Do girls eventually fall in love with their guy best friends?

[Anonymous]

[ababykangaroobmx]

My only two bestfriends are both females and while they both liked me when i became friends with them both a very long time ago, neither of them like me now. I often help them in their relationships to my best knowledge and it all goes very well. One of them has been my bestfriend for nearly 8 years and we've never even dated. The other for around 3 or 4 years and we haven't dated either. Its very possible for them to not be in love with their beatfriends just as my bestfriends dont even have feelings like that for me in the slightest.

[Asker]

Yeah that’s true

[LuciferrMorningstarr]

Guys should know better to not waste themselves on a lost cause

[Asker]

That’s true

[Anonymous]

Usually at least for a while... why? I always do, personally... it’s a problem because I’m their “bestie” and “sister”

[Asker]

I kind of like my female best friend and I wanted to know if it was a possibility

[Opinion Owner]

Aww! Yeah, it is—look for signs like purposefully touching you, holding your hand, making you stuff (especially food stuff she knows is your favorite)... but yeah, I find it’s really common.

[Asker]

Rn she has a boyfriend so it’s an oof and it’s rough

[Opinion Owner]

Ooo, yeah, that is tough... be there for her when they break up but don’t force it, ok?

[Asker]

I’ve been doing that but she thinks her boyfriend is “the one” and they’ve been together for three months. So I’m just there as her best friend. She also gets “hurt” when I distance myself

[Opinion Owner]

Oooo, I’m sorry :( ❤️ That’s the worst... I wish you luck—feel free to pm me if you need to vent about it, ok? I am GeekyGirl16

[Asker]

Ok thanks for the help.

[Opinion Owner]

No problem... wishing you the best!

[Greysbritney]

Boyfriends were once boy best friends so I think there's a possibility of falling in love if considered

[Asker]

I agree.

[sparklefairy]

No, I've never liked someone's friend better, classic grass is greener syndrome

[Asker]

Indeed, that’s true

[GinaTina]

I know one girls that does... and that seems to happen more with people younger than 20

[Asker]

Ahh that makes sense lol because I kind of like my female best friend and we’re both 16 and 17

[GinaTina]

Yeah I think the probability of happening is like 70% lol

[Asker]

Oh lol nice
Well my female friend believes her current boyfriend, is “the one”
So I doubt it’ll happen

[GinaTina]

you never kno, if she openly refers to you as her best friend, then once they break up, she'll come running to you. i know it'll happen

[Asker]

Although I’m not hoping for them to break up, if it happens then I wouldn’t know what to do tbh

[GinaTina]

well time will tell... good luck

[mooky06]

It happens to some girls. I’ve entertained that thought but got grossed out about it

[Asker]

Yeah I could see why
It would be like dating a brother or something

[mooky06]

Yeah pretty much. I know how some girls out there want that best friend type of relationship and establish romantic relationships like that. It’s just not for me

[Asker]

Yeah true

[milkwolves]

That's how I've gotten in to all of my serious relationships, they were my best friends, until the opportunity came when we were both single.

[Asker]

So would it be wise to ask the girl again after she has broken up with her current boyfriend?

[milkwolves]

Not right after, but stay close with her

[Asker]

That’s true
I’ll do that

[CottenBrick]

I don't think they do. Im really close friends with a girl, who will then go have sex with other guys all the time. I'm probably one of the only guys she hasn't had sex with.

[Asker]

That’s interesting

[awhitevwolfa]

I like how the girls are saying yes and the guys are saying no. So what does that really mean?

[Asker]

I know right lol
Who knows

[PrivateGurl1234]

I have he was my boss when we first met and now are best friends and I’m in love with him

[Asker]

Oh wow that’s crazy

[PrivateGurl1234]

Lol I know he doesn’t know how I feel but are you in love with your female best friend?

[Asker]

It’s a long story

[PrivateGurl1234]

Fair enough if you want share I don’t mind listening

[Asker]

Ok I’ll tell you. It’s a long explanation so

[PrivateGurl1234]

No worries I am a good listener

[Asker]

Ok, so I still kind of like my female best friend and it’s been a year now. However, she politely rejected me. And so for about a year and nine months I’ve been messed up because of her. Throughout all of this she’s been through break ups and stuff like that. Currently, she’s with a guy who treats her very well and I’m here wondering what to do now that she’s with a decent guy. Don’t get me wrong, I love having her as my best friend but it gets tough

[Asker]

And so last time when we were at school she had an outburst of anger towards me and so I messaged her and she said this.

I know you told me not to be hurt but I can't help it, you're my bestfriend and even if you distanced yourself from me for your own benefit I totally understand I wasn't going to be selfish I tell you no.

[PrivateGurl1234]

That would be really tough! It’s hard being rejected by someone you have such deep feelings for and to see them with someone else. I know this might be hard for you but maybe tell her again that your feelings haven’t changed and you feel that they won’t ever change! But do something out of this world for her before you tell her because she might realise deep down she feels the same way

[Asker]

Once she told me she would date me subconsciously, that was actually this past summer. I don't know if I should distance myself from her because she gets hurt since I’m her best friend

[PrivateGurl1234]

For now maybe that’s the best way to go to let her figure out what she wants and where she stands with you

[Asker]

It hurts to see her and her boyfriend everyday in the halls at school. I get the impression that she would miss me if I distanced myself again. Tomorrow I’ll talk to her see what’s up

[PrivateGurl1234]

That’s a very wise decision and if she doesn’t give you the answer you want just distance yourself again and let her come to you

[Asker]

I really don’t want to lose her from my life and so time is running out Since she’s a senior and I’m a junior in high school. I’ll try to distance myself but In a more quiet way or something

[PrivateGurl1234]

You won’t loose her just try to be calm and a bit quieter than usual and see if she comes to you and if not you need to speak up

[Asker]

I know she cares for me but it’s hard to see her with another man especially when there’s like three months with her. I’ll try to be quiet how you said though

[SirRexington]

I wish man... I wish. Hopefully you will have better luck.

[Asker]

Lol yeh I think you can tell why I’m asking lol

[depeche2015]

yes when they pass the uncomfortable stage.

[Asker]

Oh really

[yung_blud]

Yes. That's how I do it.

[Asker]

Oh really? Nice

[yung_blud]

Yeah I'm not very much into the whole romantic love at first sight thing. It's gonna take time and it would turn out awkward if I didn't have an established friendship with the guy beforehand

[Asker]

Yeah that makes sense to do that before. Some people think they’ve found the one after like three months lol

[SketchForger]

Sometimes for the worst reasons...

[Asker]

Yes that’s true

[TallGuy96]

Well she didn't with me

[Asker]

Same here it’s rough

[Anonymous]

No, they're generally friend zoned for life.

[Asker]

Ah I see
That makes sense

[skullfvcked]

I did. Twice.

[Asker]

I didn’t even think it was possible

[LongdongSilver2681]

In my experience no but you could be different

[Asker]

Possibly lol
Doubt it though

[boulshyte]

a little

[Asker]

Interesting

[gclark2708]

Not very often

[Asker]

Ahh I see then

[gclark2708]

As far as I know

[Anonymous]

i have errrrr

[Asker]

Lol oh

[cupidkisses]

Not always