Why do most marriages fail nowadays?

[Anonymous]

I’ll tell you why I think:

All women want weddings but aren’t prepared to wives. Women look for a man who’s better than her at a lot of things then expect equality?

Modern women are toxic and disloyal. They refuse to make good wives, be submissive and give you peace and quiet. Let us be the man and you be the women.
Or just add to the statistic.

Men want respect. If a man isn’t respected as a the man of the house he won’t want to be there for very long.

I agree with your reasons

I disagree with your reasons

[GuysJustBeGayInsted]

Porn is ruining marriage.

In an informal meeting survey in 2002, the American Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers questioned 350 divorce attorneys and found that roughly 60 percent reported that internet porn played a significant role in the divorces, with excessive interest in online porn contributing to more than half of such cases.

It’s not just lawyers who are picking up on the trend. In 2005, Dr. Jill Manning, a licensed marriage and family therapist specializing in sexual addiction, pornography, or betrayal trauma, brought her research on porn and its connection to divorce before the Senate. According to Manning’s research, 56 percent of divorce cases involve one party having an obsessive interest in pornographic websites.

John Mathews*, Family Law and Divorce Attorney, has also found porn to be a prevalent problem within his practice. Mathews explains that, in most cases, spouses deny porn use. But during discovery, a process wherein each spouse is given a list of questions to answer under oath, and during the back and forth between spouses as he tries to understand the complaints, he sees clearly the role porn plays in crumbling marriages.

Mathews explains that porn is most often cited amongst complaints of “Constructive Desertion,” meaning the spouse is at fault for emotionally abandoning their partner and withdrawing from sexual intimacy. Mathews says that he has had several cases in which a husband can’t stop engaging with porn, causing him to withdraw from quality time that could be spent with his wife. Most often, Mathews explains, porn use takes its toll by creating false expectations for physical intimacy. “I have had many cases where the husband won’t even touch his wife and several cases in which the spouses have not had sex in three or four years,” Mathews says.

In recent years there has been plenty of research documenting the addictive powers of porn and its ability to ruin sexual intimacy. But it’s eye-opening to hear it from lawyers who document the couples’ stories, from “I do” to the piles of paperwork at the end.

The burning question then is: If divorce lawyers have been raising the red flag on porn use in marriage since 2002, why are we only just starting to hear about it in the past couple years?

In a humble and heartfelt open letter to readers in 2016, Dr. John Gottman explains that even today there are varying theories on how to manage porn use in marriage. According to Dr. Gottman, many marriage counselors recommend that couples merely accept porn use, especially by men, as natural and harmless. In fact, Dr. Gottman admits that in the past, he had even recommended porn use in the hopes of increasing intimacy for couples who were struggling with intimacy after the birth of a child. But, in his 2016 letter, Dr. Gottman corrected his recommendation and now stands by research that indicates porn is indeed destructive to intimacy.

“First, intimacy for couples is a source of connection and communication between two people. But when one person becomes accustomed to masturbating to porn, they are actually turning away from intimate interaction. Second, when watching pornography, the user is in total control of the sexual experience, in contrast to normal sex in which people are sharing control with the partner. Thus a porn user may form the unrealistic expectation that sex will be under only one person’s control. Third, the porn user may expect that their partner will always be immediately ready for intercourse (see Come as You Are by Emily Nagoski). This is unrealistic as well.”

Dr. Gottman’s years of research on marital intimacy align with what divorce lawyers have been witnessing for at least the past fifteen years: Porn use destroys marital intimacy and significantly increases the chances that your marriage will end...

[LazerBean]

Because most men and women are sexually immoral, which leads to weak relationships and poor choices. Marriage is between such people are increasingly producing boys like you, but the bright side is that at least the reproduction line will likely end there.

[OlderAndWiser]

Marriage doesn't fail. PEOPLE fail themselves and they fail each other. They enter marriage with unrealistic expectations and run at the first hint of trouble instead of staying to work on the marriage.

People want the benefits of marriage when it's good but they don't want the obligations and responsibilities.

[Anonymous]

There is truth in all of that, but the biggest reason so many marriages fail is that today's women have no sense of commitment.

[DrPepper12]

You're too young to be this angry tbh. Sounds like somebody hasn't gotten laid in forever...

[CrabCakes11]

This kind of thinking is insane

[jahaims]

Poor societal/cultural values and morals