonymous]

break up. he deserves better.

[nice-girl]

Thank you for your honest opinion

[Barrabus_the_Free]

You're wrong.

[nice-girl]

So I shouldn't go when he suggests to go to the hotel and have sex? With my own money I wouldn't go. I don't think it's worth it.

[Barrabus_the_Free]

If you don't think it's worth it, you should end things with this guy. He deserves someone that thinks more highly of him than you obviously do.

[nice-girl]

Maybe a hotel room is the item where the highest percentage of his wage goes. It means that he works for this. I don't want to do the same

[Barrabus_the_Free]

And you've never suggested someplace out in a state park or something?

He deserves better than you. You're not willing to meet him halfway. No man should tolerate a woman that won't even make an effort.

[nice-girl]

I pay for everything else for myself

[Barrabus_the_Free]

FOR YOURSELF.

So you do what adults do and pay your own bills... do you think that means you deserve some kind of award?

By your own words, you don't think he's worth you paying part of the cost for a room, or even the mental effort to come up with an alternative.

ANY man deserves better than you. Break up with him so he can find a woman that at least pretends to value him.

[Anonymous]

My guess is you lost your virginity at 16

[nice-girl]

No, much older than that. Why would you guess something like this?

[Opinion Owner]

Well just being sarcastic because it seems the majority of people lose their virginity between ages 14-18, or sometime in their teens, wasn't until sometime in my 20s for me

[nice-girl]

Ok, but it doesn't have to do anything with the question

[Opinion Owner]

I guess just being sarcastic and a reminder of my resentment and bitterness towards people who became sexually active before I did

[nice-girl]

I lost it at 22 so I'm not included on that group. Don't be resentful to people

[Opinion Owner]

Why is it wrong to be resentful towards people?

[Regular1]

Backseat of his car.

[nice-girl]

I don't think we can really do that because of the fear of being seen. I don't think we can do more than a blowjob in a car

[Regular1]

Deserted road at night.

[aryaharsh]

selfish 😑

[nice-girl]

Women's clothes cost more, doing her hair too. And shaving every part of her body before sex costs me half an hour every time, make up and everything else

[aryaharsh]

how could you say that😂
i mean i don't think your boyfriend is complaining for his gym fee, diet, costs of bills he is spending on dates he takes you and anything else 😑