What do you think is the main reason for marriage failure?

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Kiran_Yagami · Accepted Answer

The main reason for marriage failure is that modern westerners make shit spouses. Only the clowniest, clowny browns from frown town think that marriage is for love. Of course it isn't. Love is an emotion, fickle as the seas. Marriage is for family. It's to raise the next generation in a stable, nurturing environment. One spouses love for another is nice to have, but it is not the goal. The goal is to give your offspring the best chance for success in life that is humanly possible, and breaking up a marriage because you ain't in love isn't it. So the conditions for marriage should not be whether or not you're in love. The conditions for marriage should be providing the necessary resources and care to keep the family unit stable. For the man that's paying the bills and ensuring the house has a sense of discipline. For the woman that's bearing children, caring for said children, feeding the family, and providing a nurturing environment to raise said children. When those goals were at the forefront of everyone's minds, families lasted longer. Now that people lie to themselves, families don't last at all.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Because these dumb fuckers are getting married for reasons outside of making babies and raising kids. They think it's all about love which they also conflate with sexual attraction 9/10th's of the time. The worst are the ones that get married for money... kids become the victims of greed in those cases.

It's like, did you even want to have a family of your own? ... it's one of those questions I want to ask when it's all fallen apart already for them, but I know it's like rubbing their face in the truth and they don't want to hear it.

With that said I'd also like to add that people need to start vetting their partners better. They'll want a family, but then they choose someone that shouldn't be anyone's father or mother. They pick partners for the wrong fucking reasons outright, or, they just didn't pay enough attention to who they were making these sorts of plans with.

DubiousIntentions · Accepted Answer

Building a relationship on sexual attraction rather than the personality behind the eye balls. People seem to be in a real rush to have sex so don't even get to know the other person well. Getting along sexually is not the most important thing, though people seem to think it is. As a matter of fact, I would bet that when one of these has their mate unable to have normal sex anymore, such as from sickness or from an accident, they will seek a divorce, or split up if not married. They won't want to stick with a person unable to feed their hunger for sex because that was the only thing they built their relationship on and the only thing that bonds them together.

Hinaaaaa · Accepted Answer

I think it's because of expecting high from your other half... marrying someone because you are infatuated with them & when those red rose glasses are broken you see a real person...& Instead of understanding that person... you tend to leave him/her.

Also lack of commitment & having Soo many options... Having no open communications about your needs & problems...& When no difficult conversations occur then the trust will never build... the pillar of every relationship.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Lack of commitment, communication and love, it can be from one to all of the above, they will all separately eventually implode a marriage, there's also many other things like cheating and stuff but that honestly all falls in the lack of love category

dynamicyandere · Answer

A mismatch in values and priorities. Specifically, valuing and prioritizing their marriage.

If they both value and prioritize having a close and meaningful marriage above everything else, I don’t see how they can’t work something out.

But, if they’re only thinking about themselves and not mutually nurturing and protecting and improving their relationship, it will likely fail. (Or become unstable.)

Anonymous · Answer

The main reason is the lack of committment of today's women. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them and men typically get screwed in divorce. Many people say that's because men behave badly, and that certainly happens, but s do women. If you look at the divorce rates among heterosexual marriages compared to lesbian and gay marriages (informatin that is readilly available), the highest rate by far is among lesbian couples, and the lowest is among gay couples. The rate among hetero couples is somewhere in between but closer to the gay rate. So the more women in a marriage, the higher the likelihood it will end in divorce. That is an issue with women's commitment, pure and simple. That is what is killing the institution of marriage.

Jazzy54 · Answer

People don’t take marriage seriously. To many people, it’s a game.

Anonymous · Answer

The government profits off of broken marriages so they actively encourage it by alimony, child support and welfare bonus payments and removing the need to prove that the contract has been broken to file for a divorce.

Here is my solution, if no fault divorce must stay intact, then any successful divorce that is carried out without proving that your spouse broke the contract, you will get nothing but the property you already own. None of your spouse's money, no kids, no pets, no home, just what you already own and that's it.

If it turns out that the filer broke the contract instead then the filer will pay all the necessary payments to the spouse who is left.

This applies to the husband and wife, your sex shouldn't mean shit here.

But this change is never going to happen because the state hates the idea of nuclear families.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The main reason for marriage failure is marrying the wrong person.
The main reason people marry the wrong person is because they think relationships are about compromise and they do not think perfect matches exist.
Some people are also just not marriage material because they're assholes.

Stressyalaire · Answer

Shit culture. People go in not knowing what an actual good relationship looks like. What commitment means.

ariadneR · Answer

Communication. People don't talk anymore. If something is bothering you about your partner talk to them about it, not someone else

electromagnetic · Answer

Lack of: communication being the main issue and infidelity just behind it.

lightbulb27 · Answer

Areas of incompatibility never resolved resulting in excess stress and not managing those issues well.  Longer term… not putting in effort to maintain… distraction

abc3643 · Answer

1. Not knowing yourself well enough. 2. Being unrealistically optimistic and hopeful and wilfully ignorant of your faults and theirs.

smilelots · Answer

I think its because people are not honest with themselfs and with others about every thing and we get married way to young.. we dont even know about ourselfs so how do you know what we need or want in a partner long term..

andreasderjuengere · Answer

It's the present interpretation of what a marriage is about? In this century 'we' consume and claim; but 'we' refuse to take responsibilities.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Marrying somebody based on potential or who you think they can become. That's just a recipe for disaster. That's putting expectations on your partner to become someone else. When they don't, unhappiness prevails.

jahaims · Answer

People not understanding what they are committing too.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Couples need to communicate more and make sure things are according to what they both like it to be.

SeekerOfTruth007 · Answer

1) Arguments about money. 2) Arguments about Religion. 3) Arguments about Politics.

inhua · Answer

liberalism, promiscuity, infidelity, narcissism and inability to not get offended

DextroShade · Answer

Women are incentivized to divorce their husband's by society. Also, women have higher body counts than they used to which drastically increases the likelihood of divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

Feminism. In the 1950's only 2.5 out of 1000 marriges ended in divorce. Today its half! People value money over family today

jwmiller95 · Answer

Marrying someone with expectations and goals and ambitions. Then giving up on them like your failed new years resolutions to go to the gym more

BigDog1989 · Answer

Communication The number one reason marriages fail, is miscommunication. I GUARANTEE IT

BLP11520 · Answer

Selfishness and unrealistic expectations. Impatience. A loss of a good job can compound matters. Lose of a baby or miscarriages can hurt for years.

JonesT10Apr · Answer

less of patience... specially money related issues...

krin_m · Answer

It always comes down to broken communication!

EaterPeter · Answer

I give you 3 Selfishness selfishness selfishness

Anonymous · Answer

One or both partners really never loved the other partner.

madhatters4 · Answer

incompatibility

Luopio27 · Answer

People change over time.

shades777 · Answer

not enough sex or money or both

McLlovin · Answer

Money

AngryCarl2 · Answer

boredom

Anonymous · Answer

Divorce

msc545 · Answer

Hypergamy and greed

robocop666 · Answer

Money.

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