Why do some women say it's not cheating if they do it with another woman?

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I've seen this logic used by so many women to justify them cheating. Like in what world is it not cheating?

joe_schmidt · Accepted Answer

Personally, I think it's about the emotional connection they may have with the other woman. If it's simply sex with no emotions, I don't see a problem with it because there's no penetration from another guy cumming inside of her, even if it's just precum, and even if they had a condom, I don't want another guy feeling the inside of my woman.

A woman, will never truly be able to feel my woman the way a guy can. They can't cum inside of her. They can't get her pregnant, intentionally or not. And personally, I'd think it's kinda hot watching my woman make out or have sex with another woman.

But it becomes a huge problem if they start developing feelings for the other woman. If they'd rather spend more time with her than with me. If they're too exhausted to have sex or not in the mood because they've had to much sex with her. Or if they lose interest in having seen with me because she's getting satisfied by her.

That's when the line has been crossed and is considered cheating... in my opinion of course.

BeenThereLovedIt · Accepted Answer

A girlfriend once had an emotional affair online, they would have virtual sex, and even did phone sex calling each other back and forth. The whole time she claimed they were just friends, but I found their chat logs and it was sex, romanticism, and even "love you's" going on.

When I confronted her, she said it wasn't cheating because they never even met. I called BS on that, and then she blamed me saying "you drove me into his arms" because I worked all day and she was lonely at home.

I lost my shit and destroyed her computer and phone, kicked her out of our apartment, and never spoke to her again.

She lied to me, then tried to blame and gaslight me. Three strikes.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Accepted Answer

That's so ridiculous... Any time you do anything of a sexual nature with "anyone" other than your PARTNER it's cheating! So the asshat women that try to use that as an excuse or justification, are "they" okay with their partner having sexual interaction with other guys then, cuz then according to their own standards that wouldn't really be cheating either, right. Cheating is cheating period! Omg people need to just stop already... I don't even get why people get into relationships just to make mockery of it... Stay single and mingle then

PBandJ_Nerd · Accepted Answer

Because for whatever reason, some women think that since it isn't another man it's not really cheating. When in fact it is cheating since you're still having sex with someone that's not your exclusive partner or husband. It could also be because some guys don't see their woman kissing or having sex with another woman as cheating.

Mysteriee · Answer

I don't get it either.

People try to justify it by saying that because you're not normally sexually attracted to that gender, it doesn't count. Which is utter bollocks in my opinion.

Unless agreed by both partners to engage in sexual acts or to be in an open relationship, it's cheating, end of.

Buttface82828 · Answer

Because the main bad thing about cheatijg is the sadness and jelousy it brings,
if she fucks another guy u wonder why he's better than she would prefer him instead of you, it makes u sad cos u think he's better than you and more attractive.

if its jus with another woman then it doesn’t matter because ur not competing with someone else, its a whole nother gender, u dont feel sad like that guy is better cos its a girl and not a guy, so u dont care,
so its hardly cheating if it doesn't effect or bother you, if it does effect or bother you, you're too sensitive and overdramatic

aWes0MeNeSs · Answer

I've never heard that, thankfully, but it sounds ridiculous. Cheating is cheating, no matter the gender or either person's sexual orientation. My only guess is that they think if they identify as straight, it doesn't count (but it absolutely does).

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

It's still cheating.

Gender doesn't matter when it comes to breaking fidelity. It's the act that matters.

Women who pretend otherwise are bad liars. As all cheaters are. And they're just desperate to justify their unfaithful behaviours.

Unless the relationship they're in allows for that sort of thing, it's cheating. Plain and simple.

Finchie40 · Answer

It’s cheating if they are in a committed relationship and if it’s something that wasn’t addressed in the beginning Before getting into a relationship.. So those girls are talking out their asses they are cheaters , Why a girl that is bi needs to address that she likes hooking up with girls as well before she gets involved into a relationship if she doesn’t then that makes her a cheating whore

Anonymous · Answer

They probably say it cos women don’t have dicks so it’s not sex if they can’t even fuck.

Why on earth would you want to do anything with a woman anyway? They’re not straight if they do “do it” with a woman. Straight women don’t do sexual stuff with women.

TJFreshman22 · Answer

As long as she comes home to me at the end of the day and the other girl she's with is clean, I certainly wouldn't mind. I'd just want to be able to watch the action is all or hear about it after (maybe join in down the road if the other girl is bi and also interested too).

TruthBringer · Answer

Anything that involves intimacy (sexual) done outside your relationship, regardless of gender, it's cheating. Plain and simple. Reminds me of this meme that says "If I slap you with my left hand even though I'm righthanded, did you still get slapped?". Well, same thing applies to a woman doing shit with another woman.

CuteNerd9 · Answer

Of course its cheating, however maybe they get it from men like my brother who tells his bisexual girlfriend that's it's okay for her to cheat as long as its with a woman. This actually made her angry and she told him that its still cheating and he shouldn't be so dumb.

bobalife · Answer

It’s probably the same thing like how some guys tries to justify cheating. However, it’s a rule of thumb that cheating is simply still cheating. Some people can not faced their faults and take responsibility for hurting their partners.

Bellimo · Answer

Becausd they want to convince themselves that what they are doing is innocent and cute , when it is is just bad behaviour, dishonest and immoral. They do not want to accept responsibility for their actions , it's actun childish with responsibility and men should 't see this as cool. Move on from them sincebthey haven't grown up yet.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Except for a surprise birthday party, anything that you must hide from your partner is a beach of their trust. Doesn't matter whether it "technically" qualifies as "cheating.". If you must hide it from your spouse, you know it's wrong.

prettynormal · Answer

It is cheating. She’s just trying to see if you believe her. It’s like when men say “it’s not cheating, it was just sex, no feelings involved”. Still cheating.

yeetyskeety · Answer

Well... The only point that needs to be made here is that no matter what gender it is, it's CHEATING.

Unstoppable20 · Answer

Oh it's still cheating. Performing sexual acts with someone outside of a monogamous relationship constitutes cheating whether its same sex or opposite sex. That's like girls who have anal sex and still call themselves a virgin. Nope sex is sex and you did it.

iFarted · Answer

Cause a lot of men don't feel like it is either. If my girlfriend or wife had lesbian sex and she didn't get penetrated by something a lot larger than myself then I wouldn't really feel bad about it. If she's emotionally cheating then I guess I'd feel like shit.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Things I have heard women say they do not consider cheating (only when they do it, of course)
- Giving oral sex.
-Having anal intercourse.
-Having sex with a man who used a condom.
-Having sex with a man with no condom, but he doesn't cum in her.

Women can rationalize ANYTHING.

Hermes-Paris · Answer

I'm not sure but Hey if I do it with another woman it's not cheating right? Only if you get caught or can get treated by a doctor before you go home. What happens in Vegas generally needs a three antibiotic treatment...

menina · Answer

That doesn't make sense. It's a lame excuse, cheating is cheating period.

Saturnxox · Answer

I have no idea. Kissing with someone else is cheating. The gender doesn't matter.

coderedcerberusnight · Answer

Because they think it's not "real sex" to do it with someone of the same gender. News flash: sleeping with ANYONE is cheating.

mmv99 · Answer

There is no justification for cheating period. Being in a couple is about trust. Another thing, do not do to other what you would not want done to you. If you agree that kissing other people is fine then have at it but in a mutual and respectful way.

MissDawn7961 · Answer

if your married and make out with anyone else then your opposite sex spouse , then it is cheating ! if your gay or a lesbian then that is a sin , disgusting and you will regret it ! thanks

PinkMichae · Answer

It's cheating if their partner isn't ok with it. But some guys aren't threatened by another woman but definitely are by another man. Plus some probably secretly think it's gonna lead to a threesome.

ElDiablo666 · Answer

Cheating is to "be sexually unfaithful".
Whether it's with a man, a woman, or a bluddy alien.

Partner cheats on you: LEAVE THEM.
They do it once, the trust is gone. Relationships don't work without trust.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Because years of moral relativism from pubic screwl indoctrucation have produced a generation of reprobates, who think dishonest pursuit of pleasure is the highest good. And only evil results.

Anonymous · Answer

Because they are trying to justify cheating? Ir doesn't matter who it is, cheating is cheating, and people need to start taking personal responsibility

Anonymous · Answer

It's cheating if you guys are official and have not disguised being with women. I have been in a relationship where he said it was not cheating and it was allowed and then he still got angry which is not his right sense he already said it was okay.

BCA6010 · Answer

I've never heard this before, but by that logic, then homosexual romantic relationships don't exist. Good luck making that argument...

Electric_Dreams · Answer

Because they're delusional and/or narcissistic and/or selfish and/or hypocrites and/or they have double-standards and/or they are misandrist.

kitty71 · Answer

Cheating is cheating period and simple. Whether you do it with a gay, lesbian or straight. People need to stop sugarcoat things to justfiy their faults

scarlett774 · Answer

I think it’s cheating but some guys don’t care if their girl does things with other girls

amyba · Answer

They don't you just think they do... in reality lots of men don't care if its a girl... of course untill she falls in love and leaves him for that women 😏

devilman666 · Answer

Because guys are stupid enough to believe it (mainly because they like the idea of 2 women doing it, and they like the idea of threesomes.)

Kitty0811 · Answer

Bs. Cheating is cheating!  If a woman says that she slept with a woman and it's not considered,  Well, a guy sleeping with a guy shouldn't matter either, right?  😁

scott04sa22 · Answer

I was working with a girl for 3 weeks then she decided to come out of the closet. Quit her job, left her husband and 3 kids behind then move in with her new lover. This was like 15 years ago. So I say she was possibly cheating.

1CentWorth · Answer

The correct response is It's not cheating if we're having a three way.

LJlust · Answer

personally I don't view it as cheating either I always say my girlfriend's they can have a girlfriend if they want I don't even want to touch her physical butt who makes it better fine by me to each their own

Budvizer · Answer

Well I personally wouldn’t mind my woman with another woman, preferably I’d like for her to let me in on the action as well or at least let me watch. It’s other dudes I don’t allow because guys are disgusting.

humanearth · Answer

Sound like the same crap some men say. They call it on the downlow Same crap different name and its still cheating

dave216 · Answer

Because they are doing it with another woman

Thatsamazing · Answer

Uhhh almost no chicks actually say or think that, dude. I've heard it like, once or twice in my entire life.

ValleyofDrakes · Answer

They want an excuse to bang the other woman. Simple.

MrHopper · Answer

Ask them and see why, its not common to my knowledge

AdithyaR · Answer

People who say that are idiots. Dump them anyways. Cheating is chesting irrespective of who they do it with.

NamerOfStars · Answer

I think the only people I've ever heard that from are men. Still inexplicable, though.

Reign_Interrupted · Answer

Cheating is cheating. Any time you go outside your relationship, it's cheating. I don't know what women you know but most women know this.

madgoat · Answer

They are lacking in judgement and in a moral compass.

Anonymous · Answer

Probably because ethey don't see it as anything meaningful, mor eplayful experimentation. Now if it were a guy, there sprobably something about him that she likes.

ItsTheNephilim · Answer

That's a lame excuse. You, me and them, everyone knows this.

GreenGold1992 · Answer

I call bullshit on that If they do it with anyone but their partner, then they're cheating, regardless of gender Seriously, what retards

blondfrog · Answer

Cheating is about the intention. Its a physical or non psychical form of deception with another human being against your SO.

Anjuverma · Answer

It's not cheating, it's a fulfillment of body desires

StellaDarli · Answer

it's not a good enough excuse. It's still cheating.

Dargil · Answer

Because they want it to be true. Some also think anal intercourse preserves virginity.

worldscolide · Answer

Because they are too stupid to understand that cheating is cheating regardless of gender.

pigoat · Answer

Dr Drew says it's considered cheating even if the boyfriend/husband approves

Dchrls78104 · Answer

It's the same twisted logic that says that you're a virgin if you have done oral or anal sex but never vaginal sex: it's wilful self-deception.

Wise4myage · Answer

I laugh when I read or hear about people who believe that. Some guys think receiving blow jobs from other girls isn't considered cheating either, lol.

Shyguy206 · Answer

There is a strong chance that they have/had a boyfriend who doesn't care and would likely think it's hot. I personally think its cheating regardless of gender.

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