Girls does it annoy you when your boyfriend looks at other girls?

[brizzo]

Do you get annoyed/jealous when your boyfriend looks at other girls?

Talks to other girls?

Comments on the looks of other girls?

[ShootingStar5]

Things like this are very situational...

I wouldn't really care if he notices a beautiful girl when he sees one. I'd look at a hot guy too, so it would be pretty messed up if I got upset with him for it. However, if he was blatantly staring in a *tongue hanging out of mouth* fashion then we'd have a problem.

I also don't mind if he talks to other girls, as long as he's not trying to hit on them or anything. I have male friends and he has female friends, it's no biggie.

And it depends what his comments are. If he says something like "hey cute shirt," that's not a big deal. But if he was saying something like "Yeah I'd hit that!" I'd be pretty damn annoyed. That's something that my ex used to do that would drive me crazy. He'd actually say something to me like "hey that girl's got a nice rack," or "wow she looks really sexy with that tight sweater." I know you can't stop those thoughts from running through you're head, but don't tell me that! I don't wanna know, keep it to yourself. I just think it's really disrespectful when a guy does that.

[valleygirl]

when you care about someone a lot and yur feelings aren't like but turning to love or already in love, us girls always gets jealous for the smallest things to. if he watches girls you can't tell him stop because now he's going to do it more. what I suggest is make your self a little more sexy, for example sexy clothes when going out, new hairstyles etc, so when you do go out all the guys will be focusing on you and he'll be too busy trying to keep your attention from the other guys that he's going to forget that other girls exist, also when he calls don't answer the first call let him call back and sometimes switch your phone off when he askes why say you were busy doing something and when he can't take it anymore and you see he's getting angry, you explain to him why you've done it but let him suffer for a week.

these things really work because you worrying and getting jealos over him watching girls and talking to girls is only putting you on the chase and at the end of the day between us girls we don't chase anyone, let the boys chase us.

[BlueEyes24]

I think its disrespectful but I deal with it because I guess it's natural because I do the same thing even if it doesn't mean anything us women get more on the defense, I want to be the hottest girl in the room not the second hottest, all the time. I don't want anyone else looking at my man, I hate that or if he does. I never feel good enough for him when there's another girl in the room, and I make it obvious I'm hotter than her, because I get super confident and jealous when there's a hot girl around.

Yes we can't stop ourselves even us girls from looking at a sexy guy, and if its too obvious you have a right to be pissed but if its a glance and it still pisses you off you can't say anything really he's just looking and you have to remember he's with you but its like a competitve thing with me at least.

i never want to settle to be the second best sexy woman I wanna be his only sexy woman he sees and doesn't care about how attractive another girl is. that's my thoughts on it anyway

[SectumSemprae]

I agree. Who wants a relationship being treated like second best? Treating other women like they're number one, and your girl like she's second, or a consolation prize? Why did he "settle" for her anyway? She certainly thought he was her #1.

[Ugliness]

This was mentioned in "Sex for Dummies" by Dr. Ruth. While some guys should be more discreet, her conclusion is that if your boyfriend stops looking at other girls, he's probably stopped looking at your as well.

Yes I have noticed other girls... other guys (I'm bisexual) but I don't go desiring any and it reaffirms that I love my wife the absolute best.

Comments on the looks of other girls? I hope he comments on your looks too.

I don't mention about anyone being "better looking" or prettier etc. than my wife. They aren't. But I do comment about long hair sometimes where my wife keeps hers short. That is NOT a reason to abandon her though.

As for your boyfriend talking to other girls, I hope he at least lets you into the conversation. For example there is NOTHING that I say that my wife can't listen in on. I insist on that. If she wants to read this, OK. I'm not trying to betray her. I'm trying to offer brizzo some feedback.

[Darkfaith]

How come girls are so much? I'm sincerely curious as to the stereotype that women care who their boyfriends look at. It would be nice if I knew my girlfriend looked at other guys and still wanted to be at me. Unfortunately, I don't have a girlfriend, so I don't know the feeling, but if I ever did have one, I reckon it would be a good feeling.

[brizzo]

well some girls care more than others about this kind of thing. I personally don't mind if my boyfriend looks at another girl

[Darkfaith]

But as a girl, tell me why they do it? it will help if I ever get a girlfriend, I can sum her up and whether or not she would mind.

[brizzo]

Umm I'm not sure whyyy. Everyone probably has their own reasons. Some girls are the jealous type, some girls might be insecure about their relationships, and some girls might just be protective over their boyfriends...who knows haha

[Darkfaith]

Fair points, thanks for answering :P I'd give you a 'Best Answer' but I can't :(

[SectumSemprae]

From my own experience, I care because then it makes me wonder if I'm a consolation prize instead of a winner.

[SoGirly]

Why would I get jealous. don't we look at other boys as well and talk to other boys. I'm completely fine with it. I'd rather have my boyfriend tell me " oh she's hot" to my face then go around and be like " this girl is hot to everyone around" and when I see a good looking guy when I'm around my boyfriend I don't hide it. when you're in a relationship you choose that person over everyone else so looking, talking or commenting on the looks of someone else changes nothing. When things get a bit weird, the guy is toooo close to the girl, he keeps talking abt how gorgeous she looks then yeahh then I wld get jealous.

[DishLady]

Yes, of course it does, but guys are visual creatures. Their eyes are easily attracted to things. The question is whether he is faithful to you.

It's a little like looking at a work of art in a museum, window shopping, etc. We look but aren't taking the ting home with us. I can oggle the Monet, but don't particularly want it hanging in my living room...

Next time you see him look, comment on something about her -- staying positive -- like, "Oh, I love the shoes that girl is wearing." It shows you noticed her too, without criticizing him, so he's not defensive afterwards.

If he's doing more than just looking, don't bother with him. Really.

[missbrittany]

If he just glances at them, no because I just glance at people to recogonize that they are there. There is a big difference between looking and staring.

If he talks to other girls, it really depends. If he texts them, yes that makes me jealous. If he calls them, yes that does too. If it is just a casual "how are you" type of conversation such as on Facebook, then no. It's more personal when they talk through text/calls.

It does annoy me when they talk about how other girls look. Maybe she IS pretty, but that isn't something that you tell your girlfriend. Not if you truly care about her anways.

[SectumSemprae]

True. Or at very least you tell your girlfriend that she's hot. Preferably not at the same time you're complimenting another girl, or else you'll come across as being insincere. OH what the heck, just don't open your big mouth about other girls at all! LOLz

[okeybabe18]

it does, and then you askt hem simply not to and then they dont, its like texting, I had an ex boyfriend and he was always texting my mates and I was getting sick of it because he would talk dirty with them and be really flirty towards them and when I told him about it he said, well wen you get some credit I will, but as I had no money at that time I coul;dent and he carrid on and in thr end I ended it because he was trying to flirt with my friends and even they where saying it was *issing them of because he's with me and not them so he shouldent be flirting with them.

[Anonymous]

Yes it bothers me.

But my ex cheated me SO MANY timesover the course of 3 years with girls he said were "Just his friends"

So I probably just have a trust issue. lol

But I've grown to trust my current boyfriend a lot more.

He's stationed in Japan, so he goes and parties with the guys, and they like to hit up the strip clubs:/

But don't stop him, because I feel like I can trust him..

But that doesn't mean it doesn't bother me.

It bothers me only a little bit.

The only time other girls ever really bother me, is those few girls he talks to regularly that I KNOW he has a past with, and I know they want to and are TRYING to get with him..:/

In THAT situation, I get REALLY jealous.. But I try not to say anything to him about it.

I believe that jealousy pushes people away.

[Anonymous]

Nope, I look at other guys...

Just cause we have someone, doesn't mean we don't still have eyes, if my partner told me, hmm she's pretty, it wouldn't bother me, what would bother me, would be if he noticed someone he liked the look of, and then completely forgets I'm there and is inappropriate.

There's no harm in looking as long as you don't touch, or lose all kind of self control. Sometimes my partner will flirt with the checkout girls in a supermarket, its just banter, but secretly he's trying to see if his 'charm' still works. Fortunately for me, I can tell what the girl is thinking just by the way she replies (he NEVER does, probably because he is just having friendly flirty banter)

Now while I love him dearly, not every girl is going to like how he is, and there will be those who can also, like me see what he's doing.

But if a girl comes across like she's reading more into it, then I will step into view, just so she knows he's just being friendly.

[Anonymous]

IO think it takes a very strong girl not to be annoyed by this. If he comments on the looks of other girls they're trying to make us jealous. You know what I do? I agree that the girl is hot, then I comment on the hotness of the guy she's with, or some other guy walking down the street. I did this once to this guy who id rejected, he was trying to make me jealous and we were hanging out as friends and he said, 'look at how hot that girls ass is.. aah she's so hot', I said, 'yeah, she's actually gorgeous. Her boyfriend is pretty hot too' and the guy got SO mad, he was like "HOW can you find that guy attractive? He looks like an ape! You have terrible taste in men!" It was actually hilarious!

[Anonymous]

Yeah, it bothers me. But I think that might be because he's not subtle about it at all. He's told me before what he'd like to do with them later, with hand and body gestures. Not to mention he's told me sex stories about girls he's banged before, so naturally, I feel a lot of times like I don't measure up. So yeah, when he flirts with other girls and ignores me, it really upsets me. I can tell the difference between when he's being friendly and when he's flirting; when he flirts, he drops sexual innuendos like there's no tomorrow.

[gthang]

I don't think its a big deal...Because I see it like this, he is still with you and he comes home to you at the end of the day, and another way to think of it is the moment he turns around from looking at that other girl he is reminded of how bomb you are in comparison to the other chicks he may occasionally look at. It's when he starts touching instead of looking that you should worry. And like someone else commented it's natural just for us girls to look at guys and say they are cute from time to time, and be careful with jealousy because for one it can be unattractive and two it can ruin a good relationship. Your a cute girl and if he does stray that is his lost, don't sweat the small stuff :)

[AllTheSameToMe]

Not really. I mean, if he did it all the time, then I wouldn't like it. But it's not like guys go blind, and stop seeing that other girls are attractive as soon as they get girlfriends. So I know he going to find other girls attractive, and I'm OK with that. As long as he shows that he likes the way I look, and never gives me a reason to not trust him, then I'm fine with it.

[Brendi87]

True, it's all about trust. If he's giving you the title of girlfriend and acting like you are, then that's fine. If he has you by your side like a friend, and acts single with you, then it's going to be an issue.

[megs00]

I don't care when he looks because I people watch too Lol and I don't care when he talks to other girls.. When he comments on their looks I only get annoyed because he never compliments me and he's complimenting some stranger... But I usually let it go because if he wanted to be with them, he would, but he is with me

[suavaye]

my girlfriend looks at other guys, she does it so I don't notice but I do anyway, the only thing I get mad about is when she gets self conscience around other guys because theyre opinions shouldn't matter to her.

i look at other girls too and it would be hard to stop, if I asked her not to look at other guys id feel like I was being insecure and controlling

[sugahsweet18]

Looks at other women, no. Talks to other women, it really depends on the specific interaction, if there is flirting going on then yes, if its a completely innocent and platonic interaction then no. Comments on the looks of other girls, yes it bothers me. saying a celeb is hot is one thing, but saying that the girl from the gym is hot is just being rude. Its not a jealousy thing, its more to do with wondering if he's comparing that other girl to you, and wanting you to be different then you are.

[cun7n1nja]

Sure, it can be irritating, but I ignore those little things because I know it doesn't mean anything. It wouldn't really bother me until my feelings cease to be taken into account, and I feel disrespected. Then I would be upset, and we would be having a talk about it.

[JonBlue]

Actually if my girl gets really jealous just for doing that, I would love her even more because she cares a lot about me.

Sometimes guys do that to test their Love level :P

but I wouldn't do that, because I would feel the same thing if my Girlfriend have done that to other guys.

I'm still single but yet I know what my friends do all the time.

[Brendi87]

Yeah, if you're in the middle of a conversation, it's so rude. If we're walking behind a female or group of people, it's expected to look at them from behind. If a girl is coming our way, they both stare and have this non-verbal communication through eye contact, it'll irk me because that's what I do when I'm single; try to make eye contact with good-looking people 'cause I can and am looking to mingle with them. This happened with guys I didn't trust. If I trusted him, I wouldn't worry.

[BreathMe]

i've never really been the jealous type, so no. with PAST boyfriends I didn't mind a tinsy bit. in fact I would point out girls sometimes who had really big boobs or who were really attractive, but that's because I never found the right guy. now that I have if he's checking out some girl who is'nt me I am not happy. I def do get jealous. but, I don't think we'd be engaged if he had done something like that.

[minx101]

If he is showing blatant disregard for my feelings, such as leering, telling me how hot some girl is, etc then yes but then I wouldn't be with him much longer. I admit that I look at other guys, I am just not obvious about it and I don't constantly watch my boyfriend to see if he is taking a quick peak.

[disko]

I can get jealous for no reason but instead of letting the fact that my boyfriend is looking at a girl walk by get to me I just joke with him about it. Doing that definitely helped with my insecurity. Lol. But I talk to other guys because I don't just have girl friends so I'm good with him having opposite gender friends. It's cool. I trust him.

[Anonymous]

I don't mind unless he starts actually flirting with her.

I realize his eyes are going to wander even when I'm not there.

I'm not unattractive but I realize guys like to look at pretty things and he likes to look at me too and more than that be with me at night.

so I don't say anything unless he actually starts whistling, calling out at her etc.

I don't mind (except for a few exceptions) because at the end of the day He's with me.

[Anonymous]

What really annoys me is how easily men are tempted by other women. I mean, why are women such a weakness for men? You don't see women losing control every time a hot guy walks by. But have a blond in a bikini, & watch men go off the handle. Can't men just be satisfied with one woman, & can't they be more like women, & not want any other person but their partner.

[zagor]

Simple biology. But just because a guy looks doesn't mean he is going to cheat, or wants to...

[geronimojoesaephus]

I disagree. see: Twilight moms, girlfriends who go to superhero movies with their boyfriends solely because of the leading man in the movie and NOT because of how happy it makes her boyfriends nor how much she owes him for making her go to the romantic comedy where she ogled the guy in that one too.

[Opinion Owner]

Why are men so jealous of Rob Pattinson?

[lucyskala]

i hate robert pattinson.. twilight moms are secret lesbians.