Best friends as in (continuously) laughing together and having things to talk about/talking about the most random things, tease/joke with each other, etc.
I've had several best friends of either sex, and there is some truth that there is often something more or could be, but not necessarily that cut and dry/simple. Let's look at some real-life examples from my friendslist (names changed):
Megan: When we met, she was heartbroken over her ex, who she was really serious about and wanted to get back together with. I helped her heal her heart and was a friend who really had no intentions on her sexually/romantically. She's just a super fun amazing person and I love her, but I'm not attracted to her. We were friends for about 6 months and she had moved into my house, which was a communal living situation with about a dozen other people. She had her own room/space, but on Halloween we were drinking and hanging out in my room towards bedtime. I have no problem with my friends sleeping in my bed with me, so she was welcome, but she was feeling frisky and tried to make a move and kiss me. I stopped her and she was kind of embarrassed but it was okay and we went to sleep just cuddling not doing anything sexual or romantic. We've been close friends since and still did lots of stuff together.
Kaila-hua: She was a neighbor when I was in college, and we lived in a small community so I saw her around a lot anyway. We started hanging out, I would go to her house almost every day just to talk. I was not attracted to her, though she is beautiful and wonderful and super fun. She had a child, and I liked her child as well. So we were friends and did lots together, but she had other boyfriends/lovers and I had girlfriends/lovers. We would hang out and sometimes talk about our love lives to each other, just helping each other figure life out. There were a couple times we did mess around, had sex once and she gave me a bj once. Now she's kind of crushing on me the last 5-10 years and I'm pretty sure if I asked her to marry me she'd say yes, but I'm not interested in her like that. She had another child and made me godfather to them both. I love her, just not in that way. This is an example of one side catching some feelings, but she's more or less chill about it and I have good boundaries with her.
Celeste: I met her at work and we started hanging out and hooked up pretty quick. We were kind of friends with benefits for a while, but then just evolved into regular friends. She says stuff here and there about my attractiveness, but never makes moves and has hooked me up with a few of her friends. We were really close for a while, like best friend status, but then we drifted apart and she's got an angsty side that I can deal with to a certain point until she gets nasty/abusive personal with me, then I have to create distance.
Aponi: She was my friend's girlfriend, but we hung out all the time and talked about everything. I thought she was beautiful and I guess if I think about it I would be down to hook up with her, but not while she was dating my friend in a monogamous relationship. Even after they broke up though, I guess she never showed any interest in me romantically, so I wasn't really going to make a move; I like women to show their interest or I lose interest. But we were really tight friends. I was also pretty good friends with her friend (they moved out to CA together from WI or somewhere midwest), who was also attractive. I did show some interest in her friend who didn't return it, so we remained "just friends". So this is a good example of the interest being on my side, but it not really being a big deal and something that I got over/stopped when the interest wasn't mutual.
I could think of some other examples, but the basics of it are that sure there will be some attractions between sexually reproducing beings that enjoy each other's company. There may even be some sex or other intimacy, but there could also be none, it just depends on the two people and the situation.
But I will say YES you can be best friends and not have romance, it's totally possible. It might even start as a romance or go through a romance phase but then keep evolving.
Yes of course they can but it has to go through a little bit of a rough spot first.
And honesty.
you'll find out sooner than later probably
that when the guy starts hanging out with you and he likes you and he calls you friend and vice versa girls hanging out with guys
And she calls him friend.
you're going to find one of you likes the other one and maybe both of you like each other a little bit more than friendship
But that's when you have to stop and really be honest with yourselfs
if you were to really get together with this person do you think it would really last and the answer is usually no. so then you have to make a choice
And that choice is she's beautiful he's beautiful and I really want to get in their pants but I also know it's not going to work somewhere down the road.
And that's when you say what's more important getting into his or her pants
Or being true to yourself
And the other person and say you know I really would like to get into your pants LOL but we both know it's not going to work why don't we just be friends
And those are when the best friendships come out of it I have friends like that that I have been friends for 30 years with
Yes of course, my best friend is the opposite sex, we've known one another since we were 6 years old, we grew up in the houses next door to one another, went to the same primary school and hung out outside of school hours at both primary and secondary school. I dated his older brother for 9 years and he has been in a relationship with his girlfriend since we were 17 they were long distance until we were 24 and he then moved to Scotland so they could live together. We meet up every time he's in England or I'm in Scotland and during lockdown we had virtual drinks with a few of our friends. My ex accepted that most of my friends are male and that I would not end a friendship without a legitimate reason and my friends girlfriend has always been fine with me as she knows I'm not a threat in anyway as we're just friends almost like siblings.
Yes 🙌 can be. But sooner or later, someone or both will eventually fall for each other. It goes beyond attraction. It’s like you complete each other but at the same time, it feels wrong to go forward cause you’re both scared to lose what you have just in case it doesn’t work out. Been there a few times.
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In case one is gay, or they are not physically attracted to each other - yes.
I practice, it is very rare that a (single, straight) guy can be close PLATONIC friends with a girl - and remember that "platonic" isn't about actions or behavior, but about DESIRE.
Men aren't built to be "just friends" with girls, even if most girls can be just friends with guys. Men hit puberty and the testosterone starts flowing and it activates our instinctual drive to have sex with as many women as possible as often as possible. We didn't choose that any more than women choose periods and mood swings, but it's a fact of life.
If a guy is gay, or asexual, or has an incredibly low sex drive, or he's grown up with you and sees you like a sister (and his hormones don't override that, which they usually do), OR if he's already in a happy relationship, those would be the exceptions to the rule. But for the vast majority of guys? They might pretend to be "just friends" but they really want to have sex with you, and often want to date you (if you are friends, then they are usually attracted to your personality). What they don't want to be is "just friends".
Some guys will tell you this directly, and other guys will keep some distance between you so that you remain acquaintances rather than actual friends, because they don't want to mislead you. But some guys will pretend to be fine being "just friends" because they expect that, eventually, you'll either recognize that he has attractive qualities and want to date him or you will be lonely or angry at another guy and you will sleep with him. Pretending to be friends allows him to stay in your orbit until one of these things happen. And make no mistake, it's a deception, and every guy on the planet will instantly recognize it as such, even though most women are clueless, often intentionally, willfully so.
With only rare exceptions, men and women cannot be "just friends" because men just aren't built that way.
It's definitely possible for a guy and a girl to be just friends, without any romantic feelings or intentions being involved. However, it is also possible that one person or the other might develop romantic feelings for the other, even if the relationship started off as a friendship. It's important to communicate and be honest with each other about your feelings, and to respect each other's boundaries if one person is not interested in a romantic relationship. Ultimately, it's up to the individuals involved to determine what the nature of their relationship is, and to communicate and respect each other's feelings and needs.
I've been best friends with one girl for 21 years, as of next month. The closest we ever got, romantically, if you can even call it that, was about 20 years ago, we were together at her place just sitting next to each other listening to music. At one point, I accidentally kissed her on top of her head. Since then, she's been married once, had two kids with and 2 or 3 boyfriends after they divorced.
Another girl I've been best friends with since `81 up until about 4 years ago when she got pissed at me for not giving her my last 50 so she could buy cat food for a fucking stray cat!! In `83, we were lovers for a few weeks and even had sex. About 5 years ago, she decided she wanted to be my girlfriend again so, I gave it chance but, as much as we TRIED to fuck, we just couldn't make it happen so, she broke up with me a few weeks later.
Ofc. It's all mindset. You can choose to create the habit of seeing someone as a friend or you can choose to not control your mind and let it the outside control your mindset. For guys this would be letting their eyes control their mindset.
It's really that simple. Try it if you doubt me. If you do it long enough, you will find you will habitually view that person has nothing more than a friend.
Yes, I was friends with a girl. She was engaged to my college roommate. She really was my best friend for a while. We had lots of fun together and we really could talk about anything. I had a girlfriend at the time but if I didn't maybe things would have been different. She went away to grad school and I never saw her again
People who think opposite sexes can't be friends are unprepared for the emotional realities of life. Period.
Unless the 2 will end up marrying its point less. I am not a big fan of indulgence and pleasure for the sake of pleasure. Sex is there to have a family not for leisure. Once food became recreational and not for staying alive people started to be obese and get health problems and so is sex.
male and female cannot be just friends, only one exception would be, that those two people are friends, born, growup in same play grounds as close friends, usualy them families in close relationship too. and even then, after long tine not see that person, first look may be not as u expected to be.
I think at least one person will catch feelings for a while at some point, but that doesn't have to kill the friendship if both people are really committed to maintaining it.
in my experience yes. I've had 3 or 4 girls who i considered very close if not best friends at certain times and, as far as i know, romance and sex were never a problem
I don't know.. the more I think about it the less I think it is true.. Like it is possible sure but I think when you are friends you could most likely have sex with them.
Me and my boyfriend started off as best friends for 6 months… there was always deep love and chemistry between us which is why we are now dating. Not saying that this is the case with everyone, but if it is, your really lucky! A guy that started off as your best friend that you secretly had a crush on is the key to an amazing relationship 😄
Despite what most guys saying here, they're lying to themselves unless the girl is not attractive to him, no way. There'll always be lust going on.
My best friend is a girl I've known for years, and at this point I think my wife would be mad if we stopped being friends.
Yeah I have a girl best friend and we bout know not to cross that line I pretty much treat her like any of my male friends only difference is she a female and she more touchy but not in the sense of a sexual relationship type touchy
i would evemtually catch feelings for them , fanatize about them
They can be but usually one likes the other one
I hope there is something more in my situation specifically, I have a girl best friend, and I really like her !
In extremely rare cases, it is possible. Let's be real though; if you need to ask about your situation, you aren't one of those situations.
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