Long story short I asked my friend out last week, she said yes, liked the plan, texts me the morning of that's she's in too much pain for an outdoor date and let's do it next weekend she said. Friday and that whole week I see her on most days and she's still dealing with pain, tells me we can go if she's better but on Saturday texts me that she's doing to the doctor cause her pain is too much right now, didn't mention another day, she's focused on her pain after all. I stop texting her and tell her to let me know how it went. She never did. Maybe my bad from not texting her anymore
But today she told me she spent all weekend hooked up on meds for her pain and is still not feeling well at all, pretty obvious on her face. I certainly don't want to be insensitive but I am excited about going out with her. You think I should text her asking her if she wants a low key date with food at her place or mine? Since she obviously can't do an outdoor date
We both start holiday break next week so it's either this week or waiting until January. I could also tell her let's wait until January but I don't want her to think I don't care about our date either. I dunno, it's all just so much. What would you do?
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If I were you I would stop bringing up the date because to be honest I don’t think she really wants to have one. You may disagree and feel like why did she agree if she isn’t interested, but some people have a really hard time saying no. I know personally that my inability to say no has landed me in some situations that could’ve been avoided. With your friend, I believe she has an easier time cancelling or saying no through text message, which she has proven. On top of that, she’s dealing with health issues and the last thing on her mind is having a date with you, and she tries making that clear by explaining what she’s going through. To be honest the fact that you can hear those things and still try to find some way to make the date happen looks insensitive and a bit selfish. So I’d really suggest taking the date off the table and let her bring it up on her own.
Pain or no pain, if she was truly interested she would be making solid plans in preparation for when she's better. She would be clear.
You said 'You think I should text her asking her if she wants a low key date with food at her place or mine?'
If she was interested, she would have already done that. I'd say she has low interest and if you continue to text her about the date, it will become zero.
I would just cancel. I'm sorry but if she's in pain I wouldn't even bother.
You mean I should just not try anything with her or leave it for later?
I wouldn't try in general.
I don't know if I can let my friend think I don't want her because of her health issues, cause I do. Or do you feel she does not want anything because of her health issues?