What do you believe are the core reasons for failed marriages?

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I hope this question doesn't cause too much chaos but personally from my observations I have noticed that there's many cores to failed marriages and the first is lack of morals from one or both people in the marriage, if someone doesn't have morals they lack the material for marriage because I've noticed morals not only helps make good decisions in marriages but it also helps you think for the other persons mental well being, you take away a moral mindset and you are left with that person's selfish and irrational decisions and thoughts, because morals is what makes a conscience, the other is lack of commitment which to be honest this revolves around the core of not having morals, but betrayal and lack of commitment speak for themselves so no need to get deeper into that, another would be the lack of patience, many people don't have the patience required for marriage and eventually the lack of patience will eventually lead to my final observation which is the lack of communication, which is very important, communication only comes with patience, if someone doesn't have the patience for the other person they will not think of trying to communicate with the other individual which eventually leads to the failure of a marriage or relationship in general, something else I've noticed is how people find it easier to just play hot potato with the guilt and blame of the failure of marriages and start tossing the blame to the opposite gender and the reality is that both genders make what we call society, both genders are guilty of all these faults in marriages which leaves us with the fact that the fault for the failure of marriages in our society goes to both genders, food for thought 👍

rtj1211 · Accepted Answer

There's no one answer. Here's a few possibilities:

1. Getting married too soon when young - mistaking being 'in love' with loving someone deeply.

2. Not having deep, important discussions about key issues of compatibility before getting married - you need to be sexually compatible, emotionally compatible and have compatible views on wealth and children if a marriage is to succeed.

3. Not putting the marriage before individual careers - the marriage may have been a compatible one, but putting work before partners will inevitably put strain on the relationship.

monorprise · Accepted Answer

The main problem with marriage in thew west is it really doesn't exist anymore.

Most people today are married to their own feelings not each-other, least of all the protection of their children.

In short people are sold the idea that marriage is about their personal pleasure, which really makes the institution itself pointless.

All the while the original institution which was centered on raising children is all but abandoned much to the harm of said children in all said cultures.

DeeDeeDeVour · Accepted Answer

Major reasons for failed marriages:  1. Infidelity  2. Lies  3. Money  4. Rushed relationship  5. Falling out of love  6. Incompatibility   7. Lack of accountability & responsibility

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Being married to an American or being influenced by American society is an obvious cause for a failed marriage. Like no brainer obvious cause.

coachTanthony · Answer

choosing someone you are not aligned with or compatible with in the very beginning but still continue it because trying to find someone else that you do align with is exhausting.

Avicenna · Answer

People change over time and can grow apart, or they weren't compatible to begin with and had the wrong reasons for getting married.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Marriages that are based solely or almost solely upon "feelings" tend to fail, because almost all marriages will hit rough patches now and then, and those "feelings" will fade. If there is no real commitment, then it is more likely than not that it fails.

DextroShade · Answer

There are many reasons:  Women are incentivized to divorce by the corrupt misandrist family courts Most women aren't virgins on their wedding and usually have high body counts, which statistically makes them more likely to initiate divorce Women are no longer under any obligation to have sex with their husbands, which leads to infidelity and other marital problems  More people are coming from broken, usually single mother, homes and have no idea what a successful marriage even looks like Woke shitstains like Chelsea Handler, Emily Ratajkowski, and others are promoting and glorifying spinsterdom

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

- Lack of communication

- Busy schedules (example: work) not having time for each other. That’s why I always say don’t take your job so seriously.

- Money

- Ego

- Adultery

- Inner family issues, in-laws against each other causing family conflict

- Lack of respect, accountability and building a better relationship. As a guy, I can’t sit here and be like yea it’s the woman’s job to cook. It’s a balance, on days where she’s tired I’ll cook, on days I may be tired and she cooks, maybe we’re both tired and we order food to make life easier.

Lliam · Answer

I suspect that the top reasons are:

Lack of commitment to the institution of marriage. People jump into it without being committed to a lifetime with that person. They don't know each other well enough and get married for lust and/or a desire to have babies.

Lack of maturity and character. Selfishness; dishonesty; cheating.

Poor communication skills. Obstinacy. Unwillingness to compromise.

A lack of commitment to each other's happiness and fulfillment.

molonski2 · Answer

Marriage is just a completely unrealistic ideal to begin with , all that happened in the old days was guys took mistresses quietly , now they can't , the realistic / actual marriage failure rate percentage is low 80s , not 50/ 50 ..

It rarely if ever works , once we face this fact , then we can replan expectations.

Billlewis · Answer

Given the lopsided supply and demand ratio nowadays, I think that the majority of marriages fail because the guy is either unable or unwilling to provide what the woman is seeking, so she decides to look elsewhere.

strateguy632 · Answer

the main cause is lack of commitment. so if i were bribed by monthly money to divorce i would initiate a divorce for any argument. causing lack of commitment.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

The core reasons for marriages failing are:
1. Lack of shared hobbies, interests, views, and goals.
2. Lack of mutual sexual attraction.
3. Marrying for money, convenience, children, citizenship, or other non love related reasons.

Anonymous · Answer

Failed marriages often result from a combination of factors, including a lack of shared morals, commitment, patience, and effective communication. Blaming one gender or the other is not productive; both genders contribute to these challenges. Successful marriages require ongoing effort, understanding, and mutual respect from both partners.

Marklaw12 · Answer

Lack of communication.

That's the core reason.

If you dont like the sex, tell him. Find ways to improve together.

If you dont like her food, tell her. Watch cooking shows.

Tell each other things, being transparent builds foundations

jojoisaskingyou · Answer

Honestly I think too many people get married too soon these days without taking the time to get to know the other person. Of course when you first start dating you show the best of yourself. Some people get married during this period then see the other side of the person later on

Bricealan · Answer

Failed people involved in the marriage. My failed, but was my fault for marrying the woman I married. I knew better.

Simslover92 · Answer

Miscommunication and money troubles. Finances is usually the biggest reason for divorce.

Anonymous · Answer

I agree with your thoughts. There are a lot of things that contribute to the high divorce rate we see today. But ultimately the biggest reason is the lack of commitment among today's women. Half of marriages end in divorce, women file 80% of them and studies all show that lack of commitment is the #1 reason for divorce.

Nikki1989 · Answer

People marry when they are not in love, and that is a recipe for failure.

Alcoholic_Wannabe · Answer

People being so weak and pathetic that they believe becoming complacent in a relationship is acceptable.

northerngal · Answer

Un realistic expectations of marriage. Confusing lust over love. Poor communication.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Cheating, abuse and people just won't shut up.  You will be amazed how much problems go away if you don't talk much.

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