Guys: Does it bother you if your girl goes out every weekend with her girlfriends?

[Paola_AR]

Taking in consideration that you’ll know where she is and what she’s doing. Ex.: drinking and playing billiards. 🎱

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Today’s a good example of why I’m considering this. I thought it would be a regular day after work at home but he’s not back.

I don’t mind him, but he goes out very often. So doing my own thing would be kinda cool too. Particularly today I did do my makeup and hair, plus I was planing on giving him a special treat but him coming drunk is really a turn off for me. So much hard work for sitting at home 🤷🏻‍♀️

[TurboKid]

I don't mind at all. My wife and I both have our guys' nights and girls' nights. Well, before COVID anyway, and hopefully we can resume at some point. We don't even need to know where we're going. The way I see it is that if we can't trust each other to do such things, I don't see how we're ever going to trust each other unless we lock each other in cages.

[TurboKid]

We do lots of other things to build trust in each other. We talk regularly. We meet each other's friends and also hang out together regularly. We talk about what happened when we were away from each other. There's mutual confidence there we have in each other that even if we go out and have some fun and even drink away from each other, we'll always be there for each other when we get home.

[Paola_AR]

You are like the sweetest ever! Thank you for sharing this ❤️ You sound like a dream couple.

[TurboKid]

Cheers! Well, we both have a party side to us. We don't live for the party but we certainly look forward to our weekend parties. We kind of took it a bit too far when we first started dating and we'd wake up both hungover and groaning in bed and doing rock-paper-scissors to decide who gets breakfast. :-D But you know, I really think trusting requires taking a gamble. If someone wants to cheat on their SO, they can if they have any degree of privacy at all. Again I don't see how we can guarantee anything if we don't lock each other up in cages and linger around each other all day, and I neither want that for myself nor my wife. We have great trust in each other and so we can set each other free.

[MTC29]

Girls' night out? fine. Every weekend? That is a potential problem. Besides, I like to shoot pool, so I'd appreciate doing it with her.

[Paola_AR]

Well that’s the thing, if he’s already out… why not?

[ChrisMaster69]

No that’s called showing trust and respect.

I would be more worried if she was not out with her friends tbh.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR that sucks big time.

It needs to be mutual.

Sometimes both together, other times out with your own mates.

I would simply arrange a regular night out and then tell him, dinners in the cupboard

[Paola_AR]

It bothers me that sometimes he comes at me like: Hey we’re gonna buy food from “x place” what do you want? Since COVID we can’t eat in these places so he brings them over to eat, smoke and drink more. So now I have to lend them the tv to watch a game, clean up any mess he left before they arrive and he does this about 1-2 times a week.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR yeah you definitely need to sit down and have that grown up chat.

Seems like he is taking more and more a loan of your good nature, next thing is he will ask you to do errands while they watch the tv

[Paola_AR]

Fuck that, I’m not a house wife. 😂 I know my limits. This is just a new part of him I didn’t know. Plus I work for my stuff so I don’t have to take shit from him if he ever went like “I bough this blabla…”

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR exactly, stand up for yourself and get it sorted.

Imagine this in 10 years time….

[Paola_AR]

Oh no 🙈

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR put your big girl pants on and when he’s sober have the chat.

Relationships are about equality

What’s good for the goose is good for the gander

[Paola_AR]

Thanks Chris 😊

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR lol no problem.

And tbh he’s being stupid leaving you on own.

[Paola_AR]

This is like my first time moving in with someone and I just don’t want to overreact either. I’m trying to be comprehensive and give him space if that’s what he needs.

[ChrisMaster69]

@Paola_AR this is where that sitting down and having a grown up conversation is important.

Boundaries, limits, etc

[Leavesbound]

I would not begrudge her fun with her friends but I'd like her to spend half her spare time with me though.

[Luckycharms12]

Well every weekend could be problem what if guy wanted make plans with you do something.

[Luckycharms12]

Otherwise wouldn't be a problem

[Paola_AR]

Well, to be honest. It’s actually the other way around. He always goes on Friday’s and Saturday’s, sometimes weekdays. So when I call him up cause he’s not home yet he tells me he’s out and he’ll get home later.

It’s not like I want to tag along because I’ve been with them before and it’s just drinking, smoking and talking shit about work. I was thinking that maybe I should do the same… just go out and have fun, the thing is I don’t have girlfriends because hanging out with girls is boring, all they do is complain and don’t take advice, then they end up making the same mistakes blabla. Like I would be going out alone.

[Luckycharms12]

Definitely go do it have fun for yourself. If going be out with friends and you don't mind. Then do the same thing

[Luckycharms12]

But sounds like should make time for you more do nice things together

[Paola_AR]

Thanks! That really means a lot. Now the real question… 🤔 what to do? 😂

[Luckycharms12]

No problem any time. We'll what are your hobbies I guess always good place start or hang with people you are friends with

[Paola_AR]

I really enjoy rollerblading and water sports. The rest is more indoor hobbies. ❤️

[Luckycharms12]

O really they both sound like lot of fun. And indoor hobbies can be fun to with right company

[WhiteWolf69]

If I had a girlfriend right now it would not bother me that she went out with her girlfriends every weekend. I spend every Saturday with my best friend.

[FilmGuy93]

Yes. It's nothing to do with trust either; that's just not the lifestyle I live, and I wouldn't want to date someone who lives their life like that.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

I’d probably miss her but I’m not gonna go all Yandere

[Joshua0213]

No not at all, I'd want her to go out with her friends.

[Iron_Man]

That’s a big problem for me because I’m not there. and I know how the friends play the devils advocate card.

[Paola_AR]

Well… if it where him going out with his friends I would not be there either but I guess it’s more about trust here. You mean to trust her but not her friends?

[Iron_Man]

The friends can be a bad influence on the girlfriend I’ve seen how these things go bad

[Iron_Man]

By the way you look like this girl from General Hospital it’s an every day running soap on TV her name is Willow. It’s incredible

[Paola_AR]

What? 😂 that is really funny, I might have to google that one. I hope it’s a compliment lol.

[Iron_Man]

Of course she’s very beautiful me and my brother really like her

[Paola_AR]

She is really pretty, just a slight resemblance though. 😅

[Paola_AR]

It was supposed to be this emoji 😂

[Iron_Man]

Two beautiful women awesome

[snackthatsmilesback]

Wouldn't mind at all, I'm not usually home on weekends myself bc I technically work all weekend.

[JesseJayNeak]

I'd spend a good time with my friends if she did that