Girls, Girl kind of led me on playing hot/cold but has a boyfriend.. confused?

[Rauchyracer]

first involved staring a lot , listening in, trying to sneak glances. i caught her talking to her friends about me. she look at me with confidence and others nervously after trying to smile at me.

She would get super anxious and fidget a lot. And try to sneak glances. When caught she wouldn't know to look or not or smile and look away fast. She got jealous if seen me talking to another girl and get upset and avoid looking at me.

decided to speak to her and try and make her comfortable Once a week I would sit with her and talk about loads of stuff and with her friends but there all introverted. She was still nervous and shy and would constantly play with her hair or just giggle at everything etc. She started looking at me loads in class and continued talking about me to her friends. Once I decided to compliment her looks but we was kind of shy. I had to leave for class and she kept staring and talking about me like all her quietness went away but when she noticed I caught her talking about me she stopped and stared.

I backed off and stopped talking with her and disappeared. If i walk in to the library. her friends kept staring at me , and she watches me when i return books when she's studying and looks me in the face like she's upset and blushes. Before she knew i stopped having lunch she was happy then everytime i saw her she looked depressed. which normally after we talk or I make it known I like her she gets really happy and talkative.

found out she and her friends hiding from me that she has a boyfriend. why would she hide that

Then act this way when I stop having lunch or talking to her also I disappeared from college due to training committments for 6 weeks.

Icame back, I didn't talk, and she looked unhappy. in class I smiled when looking at her and she tried to stop herself from smiling. she starts staring at the ground the whole class looking upset and sad. Then i look at her and she avoids eye contact and looks sensitive.

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So then I look away and she secretely look at me. Then at the end of class I was talking to my friend and sge stared at me ignoring everything else. continued not to talk. but all she does take quick glances or pretend I don't exist which it feels like she doing on purposeAlso if i walk past and dont say hi. But hi to someone behind her she goes silent even if she was talking. Then they love wait till they get enough dustance and talk about me again. I don't understand as one time she super shy

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was sat opposite in meeting she looked depressed. After sge was looking down making drink. I lked sge try not to smile. Fail and locked eyes and we was staring and smiling.

Week after I ask her out. Sge said sge had boyfriend. I said can I have number. She said no. I said I give her mine if it don't workout call me. She said no i saud why she said she been with him long time. I ask why she been smiling at me then. she got defensive and said just being nice.

[fallen_wings]

Okay, so there's a thing that when you make a lot of eye contact with someone, you get more and more interested in that person.
Probably she got interested in you in that way, yet she can't hide the fact that she already has a boyfriend (also sometimes can happen that girls say they have one when they don't lol)
so good luck

[Rauchyracer]

She definitely has one. As at the end of my story it says she tells me she has one when I offer to ask her out. Also I check her Facebook and she has one for a while. But sge got real defensive and wouldn't even have me on social media. Maybe because her boyfriend questions every guy she adds so sge wants to keep me secret or something

[fallen_wings]

that true.

[munchpuffiness]

She is confused with her own feelings. She is probably feeling guilty that she likes you even though she has a boyfriend and when you stop talking to her, she was hurt.

[Rauchyracer]

You must be right considering all that has happened. How can you tell she is confused. Also when she was hurt first when i stopped approaching and second when I disappeared for 6 weeks. But then cold with me if I actually do talk to her

[munchpuffiness]

Because she has this inner battle of wanting to talk to you and at the same time not wanting to talk to you because she has a boyfriend. Well tbh i've been in the same situation with the girl. I liked this guy but since i was currently in a relationship with someone that time i try to avoid him as much as i can but at the same time i can't stop wondering about him and taking some peek or looking at the crowd just to see him.

[Rauchyracer]

I think you are right. Because after the very first time I introduced myself. She seemed really happy like extremely happy. Then 2 hours later in the library I saw her on her own. And she was trying to concentrate on her laptop. But couldn't and looked like she was emotionally fighting herself.

Just don't understand why she one minute acting all upset and making it known to me because I avoided her and stopped talking. Then i disappeared and when I came back i smiled and she tried not to smile shyly. Then she reverts to looking depressed and upset. And staring at ground and looking upset I try to look sge wouldn't look back and got sensitive. So I left it. Then she just pretend I don't exist. So 3 week later I try to say hi. And she was awkward. Then i walk past and dont say hi cz she never say hi and she and her friends stops talking. All of them are introverted. But we won't ever see each other again after 5 weeks

[Rauchyracer]

So that's what led me to ask her out. I think it was way to forward but she got defensive. Wouldn't have me on social media or anything. But I think her boyfriend is quite emotional manipulative and controlling. Maybe she doesn't want him to find out she has feelings for me and start questioning about me. She has other guys. So quite clearly that in itself has confused me lol