How do you deal with your best friend who is constantly trying to compete with you?

[Anonymous]

She wasn’t like that before, which is why we became best friend. She used to be nice, but lately she has shown some unpleasant attitude towards me, when I all I wanted is to have each other’s supports. She is a highschool dropout, single mum with 5 kids from different men, has no permanent job and always hook up with
random guys. I never judge her lifestyle because it is her body, but I feel like she is using me as a punching bag to lash out her anger for some reasons. She skinny shamed me just because she is on the heavier side, upset when I get more male attention than her IRL and social media as well. I have tried helping her with her diet many
times but she didn’t seem to cooperate as much. I also helped her to get a job once and she quit after a few days 😑
Now the issue is, I work hard for my body goal, earn my own money by having a proper job, take care of myself and all but all she wants to do is to compete and compete. She told my other friend that I am so into myself just because she saw my bikini photo tranformation recently. She also told this friend that I used to sleep around like her as well and my lifestyle is pretty much the same as her when it is not true. Has anyone experienced something similar?

[Anonymous]

You know what they say — misery loves company. She’s unhappy with her life so she wants everyone to be that way and it’s honestly so negative and toxic. I had a friend like that and let me tell you how that feeling of them draining you instantly goes away once you cut ties. Yeah you don’t want it to come to that because of your history as good friends but the past isn’t the present and she is not that person anymore. People grow apart in life and that is ok. I guess what I’m trying to say is, if the friendship is no longer serving you in a positive way then she’s got to go. It hurts a lot, a very painful decision I know first hand. But it’s already enough trying to protect you mental health and stay positive in this world, you don’t need someone close trying to bring you down to their level of unhappiness.

[Asker]

Thank you for your response. You are right about letting her go from my life. I really miss our time together and how we used to have each other’s back but now othing seems to be the same.

[Opinion Owner]

I totally get how you’re feeling, but it’s just important to remain present and don’t keep allowing your history to be what keeps you in this situation.

[Cakegirl]

It sounds like she is jealous of you, what I would do is talk with her maybe something is bothering her and let her know that you are there for her.
If she continues to do this which is in the toxic friendship category id cut her out you don't deserve a friend who constantly puts you down because that is not a friend at all.