I hate bubbly happy girls...

[Brandan_Cromartie]

What I want to know is how to stop hating bubbly happy girls. Because not being able to stand them makes me want to become violent and punch them when they start acting out; I can't be committing assault against girls in the mall because they are talking incessantly about a highly controversial Facebook posting to some random wall which is ambiguous and ultimately retarded to boot.

So, help me, how do I embrace the happy-go-lucky always-on-cloud-99 female in society since they are so common that eradication equates losing half the female population?

I like bubbly girls!

I dislike bubbly girls!

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+1 y

People who fake their happiness or hyper activeness around other people make me want to stab them; is that a bad thing? Isn't it just outright dishonesty? Aren't THEY lying to everyone else? I don't know, maybe I can see through it and that's why it bothers me so much.

[Novus]

Lol to the update. No, it's not just because you're the only one to notice false cheerfulness in the whole world. To assume that everyone -not- bothered by it is just not as insightful as you is, well somewhat egotistical.

It may grate on some people but a healthy response is to accept that you can't like everyone in the world and move on, not have an urge to violently assault someone just because you don't like them.

Thinking like that is indicitive that, in a very litteral sense, you think everything is about you. It's no-one's responsibility to make themselves likable to you, yet you seem to want to punish them for just that. Nor is it anyone's responsibilty to open up their innermost thoughts to you rather than put on an amicable front, yet you say you hate them because of that.

That sounds worryingly like sociophathic behaviour. Rather than looking at why you dislike a certain group, maybe you'd be better off looking at how you deal with other people you don't like and why you feel no empathy whatsoever towards them.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Here's my issue: I can like these people. A lot of these people are very likable when they are in small groups and not around certain "triggers". They are normal. You can have an good conversation without them squeaking or pretending they have zero problems and never had one in their life. You can call me egotistical if you would like and I don't mind if you think narcissistic but it still doesn't undermine the point that these people are behaving ABNORMALLY for no reason! I'm trying to be nice.

[Novus]

Which is why I think you lack empathy with them. No-one who chooses to act that way would take it nicely when you say you hate the way they are and they're acting abnormal. Surely you can understand that a little?

Again, a little empathy might help you to not think they're not being "abnormal for no reason" either, there's a fairly immediate reason that pops out to me. They're not comfortable sharing whatever they really feel at that time, due to vulnerablity or whatever.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

If you read the above there's a person here who openly admits to purposefully pursuing that behavior. Also, being hyperactive as a coping mechanism is recognized medically and it's considered just as unhealthy as being closed off or cruel. No matter how you roll these dice if the person isn't naturally inclined there's something wrong or it's just abnormal and unacceptable behavior. And it has greater detriment to the one acting out than it does to anyone else. It just doesn't provide growth.

[Novus]

She admits to doing it because they like to have a cheery atmosphere around their friends, not to delude themselves, it's different. Besides, psychology isn't black and white doing something doesn't immediately qualify as unhealthy behaviour. They look if something is effecting someone's lifestyle adversely then try to identify possible causes, not the other way around.

Regardless, the point is it's not your right to try and "fix" them to your liking, especially if you go about it so tactlessly

[Brandan_Cromartie]

She "makes" them happy by acting overly happy. She does not go through normal self-expression. It's an illusion created for the populace to acquire a certain effect. She's a Mood Magician! Most of these people are acting up for some reason that has nothing to do with actual happiness, at least not self-fulfillment. Also, it's unhealthy, saying that the subject isn't exact doesn't make this behavior in most cases healthy. It's suppression or recognized as a condition, that's it. No other options.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I don't want to fix them ( as seen in the original question ) I want to learn to deal with them and to cope and get along with and even embrace them. Because being annoyed won't help me and fixing a small group doesn't manage the other 7+ million of these drones and clones.

[Mesonfielde]

It depends on what day it is.

There are times when their squeal for Twilight's main character annoys me to death, and there are times when I don't really care and can converse with them.

However, I prefer mental and emotional stability.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I agree!

[Anonymous]

You need to just get over yourself. There are people who are gonna be bubbly and happy. They're not the ones with the problem, YOU ARE. You're just assuming these girls are fake without having any knowledge of them as individuals. I think you have an overinflated sense of self because you haven't yet realized that other people do not have to tailor their behavior to suit you. You may have some intelligence but you don't know everything so stop trying to justify why your temperament is so much more superior to these other girls that you don't know. You aren't the standard measuring stick of a person that everyone should be judged against. If you were so emotionally stable yourself you wouldn't want to hurt happy girls that you don't know. You might want to talk to a professional before we end up hearing about you on the news.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

This doesn't even make sense. I didn't say anything about superiority. As a matter of fact I didn't suggest half of what you're saying.

[Anonymous]

There's actually a temperament that's the exact opposite of dysthymia (chronic depression) and it's called hyperthymia. It's basically being excessively bubbly and happy despite pretty much anything...

With that said, very few people are hyperthymic and don't experience any unfortunate issues like depressed people would. I would say I'm pretty positive most of the time, but I won't be annoying about it. So just ignore those kinds of girls, no need to hate them... Maybe you're a bit jealous you aren't that bubbly and happy?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I'm not jealous. I enjoy being emotionally stable and reasonable. Of the two, being depressed and being overly happy, it is true that being happy is the best but as you said most of the population that acts like this isn't really genuinely hyperthymic. Being positive, happy, and enjoying life does not require being ... ridiculous. Having a good stable emotional blend gives you greater connectivity to your fellow man than ... well that behavior. They ostracize themselves with happiness? Why?

[Opinion Owner]

How do you know that those girls aren't genuinely happy? I've met a few people who are legitimately bubbly and positive 24/7 and it isn't a front. They have their sh*t together. They don't ostracize themselves, they bring you to ostracize yourself, because you wonder why you're different and why you can't be like that.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I don't mind the genuine ones. I've said that three/four times here since this question keeps repeated as if it were "groundbreaking". So, now what?

[Alaska1992]

Maybe those people who may seem overly bubbly and happy are the ones who are facing more inner demons then you can imagine. Instead of making the choice of being sad, depressed , angry, taking their negative emotions out on themselves or other people.. They make a choice of being happy instead. For example someone being raped at a young age Instead of distancing themselves from people and not trusting others how they handle this is by going out and experiencing other people realizing that not everyone will harm them... Never to not allow that demon to take away their freedom... Their choice of being happy

[slipslender]

LMFAO. I feel the same way. you don't have to 'embrace' them. just ignore them. and go hang around melancholic girls.

[kkandbb]

Oh come now if the rest of us have to control ourselves over screaming kids you can control yourself with the girls. I take myself as far away from a screaming toddler as possible so take heed and do the same. (there's a screaming kid next door so I think that's why I have taken this path)

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Problem is there is no reason to their behavior. Yes, we can avoid the mean people in life all we want, it doesn't make it acceptable to be mean, and it's something that should be addressed. Crazy happiness is not positive; it's just not stable, it's unhealthy because it's unstable, and many people who choose to act this way think it's good for the environment when it just lowers others perceptions of them. As you get older unless it's genuine people look down on you for it.

[kkandbb]

There's no reason for a toddler screaming either. Just let it be and steer clear of them. Assaulting people is just one quick way of landing yourself in prison. If you hit a teen girl for being happy and the other inmates found out about it let's just say you'd be wishing for the annoying girls again. Just try not to worry about it. I understand as sometimes I want to just kick the toddlers cause they're so annoying BUT we can't. I always question myself: are the consequences worth the action?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Toddlers grow out of the behavior. You find people who are 25+ still acting like this. It's not just being "Annoyed" by the actions, it's literally being annoyed by the lack of reasoning and behavioral abnormality. You expect a toddler to flip. You don't expect a 20 year old to run around screaming with their hands over their heads over an ambiguous Facebook message. Maybe my problem is my standards and faith in humanity. You can't avoid these people when you sit 20 feet from them everyday.

[Shaun]

Good advice, treat these girls as you would a screaming toddler. : )

[ShootingStar5]

I'm a pretty happy-go-lucky person, but I don't fake it... that's just how I am =) Why is that such a bad thing? People are supposed to be happy... what fun is life if you're not? People who are angry and moody all the time are what p*ss me off...

Are you a generally unhappy person? Maybe that's why you hate them so much... Just smile and let the annoying sh*t (whether it's happy people or w/e) roll off your back.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Nothing is wrong with being happy. Nothing. If that's you, that's you; I can deal with people who are naturally like this; all good, but there's no way that even a good chunk of the people I come across are like this particularly because when I get alone with them they are calm, cool, collected and when in public their outrageous. And I'm not unhappy! Why must I be unhappy to dislike over-the-top stupid behavior? This is a strange projection because not accepting ridiculous behavior is normal.

[Mesonfielde]

I have one question.

How is their behavior in any way more justified to be "ridiculous" or "abnormal" in comparison to being REGULATED? Just because they lack some inhibitions and are more prone to be emotionally involved with events... I don't see how that is "wrong", or in any way "unacceptable".

Because there is no "right way to act" in this world.

There are only deviations.

But pretty much EVERYONE has a behavioral deviation of some kind.

So unless it's harmful... there is no need to mind.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I'll answer your question: Because it's not genuinely their nature. It's no different than the dreary misanthropic bully in public who wouldn't harm a soul in private. They don't "lack" inhibitions, they pursue the behavior. It's not naturally occurring for the greater part of the population, but either learned or a form of acting out. It's also not a behavioral deviation because it's not natural. The entirety of what you're saying relies on it being innate, but it's not, so ...

[Minxxe]

maybe they're just manic-depressives and it ain't your business to be liking them or not, it's you that wants to stab them - maybe you need locking up... how d'you know they're lying and not just trying to make themselves a better person.

get over yourself mate, no-one likes a miserable f***

[Brandan_Cromartie]

... But I'm not miserable and there's no way they are bipolar because they are always locked in the "Mania" stage.

[Minxxe]

why don't you just not hang out with them, or take it as a compliment - normally I'm a miserable and moody f***er too but there are certain people and places that plain & simply cheer me up!

either way this isn't something you can realistically control - put your energy elsewhere ;0)

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I'm not trying to control the other person; I want to allow myself not to be annoyed.

[Mesonfielde]

Actually, if you don't want to be annoyed, you have to be the one who stops caring.

Just a note.

Truly, it helps to eradicate negative attitude towards these people if you talk to them once in a while. You can be so proven wrong...

[Minxxe]

"to allow myself not to be annoyed" ultimately you're the one with the problem, according to your comment.

Mesonfielde says it best: "...if you don't want to be annoyed, you have to be the one who stops caring" . Don't waste your energy seriously, there's so much other sh*t to be annoyed about far more worthy than that group...

[Brandan_Cromartie]

I never said "THEY ARE THE PROBLEM! ERADICATE!"; I have no issue saying that I don't like them. You're not showing me anything new, or making me "step back" here.

Also if I could ignore them I would but they're loud, they make spectacles, and many of them are also attention whores to boot because the behaviors they exhibit naturally require the attention of multiple surrounding persons and the behavior in public drifts beyond the intended audience. In a class of 32 it's going to carry.

[WovenEclipse]

That means you hate meee T_T Try to think of why they are like that :) Personally, I'm often very moody when alone which all my mates don't believe since I'm always so happy and hyper around them. I act happy because it brightens up the conversation and makes them people feel comfortable talking to me :D I do it to help others, to cheer them up and make them feel happy.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Which is exactly the #1 reason why I hate happy bubbly people, let alone happy bubbly girls, because they AREN'T like this in small groups or normally; in a private space I've seen a lot of people who are hyperactive and super-giggly come back down to a reasonable intelligible level of emotional express. The swings are terrible; being over-the-top rather than at a stable level and moody when alone isn't healthy, or a sign of health, so yeah, I probably would hate you quickly. QUICKLY.

[WovenEclipse]

Ok, but we only do it to help people :) We CAN be serious too, at the end of the day we do it to cheer up and help other people :D We don't intend to annoy people :) nd I don't mean moody like relly >:[ just a bit snappy I suppose, its better than not letting your anger and sadness etc etc come out at all :D

[Brandan_Cromartie]

How can you not see that the behavior itself does not actually make anything better? It's one thing to be humorous, it's another to act like you need psych-meds and that everyone around you should meet that particular wavelength. It just sounds like such a fake persona that anyone who doesn't see through it doesn't really care for you; it's so annoying because it's all a freakin' lie! And it's an obvious act! I've only met two people that were that happy. I could accept them.

[WovenEclipse]

haha aren't you cheerful? At first it was fake, but now I really AM like that :) Besides, it DOES help people :D The amount of my friends who have been gloomy who I've managed to cheer up I can't count because there's quite a lot :D Besides, I understand how we go over the top, but a lot of us gals don't go ott- you must just be surrounded by some really bad bubbly gals :) But anywhoo, I'm sorry your stuck with such a bad impression of us. You must at least be able to appreciate the fact that we

[WovenEclipse]

do it to help people :) In a selfless way

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Let me put it this way: You're feeding a vicious cycle where people are "happy" around you, but when you leave, they go back into their moods. You're not cheering them up long-term with this behavior. The contribution you make by acting ADD is temporary, it's facetious, and it's not a problem solving behavior. I don't have a bad impression, you're giving me a bad impression; all you do is act, and ultimately this act takes on a life of it's own and becomes "you". It's shallow. It's empty.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

It's in no way selfless to act like this because acting like this gives you the sense that you're making a difference, even temporary, and it makes you feel better that you're making others feel better or "rubbing off" on others even if it only lasts for the duration of your presence or an hour beyond. A far more altruistic route would be to give advice that people will hate you for but will help them in the long run. You're the man that feeds the hungry the fish and doesn't teach how to fish.

[WovenEclipse]

It isn't shallow! Can't you try to see the positive side of it? It isn't shallow and isn't empty! >.< I'm gettind slightly annoyed now. Making people happy, even if its just for a short time, is better than them always being grumpy, and does no harm to anyone! I'm glas this is my personalit since I help people, even if it doesn't last for years to come- since nothing can make people permanently happy- everyone has to be sad at times, that's life. Some happiness is better than none at all though!

[WovenEclipse]

Anyway, I don't want to get really angry- I thought you wanted to know hw to embrace these people not how to make them get very annoyed?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Giving people the tools to make themselves happy is far more valuable than making them happy for 20 minutes! You're like a drug, you bring happy feelings and euphoria as long as you're around but the crash when you leave is probably pretty severe because you take their minds off the problem temporarily, it's all better, yay you, then when you are gone it comes flooding back, and it has to, they cannot ignore it. How are you REALLY improving anyone around you? Where is your real contribution?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

You're confirming my beliefs about "people like you", not giving me a reason that you're a positive influence in life. Or that your behavior is good and sensible. It's not even really helpful because once you disappear the game is over and it actually creates even more problems because a good chunk of the questions that I come across here are "Why can't I be happy like ( insert YOU )?" where they believe it's actually REAL. I'm not trying to make you mad; I'm telling you what I see wrong.

[WovenEclipse]

I'm not gonna argue with you! If that's the way you feel, then fine! Go sit in your bedroom and be mopey all day! Fine with me! But personally I'd rather make the most of my life and be happy, along with other people! :) I understand what you say and see why you think it, but it isn't necessarilly true! We hyper people could go about it another way and give them the tools for living, that would help them a lot more- we just do it this way and that's that! I hope you get over this hatred, because

[WovenEclipse]

your gonna be seen as a right old borig fart!

[Brandan_Cromartie]

,_, That hurts me.

[WovenEclipse]

! AAH! I'm sorry! >.< I was too personal :(

[Mesonfielde]

I never wanted to be involved with people who judged me based on how "boring" I was, anyways.

People like that always make me sad. And not because of their judgement, but rather their entire way of thinking of others and the world around them. Believing everyone is there for them, and if they cannot accomplish their irrationally "expected purpose" they're dismissed.

Selfishness and self-absorption galore.

Also, QA, ALL mutual relations between people are like that, you know. Friendship, even.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

If what you said was true then why are there different types and grades of friendship?

[boribori90]

Get over yourself and whatever is making you hate these people that really don't have to affect your life. Stop trying to justify your desire to hurt people who are happier than you are and just let them be happy.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

If they were happier than me they'd be comfortable as themselves yet they put on constant acts in groups or around certain individuals. I'm not seeing what you are. Also, they do effect my life; I have to interact with them, and they are everywhere.

[boribori90]

they're either: 1. kids, which means they're immature, which means you should tolerate them because they're trying to figure out how they fit in in this world.

2. or they are genuinely happy, and certain people make them happier than others, so they consciously or unconsciously change their behavior to show it.

wouldn't you want to be happy?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

#1 would work for me if it were true, but 20+ is not a "kid" and #2 is problematic because "figuring out where you fit" can literally be a lifelong process, all done without genuine happiness. I do know that people tend to change after public institutions like school or once they gather real responsibilities so being immature is an option but that doesn't explain the problem with their lack of personal consideration in their open motives. They know for a fact as you get older it gets older.

[boribori90]

Okay.

I think you are thinking way too deep into it and are probably being a little paranoid, but you're probably also right. I hope that you too can be happy some day.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

"Paranoia"? Where ... I don't even want to know.

[boribori90]

fine

[Anonymous]

well, since you can see through them and you know it's an act, just understand that everyone copes with life in different ways. Some ways are more annoying than others : / but if you try and see their "acting" from a different perspective...those kind of girls or people won't bother you as much : I you may actually find yourself feeling sorry for or sympathizing with them. Not to say that all bubbly people are covering up pain but most of the OVER THE TOP bubbly people are. You may not know some of the terrible things they may have been through. SO, try and be patient and consider yourself blessed by God to be able to handle life in a more honest way...lighten up, bud.

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

I love happy girls :) I don't need any additional negativity in my life so ya, happy girls are the best.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

"Happy" and "Bubbly" are two different things. I like happy people. I don't like people who purposefully act like they've had enough sugar to just randomly break out into a diabetic seizure at any moment under the guise of "happiness". Is that fair?

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

Ah, maybe. But I like them hyper girls too lol.

[WovenEclipse]

Thankyou :D YAY! \(^^)/

[TheGodEmperorLeto]

lol np? I guess. But ya, hyper girls are fun. Energetic and whatnot kinda infuses me with energy too and ya. Maybe it's just cause I got used to them at various clubs from school or conventions I've gone to with my ex and whatnot.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

"Thankyou :D YAY! \(^^)/"; I look and think to myself "Is this necessary?", I understand it's a textual expression so it doesn't really cause me any problems but I put into a mental projector and actually run what that would represent in real life; it's a clear over-reaction. Why is that a good thing? It carries greater magnitude than the situation calls for and honestly that's unhealthy and a sign of emotional instability. Being too excitable has serious consequences. It creates drama.

[ihatework]

i hate bubbly happy people, I don't give a sh*t about gender.

[serialflirt]

nobody can you help not get annoyed but you. there will be people in life you don't like, there will be types of people you don't like. GET OVER IT. if you actually got to know one of them, you would probably like them you poop

[Brandan_Cromartie]

You are unfortunately 5 months late.

[serialflirt]

is that supposed to make me feel embarassed?

[Brandan_Cromartie]

No.

[HatredIsMagic]

Fuck bubbly girls. To me, they're dried-up hogshit. It gives me an erection to see them in pain.

May hatred triumph over love~

[Anonymous]

dear sir,

don't generalise.

thank you.

love, me.

[Brandan_Cromartie]

Do you know what a definition is?

[pr3ttybr0wn]

heaven forbid someone be cheerful and positive.

[kangy]

u like moody girls more?

[Anonymous]

And we care because...

[DaliaHeartsJapan]

I don't like them

[Shadoww]

i hate jerks ;)

[Anonymous]

Your loss

[Anonymous]

I like them