I always freeze up around this girl I like?

[Anonymous]

This is kinda long, but any help would be really appreciated...

There's one girl I really like, more than any girl. With other girls, if I like them I just get somewhat turned on when I see them (just being honest). But with her, I get this warm and fuzzy feeling and the turn on is minimal (even though she's gorgeous) and I care about how she's feeling. I find my mind wandering to think about her often and look forward to seeing her, even in passing. I don't freeze up around other girls I like, just her. What kills me is that she liked me at one point, then started avoiding me after she thought I was weird and stalking her. As for that, I wasn't stalking her per say, just looking around in different areas for her at lunch, so I could talk to her. I probably shouldn't have (that was a year ago), but I'm kind of socially awkward and sometimes do something, like that, that could be considered socially unacceptable.

I've given her space the last three months, totally ignored her. I want to talk to her again, but freeze up whenever I see her. I could plan something to say, then totally forget once I make eye contact with her. Perhaps this is part of why she thinks I'm creepy. I'm totally mesmerized when I look at her, and then end up saying something dumb or just staring. At this point, I wouldn't be opposed to just being a friend. Just being around her makes me happy. I'm in HS btw

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I know her from last year (we both did the same sport). I hung around her at lunch and chatted while she was working on stuff.

[Mickie02]

Just relax when your around her,

dont think about all those times when you messed up in front of her

Be confident when your around her because then shell think something is wrong with you.

We girls aren't as scary as guys think, we just want honesty and maybe if your honest with her shell like what you have to say.

[Anonymous]

dude relax...girls like guys that are confident. build up that courage and just start a conversation with her. start by saying "hey" when you walk by her.

[Asker]

I have confidence with other girls, but it's like with her, I think about how I said the wrong thing last year (I told her that she shouldn't put up with her boyfriend telling her what she can/can't do when she said her boyfriend wouldn't let her give me her number), and think about a joke that creeped her out (I made up with her at the beginning of this year only to make a bad joke: "stalking me again [name]?". I worry about screwing up again

[Opinion Owner]

keep trying...i'm sure she doesn't remember all the conversations she had with you. when you say something weird or lame just say "i'm just kidding" or change the topic really fast. don't talk about her personal issues (her boyfriend)...if it comes up, just change the topic to something generic like school work or something.

[Asker]

She probably does remember the boyfriend conversation. That's what caused things to go downhill, until she thought I was being creepy... So you're a girl, if you think I'm weird or creepy and I like you, would 3 months of not talking to you change anything?

[Opinion Owner]

honestly, nope it really wouldn't change anything. I would think of it as a relief : "oh thank god, the weird kid is leaving me alone." I know for me, if I think a guy is creepy and weird, I wouldn't change that opinion unless he said or did something to change it. maybe try talking with other people normally in front of her...making sure she can hear. if you try to talk to her and mess up again just say "sorry, I'm being weird again. It's just that I like you. I'll leave you alone"

[Opinion Owner]

...give her some time, if she likes you, she'll let you know. at least she won't think your totally a creep if you say something like that.

[Asker]

Hey guys, thanks for your help. I posted a follow-up question here:

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Any advice is appreciated!