My best friend is body shaming me?

[__Veronica__]

Hey guys, so basically I've been best friends with this girl I met in high school for about 3 years now and recently she's been really harsh on me. She was always the kind of girl who thought she was the center of attention, and everyone pretty much fed her ego because everyone always calls her pretty, they always make eye contact with her only even when I'm sitting right beside her, people always call her name and hang out with her all the time. She also has a boyfriend, but she's always saying to me how cute the guys in our class are and how much she wants to kiss them, etc. You get what I mean?

I should also point out that she's really close with a girl who used to bully me and like they hold hands (in a friend way) and giggle all the time. If it were me I would totally ignore someone who bullies my best friend. When the bully says mean things to me in front of my best friend, she just stands there and says nothing at all. She doesn't even defend me. But when we're alone, she always talks bad about the bully. What if she does the exact same thing about me?

We had a fitness test today and I was wearing skin tight leggings. I have always been a really skinny person, it runs in my family, and no matter how much I eat I just can't gain weight. It has always been an insecurity of mine. I just hate my body. It makes me feel disgusted in myself. But today she said to me in a snarky way, "Hey guys, my name is (my name) and I have such skinny legs!"

When I came home I completely cried myself to death. I haven't told my childhood best friend yet but I will tomorrow. What should I do guys? It just makes me hate myself and I'm already depressed. I don't wanna report her.

[InfoBot]

She's a superficial idiot who goes whichever way the tide is going. Unfortunately that is often true of people at a younger age, when loyalty is more about who makes you look good and who best suits your popularity needs. I wouldn't think of this person as a best friend, more of a frienemy. She is someone that you should think of as a thing of convenience, to hang out with when you want but not put too much faith in. Don't go out of your way for her. If she says that you have skinny legs then just tell her that you have tried to make them fatter like hers but you can't eat enough cake to achieve that.

[That2kKid21]

Sometimes in life you have to KILL PEOPLE. And I don't mean that literally. Sometimes you have to get people out of your life. Just ex friend her. Doesn't mean you have to be all dramatic about it, but just separate yourself from her. They are sad people, that's why they do these things. Make better friends who actually care about you. Things will get better. And if you're really insecure about your body, go to the gym and work out! That will make you eat more and you will gain more weight. Good luck!

[-Wildfire-_]

If I where in your position I would ditch her, and find people who actually cared about me. Im sorry your friend is disrespecting you like that. If you are still upset about how she made you feel today, think about it like this - who's actually gonna judge and truly dislike you for your body frame? People probably have way more interesting things to do then laugh at your physical appearance, I would say your "friend" has insecurities about her own body and is trying to make herself feel better by putting you down. Good luck! ❤️

[Pink2000]

Honestly 2018 is the year where I will no longer put up with any negativity that is gonna make me cry, hurt my feelings, or make me feel some type of way. I suggest you do the same. However, I can be a little harsh so I would’ve said “at least I’m not a fat ass” she does not sound like your Bestfriend. You have to be careful with the people you let close to you. Sounds like she’s jealous

[peachblossomluck]

She is a total B. I am sure almost anyone would be a better friend. You need someone who doesn't degrade you and tease you about things you can't help. Most girls your age have some body insecurity and you need to lose her more than you need to gain any weight.

[Potestas]

It is very important that you don't try to change yourself just for other people! But if you are unhappy with your body you could try to work out a little. You could start with a home work out with cheap dumbbells and if you like it you could start going to a fitness center. If you aren't happy with yourself, that isn't necessarily a sign of low self-esteem. There is nothing wrong about trying to improve yourself.

[Potestas]

Obviously she isn't a real friend. Dump these people as soon as you can. Because if you don't get rid of The wrong friends you can't meet the right ones and waste your time with people who feel nothing for you.

[Anonymous]

She does not sound like a "bestfriend". Bestfriends don't do stuff like that. You need to find new friends, not someone who makes fun of you to try to be cool. Her looks will fade, you'll see in 10 years that she's pregnant and in an unhappy marriage. Always happens.

[WLE99]

Honestly, I have no idea what you should do... there's one thing tho, don't be insecure about something that you can't change. People have to just deal with it and if they don't then it's their problem and not yours. You're 'best friend' isn't such a best friend by the way.. you dont necessarily have to ditch her but like don't go in to detailed conversations with her because I don't really think that if you tell her a secret that it's going to stay a secret, j thing she's a snitchy type.
I don't know if this was useful but I thought that it's really shitty what happend/is happening so I wish you the best of luck and -Don't let anyone tell you, you ain't beautiful -

[AlisonCrystal]

she is ruuuude. She is probably jealous of your skinny legs. Drop her. She is toxic. I just dropped my Bff ''best fake friend'' two months ago and my life is so much better

[Galaxyguy96]

This girlfriend seems to have a lot of insecurities. She is bagging on you and constantly wants to be the center of attention. Which means one of two things, she is either a very mean person who can't handle NOT being the center of attention or she is very lonely inside and needs attention to fill a hole inside her. Either way she is being very mean to you and you might want to find a different friend if she continues this behavior

[yazid_]

this is the type of people who don't care about others and just hangs with everyone ans treat them so randomly, i know it's harsh and all, but try to be less insecure about your body, you're not alone, everyone has insecurities and everyone gets criticized whether for their body or something else :).

[ChelseaGlow]

If my friend said that, I’d call her a fat slag and jog on past her, jog all the way to her dads work, walk into his office and sit on his lap, FaceTime my “friend” and say that her daddy was my daddy now. I’d ruin that bitches life. Don’t take shit.

[icedtea]

she is not a best friend is she does that you shouldn't feel that way because of a friend or anyone you need t report her because it can worse trust me I've been through the same thing if you need someone to talk to about it im open

[sparkly_unicorn]

The exact same situation is happening to me she doesn't defend me or anything so I found new friends and if I'm gonna be honest I miss her but I think you should find some new friends as I feel free but just to warn you if you do you will miss her but it will go away

[Shimy]

From what you said, she doesn't seem like a real friend

[Anonymous]

I was teased by "friends" in high school too, I found out after high school ended that they weren't good friends so I dropped them. I wish I did it earlier... I still struggleto except my skinniness

[FluffyBee]

She isn't your best friend. Best friends support each other.

[jason1776]

Body shaming in general is just a type of insult created by the political left, therefore, not credible.

[DinaM]

She doesn't sound like a very good friend at all.

[smartguyone]

what exactly your friend says?