Does it bother you when guys check out your girlfriend?

[Anonymous]

I don't have a terrible body. I am pretty proud of it and I feel like I should be because of how much work I have put into it. I don't wear very revealing clothes but when we are out in public I do notice guys looking at me from time to time. My boyfriend gets noticeably uncomfortable and will put his arm around my waist or hold my hand. He has told me sorry that it bothers him and he gets possessive he just gets irritate when "idiots constantly drool over you."

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[Kiwedin]

It happens to my boyfriend and I too. Personally, I don't feel possessive when girls check him out. It actually makes me smile and feel like "haha you can't have him, he loves me not you nanana" lmao. It makes my boyfriend uncomfortable when I get checked out or hit on though. At the beginning of our relationship, he was more jealous, but I think that the more we began to have trust in each other, the more relaxed we got about other people hitting on one of us. I do always make it a point to try and ease his anxiety a little though. If I notice guys checking me out, I'll reach for his hand and give him a smile. If I get hit on, I usually do the same or even put my around around his waist lol but that's more for me to let the guy know that I'm taken and that I don't want his attention. The only time my boyfriend got involved was when we were at a bar and a reaaaaaally drunk guy was being pretty aggressive with me, but that was reasonable since the guy just wasn't taking no for an answer.

[MaskedSanity]

I know it bothers my boyfriend a little bit, but he'd never admit it, haha.

If he notices other guys staring, he gets more handsy when that happens, lol. He'll hold my hand or put his arm around my waist, even though he's not that into PDA.

I think it's cute.

[LuckyNumber5]

My boyfriend doesn't even like me to wear short shorts in public if he's not there lol. He gets pissed off and I think it's pretty ridiculous sometimes.

[Asker]

My boyfriend has never tried to control what I wear. We both agree that it is my decision and not his.

[LuckyNumber5]

I tell him that. He won't tell me not to wear them but he isn't happy about it.

[Floyd790]

It's the man's decision what she wears men are dominant.

[LuckyNumber5]

Uh, no? He can be as dominant as he wants in bed but other than that we're equal. Pfft.

[Asker]

That is bullshit. You're not going to want to hear this but it might be best to break up or have a serious take. This kind of possessiveness and controlling attitude just gets worse and possibly abusive.

[LuckyNumber5]

What the hell? He's not controlling. He's protective but not controlling. I make most of the decisions in our life anyways. I just said he gets mad when I wear revealing clothes because he doesn't like men looking at me but I don't change. Don't give me relationship advise when you don't know anything about our relationship 😂

[Asker]

Alright. You made it seem like he was when you said he tries to control what you wear. Wrong assumption. Take it down a notch.

[driel]

I've never really been insecure about that kind of stuff, if a girl wanted to leave me then she'll leave me and there's not much I can do if I'm not good enough for her. I think possessive behavior isn't attractive in men and women because it tends to come with other insecurities.

[Bandit74]

As long as they don't touch her and she doesn't flirt back then it's fine. She can't control how other guy act towards her but she can control how she acts towards them.

[Asker]

I never flirt back and if I notice a guy staring and my boyfriend getting uncomfortable I will give him a quick kiss. Usually makes the guy look away and makes my boyfriend relax.

[Bandit74]

Well what's the problem then?

[Asker]

There isn't a problem. I was just wondering if most guys react the same way.

[Bandit74]

oh, well most guys will probably get somewhat uncomfortable but they shouldn't freak out over it.

[Asker]

He doesn't freak out. He will just sometimes hold my hand or waist. I guess it is his way of telling the other guys that I'm not up for grabs.

[Bandit74]

that seems normal

[Asker]

It is. He isn't overly possessive.

[Anonymous]

Yes. Because she could probably have any of the guys that are looking at her if she wanted. As a guy is a hell of a lot of work to do the same thing, so she's all I've got and I can't understand what would make me so valuable that she wouldn't drop me at the first sign of weakness. You can try to tell me but a straight guy can't understand a female's attraction of an intuitive level. So yeah it bothers me, and it think that's sorta why.

[Asker]

Wen he gets uncomfortable I will always turn around and kiss him and reassure him that he is the only guy I care for and want to be with.

[Asker]

I am making so many typos 😂 Please ignore them!

[Opinion Owner]

That can be reassuring, but it also sort of reinforces that you have the choice just because you have to do the reassuring. He's doesn't have options like you do.

[Asker]

Oh he definitely has options!

[Opinion Owner]

But probably not like you do, he has to do work, he has cultivate a relationship. You could "have" any of the guys looking at you, they would be doing the work for you. I can't know for sure if he does have options, but most (if not all) guys in the same position wouldn't. I think it's just the nature of males' and females' sexuality and behaviour (at least in modern society) that means you can't know what he's experiencing. Any insecurities you might have about other women and him aren't the same.

[Asker]

Alright but women have to put in just as much work, misogynistic jerk.

[Opinion Owner]

To a relationship perhaps, not to meet new people and get attention from them. The countless questions on here from girls if "it's ok" or "looks desperate" to approach, ask a guy out, text first, etc. (among other examples) demonstrates how passive most women insist on being. How was what I said was misogynistic?

[NovaLS]

I don't mind unless its excessive. Haha I have glanced at other guy's women but if they were staring, or just being creepy or wanted a touch then I will get pretty unhappy.

[Asker]

We have caught them staring and a few douchebags actually come up to us and hit on me.

[llorando]

I'd have no problem with guys checking out my girlfriend as long as the don't touch. It makes her feel attractive, and make me feel special the she is mine and not theirs. so it would be a win win for both of us.

[llorando]

Creepy old dudes checking her out wouldn't make her feel attractive, but young attractive guys would.

[Asker]

I don't particularly like it and I rarely notice it...

[JuicyBrain]

So older guys are creepy just because they're older but young attractive guys aren't creepy even if they do the same thing?

[Ashari]

Older guys are sensitive here hahaha

[Frost_Byt3]

Yes it would bother me, especially if she seemed to be liking the attention.

[Asker]

I don't like the attention and rarely even notice it.

[Frost_Byt3]

Well in that case it wouldn't really bother me as long as those guys don't come up to her and flirt with her right in front of me.

And yes, I'd probably put my arm around her or hold her hand when it happens though. It wouldn't necessarily make me mad, but it'd make me uncomfortable until the guy is out of sight.

[Asker]

A few times they have came up and said something. I will ignore them and my boyfriend will ask politely for them to leave me alone.

[Frost_Byt3]

Well that could get pretty annoying... but if you get rid of them, I'd be ok with it i guess...
Well, exactly how often does this happen? I honestly don't know how much of it i can handle.

[Asker]

Not that often. 1 out of every 10 places we go to I guess.

[Frost_Byt3]

Oh well that's not so bad.

Just a minor nuiscance, nothing to drive me crazy.

[Asker]

Yeah, just a few times a month. There was one day though. I wore a spring dress and actually really tried to look nice for our day out and 4 guys approached. He was miserable by the end of the day. I was irritated because I wanted to look nice for him and it just cause issues.

[Frost_Byt3]

Aww, I'm sorry to hear that.

[Asker]

It's fine. I just don't get ready as much if we are going to have a nice day together. Probably sucks for him because he has to walk around with someone that looks like didn't try 😂

[Cyanicide]

He's insecure. You may need to have a serious discussion with him about trust in your relationship. If he's getting upset over something so petty it's because part of him (whether he knows it or not) feels that one of those guys might make you leave him.

[Reserved]

Nope, it would be a confidence booster for me. I got girl so desirable that guys are breaking their necks to look at her. I would let them look for a minute than come in and put my arm around her.

[matheus_mb]

Yes, it's very unconfortable. I think that blatantly checking out a girl who is with her boyfriend is at least extremely inappropriate.

[complicated_soul]

I like your bf's attitude towards it
I think its good that he thinks that way.

[Anonymous]

Nope not at all. When I am dating someone she can handle herself. I will step it if the situation gets to a certain point. I will defend her no matter what.

[boobieslover]

it would bother me.
he loves you and he's just jeolous, he knows that you won't pay attention for them but he's still jeolous that not a bad sign by the way. that means he loves you very much

[zoarob]

I don'like peopole staring at my girl friend , but i can not do nothing that's normal because she is beautiful and hot

[Mickdodge]

It doesn't bother me. I like it as long as they arnt nasty about it. Makes me proud that other guys think my girl is hot

[Anonymous]

I think guys know that guys are going to check out women, it's nothing new to him.. he's just being a "protector"

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Yeah bitches she's all mine. Look but don't touch

[fenixx0083]

*ignores all of your typos*

[JustinX9]

Maybe you are just attractive