She's been very busy lately should I just hold back from texting and calling till she has time. Or should I at least send her a good morning text?

[Cowboysfan89]

[karennn]

Let her know you're thinking of her. It will get you a long way. But don't spam her phone either lol.

[Cowboysfan89]

Dh hasn't texted back what should I do

[karennn]

How many texts have you sent her and gotten no response, @Cowboysfan89?

[Cowboysfan89]

So today I sent her a text morning thinking of you and wish her good luck on her interviews. No reply no nothing. I sent about 5 throughout the day. Told her I was sorry my head got the best of me today and that id like to talk when she free. So now what can I do at this point. Totally up to her right?

[karennn]

Yep, pretty much nothing else to do. You have made it clear that you like her. Its just a matter of waiting now to see if she starts missing you enough to reply or not.

[Cowboysfan89]

Typically how long should I expect. Not gonna even be on my phone at all to resist temptations. I need to learn to step away. I feel like we had a close connection. She told me she loved me, worries about me driving home after graveyard safely, said im one of the most important things to her in this world. And she said she wouldn't have moved and stay here for me alone. But she moved anyway to pay off bills so wth? How will I know if she's missing me and how long do you think it'll be if ever. Anything I need to do except just backing off. She definitely knows my feelings!

[karennn]

She pretty much knows you'll be her back and call when she's ready. So just try to distract yourself and keep yourself occupied. Give it at least a week. If she misses you ; she will make it a point to reach out to you and let you know. There seems to be a lot of inconsistency with how she's showing affection towards you.

[Cowboysfan89]

Yeqh and we never talked seriously about if we are or not. Thats what I wanna talk about. What should I do if she does call or text?

[karennn]

Ask her why she hasn't reached out any earlier. But to be honest.. she sounds way too complicated. And unless that's what you're looking for- I'd let her go. She really sounds like she's ghosting you. I surely hope she's not though.

[Cowboysfan89]

Well I think time will tell. And I'm just gonna be upfront about what were both expecting and want. Cause we both went through this 10 years ago and was trying to give her the benefit of the doubt. Would have been much easier if she didn't move away do to Financials. So after a week should I reach out?

[karennn]

Hmm, so y'all went through this 10 years ago and didn't work out. You both tried again this time and if she doesn't reach out after a week- let her go buddy. You can't force something that isn't there. If someone likes you, really likes you.. they will make it a point to set aside some time just to reach out. No one is ever THAT busy. You deserve someone who will return those feelings. Think about you as often as you think of them. I am here for you if you need a friend.

[Cowboysfan89]

Thank you. I may very well reach out again and thats the weird thing too. Because she was scoping out my house showed her pics but wasn't good enough. She never has been mad at me but been real busy but as of lately just haven't talked much. She even went as far as to see if I wanted kids and asked how many I'd like and she agreed the same. So wth is going on here. And she spent nearly 400$ on me last week she was here and had lost her job before moving. So perplexed

[karennn]

To be honest all those don't mean anything if she can't even communicate properly. Sorry to say but words are easier said but if she can't communicate.. there really isn't much to go by. You're reading way too much into it and if you reach out again it will honestly make you look desperate.

[Cowboysfan89]

Okay will definitely not do that not even a good morning or anything. I think this will be a good test for her to see if I mean the world to her like she says or that she loves me. Gonna wait a week and see what happens. She's on my fb which okay. Should I post speraticly cool stuff im doing or just keep it minimal. she's gonna wonder cause we talk everyday

[karennn]

Keep it minimal. Matter of fact- stay away from social media. Just keep busy. Go for a walk, run, spend time with family or friends. The less she knows the better that way it will be quicker for her to miss you. If she really has feelings for you like she said she does- she will reach out. If she doesn't reach out you know where you stand with her. You sent her messages which she did not respond to so its a matter of just waiting really.

[Cowboysfan89]

Okay glad I'm not alone in thinking that

[Cowboysfan89]

Well she messaged me today saying she's been slammed with getting a new job and she was outta town with family and she didn't have her phone. Told her I feel silly for over reacting and I'm sorry. You think that was good she reached out. Now what should I do

[Cowboysfan89]

What yoy think of the above

[karennn]

For me its an excuse. Like I said - no one's ever THAT busy where you don't have time to text someone special in your life. But if you wanna put up with that in the future- go for it buddy.

[Cowboysfan89]

Okay I understand we'll see what happens im just gonna go about my way and worst comes to worst we'll just be friends. And I figured if she doesn't hear from me ill find out just how much she cares for me. Make a little mystery

[karennn]

Good luck!!!

[Cowboysfan89]

Thanks. Trying to be hopeful ball is in her court. Just taking it as we're friends going about my way and trying to forget it so indont get hurt

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Send her a good morning text & let the ball be in her court

[Cowboysfan89]

Then what

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Then go about your day & if you dont hear anything in like a week move on

[Cowboysfan89]

Okay

[Cowboysfan89]

Questions. She wanted to come see my place even though I showed her pictures. She said she loved me but I don't know in what context. She said I mean the world to her. Why did she wanna see my place despite seeing pictures. Also one day she asked if I wanted kids then wasn't good enough and another day asked me how many. I just responded 1or 2 same as her but told her it all depends on what your blessed with. Im safe to assume she's in love?

[Dazed0N0Confused]

I wouldn't go that far to say she's in love. I think she may have an attraction to you, on some level. If she is telling you she loves you, but you two haven't been together to know one another well, i would see it as a red flag. If she's asking to come over & see your place she's probably looking to have sex with you.

[Cowboysfan89]

Hmm hard since she moved away. I didn't get that from her. Showed her around and then once I did I asked if she wanted to stay and hangout or get her home. Last time I seen her before she left. She left to stay with family to get her debts paid off, she started sniffling and crying. Should I reach out after a few days

[Dazed0N0Confused]

Send her good morning texts a few days in a row, if she doesn't respond, move on

[Cowboysfan89]

So you think wait like 2-5 days? I did the other day and she was receptive. I know she's been having trouble with her ex here in my state. She said if im okay dealing with that then she's OK with us. Without saying relationship. She also is trying to find a job in her new state and just got there Sunday.

[Cowboysfan89]

Complicated huh. What you think?

[Cowboysfan89]

So I did qnd she hasn't replied at all today. Totally not like her

[Cowboysfan89]

I did that kinda worried me when 8 hrs went by and I heard nothing so I don't know what to do now. Sent her like 3 msgs

[myname604]

If she doesn't text you every 22 seconds you are doomed.
Go find another girl that you have to block during your work hours.

[Nicegirldaqui]

Send her a good morning text.

[Cowboysfan89]

I did no reply. How long should I wait to contact her. Or just wait for her to do so

[Anonymous]

She's probably ghosting you because you are a Cowboy's fan.