Why do I feel like I have to seduce every man?

[Anonymous]

I am a 25 year old female and I don't feel validated unless i try to seduce every man. It can be a dentist, stranger, date, etc. Is this a self esteem thing?

[SteveSmith1985]

yes, I think it is a self-esteem thing. I think it's a matter of never having learned the difference between "good attention" and "bad attention"

You seem to find a whole lot of your validation from the wrong kind of attention.

I'm afraid I don't really know how to go about re-orienting yourself to feel validated from the right kind of attention.

[markscott]

Yes, it likely is a self esteem thing. It sounds like you don't like acting as you do. If you seen a personal counselor or therapist, you can get help in identifying why you do this, and find ways to get your needs met without needing validation by seducing. It will make a very good change in your life.

[Aphrodite801]

Maybe you feel like you’re unattractive?

[Anonymous]

What is it that makes you feel like that? Is it that you want all men to want you as a person? Or do you just want to get all men physically excited?

[Protein_mate]

You should really see a psych

[bangyourhead]

Need my number?

[Asker]

Lmao no thanks

[Billie_]

You have a problem.

[Asker]

Elaborate please...

[TheCloud2]

and why is that?

[Billie_]

Sounds like histrionic personality disorder.

Why would you want to seduce every man just to dump them all. Don’t see the point.

[TheCloud2]

maybe she is not going to dump them all fast

[Asker]

... Seduce every man for validation not just because their pawns to my ego.

[Billie_]

Validation of WHAT exactly? That you’re still attractive?

Do you actually plan on sleeping with or going on dates with any of these men long term?

[Asker]

Both validation of my appearance and me actually looking for a serious partner.

[TheCloud2]

you sound like a man, just want sex

[SteveSmith1985]

"Asker... This is the very worst way to find a serious partner. Are you looking at the hot guy who suduces every woman, as " serious partner" material?