Is he a stalker/creep or just a really nice guy?

[Anonymous]

So I met this guy yesterday for the very FIRST time, by a mutual friend. His name is "george" and our mutual friend is geezy...point is she meet him online but we go to school together, she wanted to talk to him but was to nervous so I made up an excuse that I had to go to the bathroom so we could pass by him and she could say "HI". she introduced me to him, chit chat for a bit and go back to our table to study. George texts geezy about me asking her who I was and that he that I was beautiful. She didn't respond to his text. Geezy and I got hungry so we went to BK and george came with us. He began talking to me reciting some of his poems to us. As we are about to leave he asks for my #, I gave it to him, he was sweet and shy...not like other guys, BUT as soon as I get to class he texts me that I was beautiful and gorgeous, he was glad he meet me and that he fell in love with me (love at first sight)...I thought that was touching, but way too fast. I told him I was happy to meet a new friend, I get home and constantly texts me about how much he loves me and he's been waiting for someone like me. George even wrote me a song, he left me 12! messages this morning when I told him clearly I just wanna be friends first. I don't know what to do...He seems so sweet but he is just going way to fast, I don't feel the same way and I'm not even sure I want a relationship. I mean he's attractive, I feel suffocated and I'm not even in a relationship with this guy. Should I continue being his friend and maybe we will be something in the future or just tell him I want nothing with him so I won't hurt him

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So a day has passed and my friend Geezy told him to pretty much get lost and to leave me alone, that I was already talking to someother guy, but for someone reason every time I get a text I want it to be from him, Is it compassion that I'm feeling?

[syringabird]

I while ago I was in the same situation.

There was a guy in my class who told me I was his dream girl and the love of his life after he just met me for the first time.

My advice is tell him clearly that you have no interest. Ignore his massages, if he comes to you tell him that his behavior makes you uncomfortable, that you don’t want to talk to him when he is like that and if you have to ignore him.

Believe me, being nice and telling him that you could be friends isn’t helping. I did that. I told this guy that I just don’t feel anything for him but we could try and be friends. That didn’t make anything better. Best is to tell him clearly that you want nothing with him.

[thingstobesaid]

you feel suffocated now? imagine if you were actually in a relationship with this guy. If you are into him then give a chance and really put it out there that you want to take things slow and if he doesn't get that then you should be concerned with this guy. When someone is all over you like this sometimes you do need to be assertive and not worry about their feelings so much, the more you are nice the more they'll take things to wrong way.

[postt]

theres a guy who did this with a girl I like and she tells me about it lol he doesn't say he loves them but he talks to them even when they tell him to screw off and wrote songs for a few girls I don't know the guy seems like a puss to only say that through text messages if you think you might like him you can tell him to chill the f*** out and you can be friends.. in a nicer way ofc lol and if you get to know him and have feelings for him there you go if he turns out to be like the guy I know gl lol.

[Anonymous]

If he's bothering you then tell him directly to tone it down because it's annoying. Guys understand direct communication much better than mind games or anything else.

[ahsbballa05]

idk why you got a thumbs down, this is perfect advice

[arashmenalagha]

yeah perfect advice!

[Windfiar]

He's being way to assertive yet passive with it. This is what I call the albeta male. An alpha definitely, but a beta male to try and gain trust. I've seen this twice before actually and these guys usually aren't that good of news. It's either he's hiding as an beta to let you think he's a good guy or he's actually a beta and will eventually become an alpha given enough time. Honestly, I wouldn't have much to do with him. Not only does he give real beta males bad names, but he could possibly start to get a little too touchy after some time. Perhaps try and force something a little to intimate to be forced... I just wouldn't toil with him.

[universian2000]

i think you should give him a chance. This is crazy about you and in love. Isn't that what every girl wants is to be loved? Well there ya go.

Since you find him attractive, which I'm understanding is sexually attractive, just go for it.

[malekoniky]

You like him a little bit. He is just way too fast. Tell him that. Ignore message count. Tell him that unless he cools down, you are going to ignore him. Tell him that you two could be friends if he cools down. See what that does. If he slows ... you can be friends and who knows. And if he does not then cut the lines. Stop talking to him, cause if you are suffocating now and he cannot help him self ... than this is going nowhere.

[horsey]

yeah, that sounds a bit crazy.

- he may have never been in a relationship before...

you could say, it was touching at first but is making you feel uncomfortable, and is beginning to put you right off... He sounds fairly obsessive...

[Anonymous]

Let time take its course and keep talken to him

[Anonymous]

creep status much?

[Opinion Owner]

why do I get thumbs down? how is he not creeper? lol people on this site have problems if they think this guy is normal...clinger to the max

[Anonymous]

Just tell him.