Why would a man compete against a woman he likes?

[Anonymous]

Why would a man compete against a woman, when the woman is also the one he is initially trying to impress and attract?

A man I know teases, compliments, asks my whereabouts from a close friend of mine, and has had the nerve to say "I love you" (jokingly) and "You are sexy" (seriously). Well, I am not numb to think that somehow, he has a thing on me.

But why is it that he also seems to "compete" against me? When I try to speak in class, his comments are negative and he makes sure that when it's his turn to speak, his speech is better than mine (even pointing the flaws from my speech!). When I speak about my dad, he speaks about his family the next time! When he compliments about how sexy I look in my dress, he also says I'm going to attract admirers (in a manner that seems to imply I'm intentionally dressing to attract admirers)!

He's kind of sweet. But he's also mean. He once told my friend that I'm "difficult". It's quiet confusing.

Please share some thoughts guys! ?

[Itiswhatitis8888]

Because he's a bully deep down. I knew a guy like this. He liked a girl but competed to one up her all the time. He would put her down in front of people too. He wanted her to be the chaser constantly & would withhold feelings until she felt insecure & would come asking him why he wasn't showing love. He wanted her to constantly chase him so he felt a sense of a security. Super low vibration that couldnt compete with her even if he tried. Her warm personality & awesome energy dominated his bs & her presence lit up a room. She always had opportunities flowing in. He was secretly jealous of her but also wanted to dominate her. It was a bad dual energy. Once he got her energy, he moved on & would jump to the next amazing girl he could say he was able to dominate. Dont fall for the crap. Being nice while competing openly in a jerkish way does not make them cute. It means they are a wolf in sheeps clothing. A piece of shit is still a piece of shit even if it’s wrapped in ribbon.

[chatforfun]

Seems the guy is really a good guy and dos not want any rejection from your side. He is bit scared to ask you directly. May be you should ask this face to face

[Asker]

Thanks for answering. He is really a good guy - good friend, good classmate, good son, a real gentleman. Only that I'm taller than him. I can't ask him directly about what's on my mind because I don't know how to react if ever he opens up. (But how I can fall for him if he's always trying to act superior around me? He does not have to prove anything. *Sigh) Sometimes, I feel guilty for distracting his mind.

[chatforfun]

Try to make him jealous , then he will open up :)

[lv4lv]

Jealous isn't the right way to go. Jealous will make him shut down and try to stay away from you until whatever he's jealous of goes away. He's lacking confidence, don't put him in a spot where he feels he isn't wanted.

[Heavenly_Ebony]

Both of you are excusing poor behavior by an adult. He needs to take his focus off of women and put it on his personal growth.