Am I wrong for not wanting to date a girl who wears a weave?

[Anonymous]

As a black guy, it is almost expected of me to not care if my future girlfriend (if I get one, not sure if I want one) wears a weave, but I do care. I don’t want ANY girl, doesn’t matter the skin color, that wears a weave. I prefer natural hair. Of course I know that girls don’t usually wear weaves to impress guys, but I simply don’t find wearing a weave attractive. Am I wrong for believing that?

[SavageRae4Ever]

You are not necessarily wrong but you are making things hard for yourself.
This world has changed not only dark skin women love changing their hair all the time, so the white women too. Hella white girl have extensions on.
“We” (black women) don’t even do that to impress anyone or even because we want to, we fucking need that, “we” black women kinda don’t have the time to be managing dry hair that shrinks like crazy LOL, and we are artists that like to express with our hairs...
It is, what it is. Your woman will wear a weave so don’t even trip my nugga like just stop making a scene !!! Hopefully u find those exotic bitches with curly Brazilian waves if not then just fucking let your girl wear her wigs and weaves it’s no that deep. U don’t need to touch her head. U just need her heart and her pussy at end of the day. Stop this shit bruh

[Asker]

Yeah I do need her heart, but I don’t need her “pussy” all that much (I don’t know why you even used that word.) extensions are different from weaves. You still mainly use your natural hair when wearing extensions. While with weaves you’re wearing an entirely different hairstyle that is not from your own head. I don’t necessarily count wearing weaves as an art form, but then again art is defined by the observer so more power to you. My woman won’t be wearing a weave because I’m not attracted to that. Either I get a girl who’s natural or I don’t get one at all. I’m perfectly fine being alone for the rest of my life too.

[SavageRae4Ever]

Ok then. Good for you.
Stay alone or with some chick, I don’t care none of my business. Not my life.
What would you do, if you found your perfect lady with her perfect natural hair. Things turn like this —-> U (u-turn) <——
The girl gets cancer, her hair is falling. So you gonna leave her because u don’t like fake hair?

[Asker]

A cancer victim is different from a girl who wears weaves for fun or because she’s insecure. It’s unfair to compare the two.

[SavageRae4Ever]

No it’s really not.
It’s the exact same thing.
Just like those who really depend on it are insecure about themselves. Patients with cancer are also insecure because their health condition.
Insecurity, end of the story.
Or for fun.
Either way you might have to deal with someone who’s going to do it for fun, or things turn around and that someone might have to do it because of insecurity.
Either way, you’ll have to deal with it bruh.
If I was you, I would simply accept that and let my girl do it for fun. Rather than (because you are such a dick about it), being unfortunate and actually having to deal with your woman who wears a wig for the rest of her life, because she’s got cancer!!!
Change your thoughts bruh.
Not sending miss fortune your way, simply being honest. The things you hate the most in life can find a way to come torment u

[Asker]

I don’t hate weaves I’m just not attracted to them. You know that you can be turned off by something and also not hate it at the same time right? And am I suppose to save the day by comforting a random girl’s insecurities? I just HAVE to be attracted to weaves, because it’s my duty as a man to be that way? Or can I just say that I’m not attracted to them and I’m not willing to date a girl who wears them and I’m perfectly fine being single if things don’t go my way? I’d choose the latter.

[Asker]

Also I don’t only date black women. In fact I tend to date outside my race. Black women aren’t the only women to wear weaves and this goes for ALL women not just black women. I prefer to date a girl who likes her original hair.

[SavageRae4Ever]

I am supposed to be that “random girl” with insecurities?
It’s not about being attracted to weaves. It’s about accepting your partner fully. If she likes it, let her do it. You can meet a girl that loves her natural hair like me, but obviously kinda needs protective hairstyle because of maintaining real African hair (without chemicals) takes awhile.
So it that was the case would u still date her, or be annoyed about it.
Cuz I’m growing my real shit I just choose to be protecting it, rather than let it break and shit. So what would u do? Would u be proud and complain about the whole weave or would u Be more understanding?
Lol

[Asker]

Why are you assuming that I would date a girl wearing a weave in the first place? I can usually tell if a girl is wearing one or not. If not, then I’ll ask. There is no need to support my girlfriend wearing a weave if my girlfriend isn’t going to wear one in the first place.

[Dchrls78104]

@Asker I'm with you, bro. I feel the same way about thongs on girls.

[Selena2418]

As a black woman, it is completely okay to feel this way. I wish more women of color went natural and embraced it. I've been a natural girl my whole life, and I'm so. thankful my. mom never changed my. hair growing up. Was I made fun of, of course, but it really made me. appreciate my natural. self.

[Selena2418]

Thanks for the MHO

[YinLong]

I can't say you're right or wrong in your way of thinking. But I can say you'll be in for a shock how many women wear weaves, wigs, extensions so to totally get past it isn't so easy. If it's those girls with the terrible weave sure I can understand that but would you prefer Shaka Zulu/Viola Davis without the weave or wigs or would you rather Khadijah Haqq and her twin with weaves lol. Preference and tolerance has to do with it surely I don't mind weaves or wigs personally but having natural hair is great but I acknowledge as someond with hair it's not easy to maintain or style and beauticians will charge you ridiculously.

[Asker]

Interesting input, but I don’t mind extensions and on occasion, wigs

[Trolloween]

Yes they are extremely gross and unhygenic too. Also sick of people culturally appropriating white culture.

[Asker]

Are you saying that I’m wrong for not liking them or yeah you’re right?

[Trolloween]

No you're not wrong at all everyone has references.

[ninjafemme]

Wearing a straight wig or weave you think is appropriating white culture?

[Trolloween]

It's just a joke/satire, since that's what people say if a white person had an afro or corn rows or wore something considered Asian. Just funny to me that people can legit bleach their skin and wear a wig to look white and not a word is said.

[ninjafemme]

It's not white because you can be black and look like this naturally.

[Trolloween]

OK show me an example of a black woman with straight blonde hair. Or just straight hair, the keyword being black woman not mixed race woman

[ninjafemme]

And you can be white with an afro. You can be born with blonde hair if you black and straight hair also blue eyes. Did you know that. Culture appropriation is stupid.

[Trolloween]

Yes it's very stupid and makes no sense at all. How can wanting to incorporate something you like about another culture into your own life be a bad thing? It's so stupid since it's close to the opposite of racist. But nope I have never seen a blonde haired blue eyes black person all the same. Not without wearing a wig and contacts etc

[Asker]

Mind if I put my two cents in? I hate the idea of cultural appropriation too! I love learning about Chinese culture, more specifically learning about their ancient wisdom (through reading about Confucius) and taekwondo techniques through the learning of understanding and history of the Shaolin temple, And learning about Chinese teas, but people say that it’s cultural appropriation. It’s annoying

[ninjafemme]

So then wtf have you seen in your 30 years Jesus get out more.

[Trolloween]

There's no culture that isn't based off several others. I am British and we're stereotypical tea drinkers, so maybe that was taken from China and then we spread it to places like India. So is it British to drink tea or not?

[Asker]

True very true. It shouldn’t matter either way

[ninjafemme]

Okay makes sense you British I don't think there's people like this there.

[Trolloween]

Yeah well Britain has always taken bits and pieces from different cultures I don't see anything wrong with it. One of the most English foods is curry for example, who cares.

[ninjafemme]

But you never seen an albino out of curiosity because I know there are in Britain.

[Trolloween]

Not irl but yes in documentaries. Not really the same thing though

[ninjafemme]

Not in real life... then this convo is over for me because you don't know what I'm talking about since you haven't even encountered these people. It's not the same... lmao.

[Trolloween]

Alibinoism is not the same as someone being born with blue eyes and blonde hair. It's a mutation that affects anyone of any species that means you have no pigment. It's just two separate things

[ninjafemme]

cough*

[Leeda]

no that's not wrong. Your preferences are your preferences and if u don't like something like this, it isn't a problem.
From the other hand... some women wear them cuz they feel insecure, but they are good people at all and you might miss some real treasure by avoiding them. Because once you get closer you can ask her to stop wearing it and support her, so she will feel better looking natural...
But yeah, there are lotta other women without it so you can date only them. There is differently nothing wrong in it

[nathanp97]

So girls are fine with their boyfriends telling them what to wear? I just assumed it wasn't okay😂

[Leeda]

not all girls but I would be ok with that if the boy knew how to say it nicely. Telling her that her natural hair look beautiful as they are (without the weave) is way better then saying "I hate weaves"

[Lilmomma09]

I don't think you're wrong. Weaves aren't natural hair. It's okay to be attracted to Natural looks. Actually it's a good thing. I'm not saying people are wrong for wearing weaves but it's not their real hair. So if at the end of the night they take their weave off and they've got a bald head that's something a lot of men wouldn't be attracted to. I am white and my hair is very long so I guess I don't really have a reason to wear a weave. So maybe I am out of line with answering this question. But I have a lot of black people in my family and all the girls have their natural hair and honestly I think it's very pretty natural as long as a girl takes care of her hair.

[Xoxocutekitty]

Not wrong, as long as it is not used to justify jerkish behavior later. Example of said behavior: I hooked up with his chick one night but then found out she had a weave so I got my rocks off fast but would never date her because that's gross of her to want to wear something so gross like that.
Fine behavior: cute girl with weave flirts with you. Smiles back and respectfully declines stating reason of personally preference only when prompted and without morally Superior tone.

[IndieGirlJess]

So I wonder what girls think about guys wearing toupes or other hair pieces? I think a girl should wear her hair in any way where she feels it suits her the best.

[Asker]

Physical attraction is the first step to a relationship

[IndieGirlJess]

So weaves do not make a girl attractive? When I think of weaves it is just longer strands of hair that she weaves in to make her hair look longer and fuller. How is that much different than wearing makeup, to make them look more attractive than they are? But I guess she could always do the Sinead O'Connor look for you and go bald. I hope the girls you are interested in don't like Afros.

[Asker]

Those sound more like extensions... a weave is where she weaves in a whole new hair style that covers her entire head in a different person’s hair.

[IndieGirlJess]

Wouldn't that be more or a wig?

[Asker]

A wig isn’t stitched in and you can take it off whenever you want. A weave is stitched in. So you have to sleep in it and everything.

[BuchitaBuchys]

It's not wrong. You're not obligated to date anyone. And you have your reasons, people may not agree with them, but you're the one who'll be spending the rest of your life, presumably, with your partner, not them.
Just remain respectful and I'd say you're better off not saying the reason why you're rejecting them is because of weave.

Quick question, how do you feel about hair extensions or wigs?

[Asker]

Both are ok in my book. Hair extensions are used to lengthen the look of your hair, but it’s not a completely different hairstyle. If you take off hair extensions, you’ll still look the same because you’re still mainly using your own hair. Wigs are ok on occasions. As long as you don’t wear one every day then it’s fine (by occasions, I mean during Halloween parties or some sort of costume party)

[BuchitaBuchys]

Hmmm. Ok. So if a black woman were to wear extensions that looked like her hair, it'd be ok with you?

[Asker]

Yeah that would be fine

[BuchitaBuchys]

So you're not against hair pieces, you're just against changing your features to something other than what you have?

[Asker]

That’s correct

[BuchitaBuchys]

Well, I can't say I don't disagree with you. If I were a dude, I wouldn't want a chick who wore weave, wore makeup and especially not excessive makeup, or any padded bras or underwear. I have small boobs and I can understand the insecurity and slight "pressure" women face to look as close to perfect, but I'd rather he fall for me than an illusion of "perfection".

Call me old fashion, but I prefer a natural beauty. I just want the woman who I wake up next to, to look like the same woman she is throughout the day. That's just me though...

Good luck :)

[Salmon4056]

That is nothing to be ashamed of. A friend of mine told me the same thing about how he disliked it as well and liked natural hair lol. But overall some people may not agree with you. I only like and wear braids (as you can see in profile pic lol), and I just be natural. I don't like straight hair weave and scary stuff like that, but that's just my opinion.

[Salmon4056]

*and how he like my natural hair

[djmzes]

U decide...

[Blunique]

To each his own. It's who you are and what you like. Everyone has preferences and it's normal! I feel like not liking a weave is less of a big deal than most people.

[loyalblunthonest]

I dont think personal taste is wrong but if she's doing something to make herself feel confident and comfortable with herself especially something as simple as hair i dont think that should be a dealbreaker. I dont think a weave is a style choice more than its a comfort choice

[Celq532]

It's not right or wrong. It's a matter of your preference.
Just don't come crying if girls say they don't want to date a guy who doesn't like girls wear weave or anything like that though. Cause that'd be hypocritical.

[Anonymous]

No. There's nothing wrong with having a preference. and don't do things because it's "expected" of you because of your ethnicity. It's your life not theirs, you'll have to live with your choices, if you force yourself to date a girl with a weave and you don't like it, you'll be unsatisfied and unhappy in the relationship. So make your own choices, and make sure you won't regret them.

[Anonymous]

Are you wrong? No. But it sure does suck. Wearing weave is fun and it helps with growing and protecting the real hair..
O well, there are plenty out there who are more accepting

[Asker]

Like I said, it may be fun for you guys. Obviously most girls do it for theirselves, but I simply don’t find it attractive. I don’t know what’s under that weave and it seems fake. It’s like girls who wear too much makeup. I’m not attracted to it

[Opinion Owner]

Ok. And like I said, YOU ARE NOT WRONG.
And there are plenty out there that don’t mind.

[Journeyman11]

You say he's not wrong, but I still detect a slight hint of sand in your words

[Opinion Owner]

Okay.
I meant what I said the first time. He isn’t wrong but it sucks. O well. There are other people who feel differently. That’s it.

[The_Sage]

Brother, where did you hear that we're automatically expected to like a woman's weave? At the end of the day, they are their own women and I don't have to like it.

[Asker]

Damn near everywhere. A woman on here called me gay because I wasn’t attracted to weaves.

[Dchrls78104]

@Asker I hate thongs. I wouldn't date a girl that wears them. So I must be gay, too. 😂😂😂

[ninjafemme]

Is it wrong.. I think it's your preference thats it.

[Afrochick]

Typical feminine conquered male habits
Worry about building and investing... not a woman's' beauty routine.

[WhyUHatin]

Anytime anything starts off as... As a black guy... In gonna think you sound like a gay coon. Sincerely, from a black woman.

[Asker]

And because I’m not attracted to girls who wear weaves that somehow correlated to me being gay? Is this logical to you?

[Asker]

Correlates*

[Asker]

The only reason you think I’m “gay” is because you’re butthurt about me not being attracted to girls who wear weaves and actually wanting girls who wear their NATURAL HAIR like any normal straight person, but instead you present yourself as a low IQ person who doesn’t take into fact logic and reasoning and calls me gay.

[BuchitaBuchys]

Ironic username. Why are YOU hating? Lmao

[JavaJay]

Nope, that is your opinion on it and you do with that as you choose. People can tell you that it is wrong but preference is preference and only you can change that.

[Anonymous]

I get you, I have insanely long and natural hair. But if it was a weave and I was a guy I'd nope tf out too.

[pooper89]

I’m sure there are plenty of fish in the sea who don’t wear them. I don’t think it’s a problem

[Dchrls78104]

No more than I am for not wanting a girl that wears a thong.
You want natural beauty in a decent woman.

As do I.