I still want to have sex with my female friend?

[Anonymous]

basically I have a friend who claims she’s not sexually attracted to me. I’ve known her for 7 years met her working at the same place. We started off what I was thinking at the time us talking around this time she claims because she liked one of my friends we couldn’t do anything and she didn’t like me like that in that way. I wasn’t mad and I believed her but the thing is she flirts back with me it was a time she came over to my dads house and she told me at a certain point if I made a move we would’ve had sex that night. I do believe the friend thing she told me but after that we would always link up and she would have a boyfriend or something and everytime she was single it seemed like we would get closer and closer to having sex she even would cuddle with me and she had a boyfriend. I also moved away from our hometown and I would have stretches I would go missing and we wouldn’t talk. I truly think if I was present all the time and was a little bit more relaxed about it and I didn’t let it be known how much I wanted to have sex with her we would’ve did it. I know you can’t force someone to have sex with you I just feel like we both know we like each other but she doesn’t give me a chance because of what happened between us

[Anonymous]

Dont confuse casual flirting for any sort of interest. Or even the extremes of intimacy.

I knew a girl who would playfight and at one point we were both half naked drawing all over each other with a makeup pen...

That came to an abrupt end because I kissed her, she had a boyfriend. She was willing to get mostly undressed and be straddled on top of each other, but kissing was too much.

We aren't close any more but she still compliments me, like that she likes my suit or that i look smart. doesn't mean she wants me.

I think the awkward but useful way to think about it is if you take their exact compliments, but imagine them being said by an old lady, does it still seem normal for them to say in conversation? And if so would you think that old lady likes you because she complimented you?

Trust me that even if you do have underlying feelings it may still never happen, if she wanted to sleep with you she'd have you. Fact is before that whole kissing incident that girl and I had slept together a few times, we didn't pursue it because she was sexually but not emotionally attracted to me. Youd think in any case a woman who is sexually attracted to you would be more likely to do it again, and as much as I want to I dont think it will ever happen again...


As a plus side i peaked the interest of someone else and as a result I'm now dating and having sex with that girls twin sister

[martinxdenver]

For seven winters you've attacked the wall and for seven winter you failed. But you still want to climb that wall. Bruh... is that the only pussy you can find? well if it is, its told you it doesn't want you... leave her alone bruh. Focus on yourself and go get yourself another one... seven years? do you know how many girl you would have been with if you removed your mind from that girl? stop immediately... its not worth it bruh... someone is fucking that girl. Trust me, if you were the only man on earth your dick would mean the entire earth to her. Her needs are being satisfied. Let it go.

[Asker]

I just wanna fuck one time and Its just frustrating cause I know she be wanting to fuck. I’m not new to this buddy

[martinxdenver]

Bruh... wake up... if your not used to this youd definitely know pussy ain't never worth the wait... she got you under a spell bruh... you still thinking you can hit it🙆🏿‍♂️

[martinxdenver]

If she wanted to fuck you, the highest youd wait would be a week or two... I just hope you ain't wasting paper on the broad

[martinxdenver]

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[Asker]

I never spent a dollar on her. This a girl who done got her ass beat by her ex dude cause she came from my house smelling like weed. We used to cuddle while she gotta do dude: she done spent the night and cuddle with me the whole night and we were talking and she told me that if I made a move we would’ve had sex. It’s irritating because I’m like Ik she will fuck me. A girl not gone tell a nigga who they trying to put in the friendzone they would have had Sex with them. I’m not stressing about it I ask these questions to get random people opinions because it helps me understand people and how woman act in relationships better. Never will i go out bad with a girl

[martinxdenver]

Brotha... I won't give you information I'm not sure of... I once met a chick who did the same shit to me. At first she be telling me she ain't ready for a relationship. I left the broad alone. She came running back after a month or two telling me she miss me, she's ready, she want me. Something bout the broad screamed trouble but I wasn't so knowledgeable about stuff like this at the time. I was new to the game. I said okay baby I'm nor really sure I should take myself back to the past for a thing I'm not really sure is still there, let's meet up and talk" we met again, it was cool. Met a few extra times, equally cool. At the point I was like okay, she fine and she want me. Aiit, we can be exclusive. She then told me. She dont want to have sex that she's a virgin. I told her I dont think itll be possible for me to hold myself for a whole relationship knowing pussy is out there but I'm still in it without pussy. She told me she needs to "feel comfortable" first, that she doesn't want to "move too fast". These two huge lies convinced me I could hit it. We kissed and touched and all but i never saw her skin. Not even once. She never even gave me wet intellect. She'd sleep over at my place, kissing me all night but never did anything but cuddle and spoon. I can remember the biggest thought on my mind back then while on my bed with the chick was "how can I have a beautiful, ass chick like this spending nights at my place but I can never hit it. I got to find out she had another dude. then".

[martinxdenver]

You see the reason why she wanted me wasn't because she loved me. No. It was because when I left her, it broke her ego. She knew she wasn't attracted to me. She just wanted to have me around keeping her emotionally comfortable. I took her out and shii, bought her stuff on her birthday, Netflix and chilled, her all the while thinking I could hit it. It was a lie I told myself to make it seem like she was worth the wait. 5 months in, the scales feel from my eyes. I told her I had to had to have sex if not, it's over. She said "it over

[martinxdenver]

Long story short. Ask yourself. Has she ever shown me any skin? if she has why is she tempting me this way. If it's just sex you want from her, you can get it somewhere else... if it's a relationship you want, you know she's not the best candidate for that... cause if she cheating on someone with you, she will cheat on you with someone. 7 years is too long to wait. I'm taking time to explain to you like it's my own brother cause I really hate the time I wasted o that girl. I deluded and blind I was to the signs she was just feeding me enough to keep me chasing. Move on bro

[martinxdenver]

I didn't point out the fact she had other dudes on the side she was entertaining while in school. She was texting and keeping in touch withon her phone. I was playing the secure and confident boyfriend. I didn't want to check the phone cause that would be insecure. Now I realize that's only the bullshit promiscuous women spill to hide their dirt. Everything you need to know is in a girl's phone somewhere... most times with her gfs. I later checked the phone and found a catalogue of guys. I remember I didn't even say shit. A part of me already knew. I looked to the ceiling standing there with the phone as she kept on screaming about how it's not right I'm going through her phone. At a point all I could see was her mouth moving. I couldn't hear her... that's when I woke up.

[Asker]

Bro thank you 💯

[Gedaria]

Just be friends, if it's going to happen it will don't rush it...

[sheikalana]

Man respect her wishes. No is No.