Girls does it annoy you when your boyfriend looks at other girls?

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Do you get annoyed/jealous when your boyfriend looks at other girls?Talks to other girls?Comments on the looks of other girls?

ShootingStar5 · Accepted Answer

Things like this are very situational...

I wouldn't really care if he notices a beautiful girl when he sees one. I'd look at a hot guy too, so it would be pretty messed up if I got upset with him for it. However, if he was blatantly staring in a *tongue hanging out of mouth* fashion then we'd have a problem.

I also don't mind if he talks to other girls, as long as he's not trying to hit on them or anything. I have male friends and he has female friends, it's no biggie.

And it depends what his comments are. If he says something like "hey cute shirt," that's not a big deal. But if he was saying something like "Yeah I'd hit that!" I'd be pretty damn annoyed. That's something that my ex used to do that would drive me crazy. He'd actually say something to me like "hey that girl's got a nice rack," or "wow she looks really sexy with that tight sweater." I know you can't stop those thoughts from running through you're head, but don't tell me that! I don't wanna know, keep it to yourself. I just think it's really disrespectful when a guy does that.

valleygirl · Accepted Answer

when you care about someone a lot and yur feelings aren't like but turning to love or already in love, us girls always gets jealous for the smallest things to. if he watches girls you can't tell him stop because now he's going to do it more. what I suggest is make your self a little more sexy, for example sexy clothes when going out, new hairstyles etc, so when you do go out all the guys will be focusing on you and he'll be too busy trying to keep your attention from the other guys that he's going to forget that other girls exist, also when he calls don't answer the first call let him call back and sometimes switch your phone off when he askes why say you were busy doing something and when he can't take it anymore and you see he's getting angry, you explain to him why you've done it but let him suffer for a week.

these things really work because you worrying and getting jealos over him watching girls and talking to girls is only putting you on the chase and at the end of the day between us girls we don't chase anyone, let the boys chase us.

BlueEyes24 · Accepted Answer

I think its disrespectful but I deal with it because I guess it's natural because I do the same thing even if it doesn't mean anything us women get more on the defense, I want to be the hottest girl in the room not the second hottest, all the time. I don't want anyone else looking at my man, I hate that or if he does. I never feel good enough for him when there's another girl in the room, and I make it obvious I'm hotter than her, because I get super confident and jealous when there's a hot girl around.

Yes we can't stop ourselves even us girls from looking at a sexy guy, and if its too obvious you have a right to be pissed but if its a glance and it still pisses you off you can't say anything really he's just looking and you have to remember he's with you but its like a competitve thing with me at least.

i never want to settle to be the second best sexy woman I wanna be his only sexy woman he sees and doesn't care about how attractive another girl is. that's my thoughts on it anyway

Ugliness · Accepted Answer

This was mentioned in "Sex for Dummies" by Dr. Ruth. While some guys should be more discreet, her conclusion is that if your boyfriend stops looking at other girls, he's probably stopped looking at your as well.

Yes I have noticed other girls... other guys (I'm bisexual) but I don't go desiring any and it reaffirms that I love my wife the absolute best.

Comments on the looks of other girls? I hope he comments on your looks too.

I don't mention about anyone being "better looking" or prettier etc. than my wife. They aren't. But I do comment about long hair sometimes where my wife keeps hers short. That is NOT a reason to abandon her though.

As for your boyfriend talking to other girls, I hope he at least lets you into the conversation. For example there is NOTHING that I say that my wife can't listen in on. I insist on that. If she wants to read this, OK. I'm not trying to betray her. I'm trying to offer brizzo some feedback.

Darkfaith · Accepted Answer

How come girls are so much? I'm sincerely curious as to the stereotype that women care who their boyfriends look at. It would be nice if I knew my girlfriend looked at other guys and still wanted to be at me. Unfortunately, I don't have a girlfriend, so I don't know the feeling, but if I ever did have one, I reckon it would be a good feeling.

SoGirly · Answer

Why would I get jealous. don't we look at other boys as well and talk to other boys. I'm completely fine with it. I'd rather have my boyfriend tell me " oh she's hot" to my face then go around and be like " this girl is hot to everyone around" and when I see a good looking guy when I'm around my boyfriend I don't hide it. when you're in a relationship you choose that person over everyone else so looking, talking or commenting on the looks of someone else changes nothing. When things get a bit weird, the guy is toooo close to the girl, he keeps talking abt how gorgeous she looks then yeahh then I wld get jealous.

DishLady · Answer

Yes, of course it does, but guys are visual creatures. Their eyes are easily attracted to things. The question is whether he is faithful to you.

It's a little like looking at a work of art in a museum, window shopping, etc. We look but aren't taking the ting home with us. I can oggle the Monet, but don't particularly want it hanging in my living room...

Next time you see him look, comment on something about her -- staying positive -- like, "Oh, I love the shoes that girl is wearing." It shows you noticed her too, without criticizing him, so he's not defensive afterwards.

If he's doing more than just looking, don't bother with him. Really.

missbrittany · Answer

If he just glances at them, no because I just glance at people to recogonize that they are there. There is a big difference between looking and staring.

If he talks to other girls, it really depends. If he texts them, yes that makes me jealous. If he calls them, yes that does too. If it is just a casual "how are you" type of conversation such as on Facebook, then no. It's more personal when they talk through text/calls.

It does annoy me when they talk about how other girls look. Maybe she IS pretty, but that isn't something that you tell your girlfriend. Not if you truly care about her anways.

okeybabe18 · Answer

it does, and then you askt hem simply not to and then they dont, its like texting, I had an ex boyfriend and he was always texting my mates and I was getting sick of it because he would talk dirty with them and be really flirty towards them and when I told him about it he said, well wen you get some credit I will, but as I had no money at that time I coul;dent and he carrid on and in thr end I ended it because he was trying to flirt with my friends and even they where saying it was *issing them of because he's with me and not them so he shouldent be flirting with them.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes it bothers me.

But my ex cheated me SO MANY timesover the course of 3 years with girls he said were "Just his friends"

So I probably just have a trust issue. lol

But I've grown to trust my current boyfriend a lot more.

He's stationed in Japan, so he goes and parties with the guys, and they like to hit up the strip clubs:/

But don't stop him, because I feel like I can trust him..

But that doesn't mean it doesn't bother me.

It bothers me only a little bit.

The only time other girls ever really bother me, is those few girls he talks to regularly that I KNOW he has a past with, and I know they want to and are TRYING to get with him..:/

In THAT situation, I get REALLY jealous.. But I try not to say anything to him about it.

I believe that jealousy pushes people away.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope, I look at other guys...

Just cause we have someone, doesn't mean we don't still have eyes, if my partner told me, hmm she's pretty, it wouldn't bother me, what would bother me, would be if he noticed someone he liked the look of, and then completely forgets I'm there and is inappropriate.

There's no harm in looking as long as you don't touch, or lose all kind of self control. Sometimes my partner will flirt with the checkout girls in a supermarket, its just banter, but secretly he's trying to see if his 'charm' still works. Fortunately for me, I can tell what the girl is thinking just by the way she replies (he NEVER does, probably because he is just having friendly flirty banter)

Now while I love him dearly, not every girl is going to like how he is, and there will be those who can also, like me see what he's doing.

But if a girl comes across like she's reading more into it, then I will step into view, just so she knows he's just being friendly.

Anonymous · Answer

IO think it takes a very strong girl not to be annoyed by this. If he comments on the looks of other girls they're trying to make us jealous. You know what I do? I agree that the girl is hot, then I comment on the hotness of the guy she's with, or some other guy walking down the street. I did this once to this guy who id rejected, he was trying to make me jealous and we were hanging out as friends and he said, 'look at how hot that girls ass is.. aah she's so hot', I said, 'yeah, she's actually gorgeous. Her boyfriend is pretty hot too' and the guy got SO mad, he was like "HOW can you find that guy attractive? He looks like an ape! You have terrible taste in men!" It was actually hilarious!

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, it bothers me.  But I think that might be because he's not subtle about it at all.  He's told me before what he'd like to do with them later, with hand and body gestures.  Not to mention he's told me sex stories about girls he's banged before, so naturally, I feel a lot of times like I don't measure up.  So yeah, when he flirts with other girls and ignores me, it really upsets me.  I can tell the difference between when he's being friendly and when he's flirting; when he flirts, he drops sexual innuendos like there's no tomorrow.

gthang · Answer

I don't think its a big deal...Because I see it like this, he is still with you and he comes home to you at the end of the day, and another way to think of it is the moment he turns around from looking at that other girl he is reminded of how bomb you are in comparison to the other chicks he may occasionally look at. It's when he starts  touching instead of looking that you should worry. And like someone else commented it's natural just for us girls to look at guys and say they are cute from time to time, and be careful with jealousy because for one it can be unattractive and two it can ruin a good relationship. Your a cute girl and if he does stray that is his lost, don't sweat the small stuff :)

AllTheSameToMe · Answer

Not really. I mean, if he did it all the time, then I wouldn't like it. But it's not like guys go blind, and stop seeing that other girls are attractive as soon as they get girlfriends. So I know he going to find other girls attractive, and I'm OK with that. As long as he shows that he likes the way I look, and never gives me a reason to not trust him, then I'm fine with it.

megs00 · Answer

I don't care when he looks  because I people watch too Lol and I don't care when he talks to other girls..  When he comments on their looks I only get annoyed  because he never compliments me and he's complimenting some stranger...  But I usually let it go  because if he wanted to be with them, he would, but he is with me

suavaye · Answer

my girlfriend looks at other guys, she does it so I don't notice but I do anyway, the only thing I get mad about is when she gets self conscience around other guys because theyre opinions shouldn't matter to her.

i look at other girls too and it would be hard to stop, if I asked her not to look at other guys id feel like I was being insecure and controlling

sugahsweet18 · Answer

Looks at other women, no. Talks to other women, it really depends on the specific interaction, if there is flirting going on then yes, if its a completely innocent and platonic interaction then no. Comments on the looks of other girls, yes it bothers me. saying a celeb is hot is one thing, but saying that the girl from the gym is hot is just being rude. Its not a jealousy thing, its more to do with wondering if he's comparing that other girl to you, and wanting you to be different then you are.

cun7n1nja · Answer

Sure, it can be irritating, but I ignore those little things because I know it doesn't mean anything. It wouldn't really bother me until my feelings cease to be taken into account, and I feel disrespected. Then I would be upset, and we would be having a talk about it.

JonBlue · Answer

Actually if my girl gets really jealous just for doing that, I would love her even more because she cares a lot about me.

Sometimes guys do that to test their Love level :P

but I wouldn't do that, because I would feel the same thing if my Girlfriend have done that to other guys.

I'm still single but yet I know what my friends do all the time.

BreathMe · Answer

i've never really been the jealous type, so no. with PAST boyfriends I didn't mind a tinsy bit. in fact I would point out girls sometimes who had really big boobs or who were really attractive, but that's because I never found the right guy. now that I have if he's checking out some girl who is'nt me I am not happy. I def do get jealous. but, I don't think we'd be engaged if he had done something like that.

minx101 · Answer

If he is showing blatant disregard for my feelings, such as leering, telling me how hot some girl is, etc then yes but then I wouldn't be with him much longer.  I admit that I look at other guys, I am just not obvious about it and I don't constantly watch my boyfriend to see if he is taking a quick peak.

disko · Answer

I can get jealous for no reason but instead of letting the fact that my boyfriend is looking at a girl walk by get to me I just joke with him about it. Doing that definitely helped with my insecurity. Lol. But I talk to other guys because I don't just have girl friends so I'm good with him having opposite gender  friends. It's cool. I trust him.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't mind unless he starts actually flirting with her.

I realize his eyes are going to wander even when I'm not there.

I'm not unattractive but I realize guys like to look at pretty things and he likes to look at me too and more than that be with me at night.

so I don't say anything unless he actually starts whistling, calling out at her etc.

I don't mind (except for a few exceptions) because at the end of the day He's with me.

Anonymous · Answer

What really annoys me is how easily men are tempted by other women.  I mean, why are women such a weakness for men?  You don't see women losing control every time a hot guy walks by.  But have a blond in a bikini, & watch men go off the handle.  Can't men just be satisfied with one woman, & can't they be more like women, & not want any other person but their partner.

Anonymous · Answer

It doesn't make me feel very good when my boyfriend glances at another girl while I'm with him,but I've noticed it just comes naturally,I find myself sometimes glancing over at a guy that has just walked past that is cute..We did it all before we were in a relationship,so it only is natural.My boyfriend doesn't full on check them out though,I notice he has a little look!

Anonymous · Answer

it has annoyed me that he keeps telling me to dress like this other girl and keeps complimenting me that I dress like that other girl and that other girl this and that, that he had a conversation with that other girl and she is so cool... etc it gets annoying

it makes you feel like he likes the other girl more or something, so disrespectful to you

it's totally not you who is being immature if he keeps rubbing in your face that some other girl is hotter more beautiful than you

themastaplan · Answer

attraction is natural...its called looking at the menu and not ordering... talking to girls/guys its all about context...if its friendly talk then who cares, if its flirting its a whole other story...

Eiffelgirl21 · Answer

Yes...it is disrespectful.  If he feels the need to look at other girls, then I am not good enough for him.  And, I am not the best.  And, I want to be the best. So, I would find someone else, who I deserve.

abchuh · Answer

I do get annoyed when my boyfriend looks at other girls. The part I hate the most is when I'm trying to talk to him and he doesn't hear a word I say. But to get back at him I'll smile just a little at a guy who is checking me out. Lol I know its wrong but It makes him pay more attention to me. He  gets more jealous than me.

IHateMeganFox · Answer

Yes A LOT! Even if the guy isn't my boyfriend and he's just a guy taking me out on a date or something it really annoys me and makes me feel worthless. I hate that feeling... the evil green monster.

dakotaman34 · Answer

It happens, even if your married its normal to look and its OK to look, but one must draw a line when they act on it. I thinks that when they need to draw the line.

blackcanary · Answer

only if its a wayy too long look on her body. I don't want to prevent him from talking to them period. but I'd at least like to keep him from staring at them.

chelseababe · Answer

yeah I do he will say ' phwarrr she's fit ' or ' she's got a nice are/t*ts ' and yet when I look at another lad he has a go at me. x

SashaSilent · Answer

Nope.  Hes my partner not my prisoner.  He can look at, talk to, and comment on anyone he wants.  He just can't touch them.

Rita593 · Answer

I get a bit annoyed, especially if it is in the middle of some conversation but then I think that I'm the one he's dating and that calms me a bit... But I'm not definitely the type of girl to build a drama just because of such a small thing..

Rubzie · Answer

ugh! yep defo. sometimes its oki, burh sumtyms iwna slap the b*tch and him.

Anonymous · Answer

There's something quite impressive about a girl who doesn't give a sh*t that her guy is flirting a little with you. It makes me feel like they're relationship is stronger than it looks. So if you act like you care then its worse.

imnotsorry · Answer

If he's so obvious about it, then that would bother me, but he's a boy and boys like girls. As long as he's not cheating.

trinababy_x · Answer

at first he did it when we were together, but now he doesn't. I think he looks at girls when I am not around him.

sonia-wild · Answer

yeah I do alot, but the weired one is when mt fiance see's his ex walkin down the street and his eyes follow her. x

joshua1515 · Answer

i think its a little lite to comment but I like it when my girlfriend get jealous/bad  it shows me that she cares about me

JennyInLove · Answer

i don't get annoyed or jealous when he looks or talks to some random girl. however I would get a bit jealous if it's her ex or had something to do with him, but I wouldn't show it.

rotarymoon · Answer

I wouldn't tolerate that from my partner. I am not criticizing people...but its just my taste.

jhpua954 · Answer

I check girls out in from of my girlfriend all the time.

-StillWater- · Answer

I get jealous, but the again...I look at other boys so... Not the one to complain...

Anonymous · Answer

i haven't had one, but if he did I'd either stomp on his foot or slap his head, or just ignore him for a while... lol, unless he asked me if I think she's hot

Anonymous · Answer

A little, but only if they stare.  What is really annoying is when they flirt & act like a cheating bastard, then it's time for punishment!

laceyrae425 · Answer

Duhh girl I get so ...aNgry and I don't even know why. It sucks  because I know I'm not ugly but it always makes me think hmm what is it about her that catches his attention. then I wonder if I'm lacking of it. Lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! You just have to remember he's dating you sooo...he must love youuuu! But all that stuff in your question annoys me and I get really jealous.

HaitainBunny · Answer

Well it depends on how long they are looking, an glance is fine, but starring and saying dang under there breath, that's very disrespectfull of him toward  you if he does it in front of you, watch out for that type.

InMyHeart · Answer

sometimes, yeah, I get jealous. but usually I don't care.

edzzlenlen · Answer

i won't be hypocrite.. Short and simple YES is my answer to that.. Lol

Kazmi · Answer

Yes, it disturbs me. I don't do it myself - look at other guys - and I find it unfitting that he would.

hannah025 · Answer

I've never had one and I'm not the jealous type, but it WOULD get awkward for me. :/ Lol.

Anonymous · Answer

Mabey he should get with a girl he finds attractive.

sexygurl12 · Answer

it does a little but I trust him and hope that he won't do anything to mess up our relationships

lollivaunni · Answer

No because I'm not insecure

nara1234 · Answer

yess! I hate that. that is disrespect ! nooo

FierceMegan · Answer

Sometimes. When I am feeling bad about myself.

Anonymous · Answer

yes! my boyfriend was even dancing with other girls at prom last night

girly1986 · Answer

yeah to all, but I'm a jealous person also..

Yeahhbro · Answer

yup and its not good lol

Anonymous · Answer

yes. it's just rude to do that

brittnice · Answer

i hate it it makes me feal like I'm usless

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