Why do some women say it's not cheating if they do it with another woman?

[ThiccNigro]

I've seen this logic used by so many women to justify them cheating. Like in what world is it not cheating?

[joe_schmidt]

Personally, I think it's about the emotional connection they may have with the other woman. If it's simply sex with no emotions, I don't see a problem with it because there's no penetration from another guy cumming inside of her, even if it's just precum, and even if they had a condom, I don't want another guy feeling the inside of my woman.

A woman, will never truly be able to feel my woman the way a guy can. They can't cum inside of her. They can't get her pregnant, intentionally or not. And personally, I'd think it's kinda hot watching my woman make out or have sex with another woman.

But it becomes a huge problem if they start developing feelings for the other woman. If they'd rather spend more time with her than with me. If they're too exhausted to have sex or not in the mood because they've had to much sex with her. Or if they lose interest in having seen with me because she's getting satisfied by her.

That's when the line has been crossed and is considered cheating... in my opinion of course.

[Elis678]

I've pretty much felt very well the inside of a woman with my fingers. A vagina is simply an hole, a penis just rub that hole up and down. Always found funny how is that considered special.

[joe_schmidt]

Right. With your finger. And as great as that feeling is, it's NOTHING compared to feeling her walls and the ridges against your penis.

That's all I meant. I'm sure there are plenty of ways to feel the inside of a vagina, but nothing can compare to the feeling of your penis bring inside of a girl's vagina.

[Serias9]

Sure, rubbing your own genitalia fell better because sex organ are much more sensitive. I can say the same between fingering and rubbing my clitosis vs a wet pussy. The latter is way more intense. But as the other said, it's hole, nothing special. Just like external genitalia, but shaped like an hole. It just feels great for you causes it shaped like your dick.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

A girlfriend once had an emotional affair online, they would have virtual sex, and even did phone sex calling each other back and forth. The whole time she claimed they were just friends, but I found their chat logs and it was sex, romanticism, and even "love you's" going on.

When I confronted her, she said it wasn't cheating because they never even met. I called BS on that, and then she blamed me saying "you drove me into his arms" because I worked all day and she was lonely at home.

I lost my shit and destroyed her computer and phone, kicked her out of our apartment, and never spoke to her again.

She lied to me, then tried to blame and gaslight me. Three strikes.

[Lamia2001]

She did that With a woman?

[BeenThereLovedIt]

@Lamia2001 No , sorry I ranted and should have explained my point better. I was comparing my experience with a virtual 'fling' to your scenario, in the sense that in both cases the cheating parties claim it's not cheating.

[Brainsbeforebeauty]

That's so ridiculous... Any time you do anything of a sexual nature with "anyone" other than your PARTNER it's cheating! So the asshat women that try to use that as an excuse or justification, are "they" okay with their partner having sexual interaction with other guys then, cuz then according to their own standards that wouldn't really be cheating either, right. Cheating is cheating period! Omg people need to just stop already... I don't even get why people get into relationships just to make mockery of it... Stay single and mingle then

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Because for whatever reason, some women think that since it isn't another man it's not really cheating. When in fact it is cheating since you're still having sex with someone that's not your exclusive partner or husband. It could also be because some guys don't see their woman kissing or having sex with another woman as cheating.

[Mysteriee]

I don't get it either.

People try to justify it by saying that because you're not normally sexually attracted to that gender, it doesn't count. Which is utter bollocks in my opinion.

Unless agreed by both partners to engage in sexual acts or to be in an open relationship, it's cheating, end of.

[A98989898]

Would you cheat with a woman?

[Mysteriee]

I wouldn't cheat with a man or a woman...

[Buttface82828]

Because the main bad thing about cheatijg is the sadness and jelousy it brings,
if she fucks another guy u wonder why he's better than she would prefer him instead of you, it makes u sad cos u think he's better than you and more attractive.

if its jus with another woman then it doesn’t matter because ur not competing with someone else, its a whole nother gender, u dont feel sad like that guy is better cos its a girl and not a guy, so u dont care,
so its hardly cheating if it doesn't effect or bother you, if it does effect or bother you, you're too sensitive and overdramatic

[aWes0MeNeSs]

I've never heard that, thankfully, but it sounds ridiculous. Cheating is cheating, no matter the gender or either person's sexual orientation. My only guess is that they think if they identify as straight, it doesn't count (but it absolutely does).

[ThiccNigro]

@Lamia2001 Could you stop spamming this reply on every answer please?

[aWes0MeNeSs]

Their comment must've been removed, I don't see it!

[Smoke-n-Growls]

It's still cheating.

Gender doesn't matter when it comes to breaking fidelity. It's the act that matters.

Women who pretend otherwise are bad liars. As all cheaters are. And they're just desperate to justify their unfaithful behaviours.

Unless the relationship they're in allows for that sort of thing, it's cheating. Plain and simple.

[Anonymous]

They probably say it cos women don’t have dicks so it’s not sex if they can’t even fuck.

Why on earth would you want to do anything with a woman anyway? They’re not straight if they do “do it” with a woman. Straight women don’t do sexual stuff with women.

[Opinion Owner]

And neither do straight women have any desire to do sexual stuff with women

[Elis678]

What a retarded sexist and phallocentic comment. Sex isn't only about a dick humping up and down an hole. Women don't have dick, we got pussy, we can pretty fuck a woman through the clitoris stimulation, with one million time easier way to get her off. And fingers.

[Opinion Owner]

@Elis678 Nobody wants to talk to a nasty lesbian

[Elis678]

You're idiot.

[Finchie40]

It’s cheating if they are in a committed relationship and if it’s something that wasn’t addressed in the beginning Before getting into a relationship.. So those girls are talking out their asses they are cheaters , Why a girl that is bi needs to address that she likes hooking up with girls as well before she gets involved into a relationship if she doesn’t then that makes her a cheating whore

[TJFreshman22]

As long as she comes home to me at the end of the day and the other girl she's with is clean, I certainly wouldn't mind. I'd just want to be able to watch the action is all or hear about it after (maybe join in down the road if the other girl is bi and also interested too).

[TruthBringer]

Anything that involves intimacy (sexual) done outside your relationship, regardless of gender, it's cheating. Plain and simple. Reminds me of this meme that says "If I slap you with my left hand even though I'm righthanded, did you still get slapped?". Well, same thing applies to a woman doing shit with another woman.

[CuteNerd9]

Of course its cheating, however maybe they get it from men like my brother who tells his bisexual girlfriend that's it's okay for her to cheat as long as its with a woman. This actually made her angry and she told him that its still cheating and he shouldn't be so dumb.

[bobalife]

It’s probably the same thing like how some guys tries to justify cheating. However, it’s a rule of thumb that cheating is simply still cheating. Some people can not faced their faults and take responsibility for hurting their partners.

[Bellimo]

Becausd they want to convince themselves that what they are doing is innocent and cute , when it is is just bad behaviour, dishonest and immoral. They do not want to accept responsibility for their actions , it's actun childish with responsibility and men should 't see this as cool. Move on from them sincebthey haven't grown up yet.

[OlderAndWiser]

Except for a surprise birthday party, anything that you must hide from your partner is a beach of their trust. Doesn't matter whether it "technically" qualifies as "cheating.". If you must hide it from your spouse, you know it's wrong.

[OlderAndWiser]

BREACH of their trust

[prettynormal]

It is cheating. She’s just trying to see if you believe her. It’s like when men say “it’s not cheating, it was just sex, no feelings involved”. Still cheating.

[ThiccNigro]

Very few guys actually say that. Most guys aren't in a position to cheat, but most bisexual girls I've talked about this seem to have this mindset

[usr_963]

it’s not cheating, it was just sex, no feelings involved

It is depressing to see how many people believing it

[yeetyskeety]

Well... The only point that needs to be made here is that no matter what gender it is, it's CHEATING.

[Unstoppable20]

Oh it's still cheating. Performing sexual acts with someone outside of a monogamous relationship constitutes cheating whether its same sex or opposite sex. That's like girls who have anal sex and still call themselves a virgin. Nope sex is sex and you did it.

[iFarted]

Cause a lot of men don't feel like it is either. If my girlfriend or wife had lesbian sex and she didn't get penetrated by something a lot larger than myself then I wouldn't really feel bad about it. If she's emotionally cheating then I guess I'd feel like shit.

[Serias9]

What has that to do with the size? That's so stupid. If you find out his male lover has smaller dick,
it will feel better? The upset would be the giving the body to another body and the great pleasure she would feel, being it with a tongue, another pussy or fingers, not the size of something rubbing an hole.

[iFarted]

@Serias9 Cause it's not another man. Can be a dildo or other toys but not a man..

[Serias9]

I didn't know even mention objects, I talked about another person parts, being it genitalia, finger, pussy. The point was, what has size to do with it? It's about giving access to your body to someone else, and reaching orgasm through them. Not a size competition.

[iFarted]

@Serias9 Hey sometimes I don't even get it. I mean I understand why other guys would get upset by it but I don't see myself getting really upset if my girlfriend had sex with another woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Things I have heard women say they do not consider cheating (only when they do it, of course)
- Giving oral sex.
-Having anal intercourse.
-Having sex with a man who used a condom.
-Having sex with a man with no condom, but he doesn't cum in her.

Women can rationalize ANYTHING.

[Hermes-Paris]

I'm not sure but Hey if I do it with another woman it's not cheating right? Only if you get caught or can get treated by a doctor before you go home. What happens in Vegas generally needs a three antibiotic treatment...

[menina]

That doesn't make sense. It's a lame excuse, cheating is cheating period.

[Saturnxox]

I have no idea.
Kissing with someone else is cheating. The gender doesn't matter.