Guys, does it bother you if other guys check out your girlfriend or do you take it as compliment?

[Layafell]

If you're girlfriend turns heads does it bother you if you notice it or does it maybe even make you proud that you have a good looking girlfriend?

[TheorionMage]

It has ALWAYS BEEN at it very roots a matter of mutual prestige.
Short of obvious wealth or physical prowess in sport or by combat
EVERY male judges each male in large part by the desirability of the female on his arm
and fantasizes of their private intimacies. 'Glamoury' plays no small part.

You need look no further than the pop lyrics of Gary Puckett's "Have You got Cheating on your Mind' and Rick Springfield's "I Wish I had Jess's Girl". The critical issue is the lyric: "its knowing that YOU'RE looking back, that's REALLY kilning me. Have you got cheating on your mind?"
There's a BIG difference in being 'Mr. Right' and only being 'Mr. Right Now'.

The culture novelty store 'SPENCER GIFTS' used to sell a T-shirt which read:
"You can't be my First (implying she's sexually experienced & active)
but you COULD BE my Next" (her fidelity's is open to negotiation.)

Her 'fantasy 'allure' and her pragmatic 'fidelity' are the TWO key criteria...
no male wants a companion that no other male desires... but also does not want
a companion the community knows any male can 'woo' for a price~
While some females view this as a double-standard limiting their 'freedom'
... that application of their freedom defines them as either 'enticing' or just a 'slut'.
and I despise that label: 'slut'.

[DaveJord]

It's a compliment to me. See I have always said, that if I am dating a person its because obviously I think she is sexy as hell. So given that fact, then obviously other guys are going to think she's sex as hell and I would expect them to look.

But I am very confident person who believes I have a lot to offer an attractive lady. See all the guys in the world have not made any promises to me or own me any thing in return. So expect other guys to want to fuck my girlfriend... so it would not be about guys looking it would be about how she reacts to it, or if she acts upon it.

She see a guy looking and she smiles at him and laughs about it with a sparkle in her eye... well that disrespectful to me. But if she sees it and them pulls me closer and gives me a kiss on the cheek then we can both laugh about it.

I am not a jealous type... so I would cut her loose in a minute if I perceived any disrespect or desire on her part. I have been cheated on, but it didn't really hurt me as much as most people I guess. Her lose I just cut her loose, and move on because like I said... I have a lot to offer a lady so she's screwed it up not me.

[ChrisMaster69]

Had it happen a few times, a lot is the context of the ‘checking out’.

At times if it’s done with just a look, then I view it as a compliment (towards her more than me).

it’s when it starts entering the more staring too long, becomes a verbal, where they not only check out but say something, that’s when I tend to get defensive towards her.

i am confident she can handle herself, as let’s face it when she is on her own, she faces more ‘checking out’ and comments than with me.

yes there is an element of being proud, however I think it’s more for her looking so good etc.

It is I think a very fine line.

[ChrisMaster69]

@layafell what’s the girls take on this, if you are walking down street with your guy, and other guys check you out, how do you feel?

I appreciate as a girl getting checked out is an constant occurrence at times, however what about when with a guy.

[Layafell]

It doesn't change or matter as long as it's not some creepy starring. I usually don't pay much attention to it since there's always someone looking...

[ChrisMaster69]

@layafell yeah had a feeling it would a case of someone always looking…

Some looks are appraising and some down right creepy n weird.

[Slartybartfast]

Usually I only noticed when she complained, my ex was a very beautiful woman so pretty much everywhere she got attention.

She was a solid 8 when we got married, then she got her wisdom teeth pulled and came back from the dentist a ten.. ( her jawline was a bit to wide and that corrected it, it was amazing how much better she looked like a different person and was asked to model) she was always fit and had usually perky double D's (nickname torpedos in highschool) the first time I saw her I said " I'm going to marry a women with legs like hers" so she had it all.

Unfortunately she could be as cold as she was beautiful.

[ShadezMcgee]

Doesn't bother me because that is what comes with dating a good looking woman. She will get attention from guys both direct and indirect and you can't do anything about it as a guy. You can only control how you respond.

If your woman is good, she will be polite to those who approach her, but tell them she is taken or make it clear they are there with someone else.

[Leonharted]

Neither. I don't care what strangers do. I love my wife, and I trust her to remain loyal. So long as those 2 things remain true, the only reason I'd care about what another man does is if he tries to use force to achieve his desires (rape, kidnapping, etc).

[jamesgoldman]

It's a compliment

I can remember when I was dating, actually having guys flirt with her in front of me and we'd just let them for a couple of minutes before she'd lean over and kiss me because at my best I was a 6 as opposed to them being a 9 or 10

[Diodoro]

Makes me proud as long as they keep it respectful. They can look. If they come by and shoot their shot over and over when they know she's with me then we have a problem.

Actually almost grabbed a guy by his throat one night outside a bar who was doing just that when she already told him to leave. Like I shouldn't have to tell you to back off anyways. But if my girl tells you to backoff and you don't we have a problem

[t-8900]

He can stare. He may not approach, he may not break words. If he touches he's going to be needing a walker for a long time. Thats of course if he can get past my dominance gestures and stare down. The stare down gets them everytime anyways and that's it.

[Novacane]

Between the both I would say I would take it more as proud than anything, i wouldn’t say it bothers me because i know how guys are, we would look at anything that catches our attention and there are a lot of guys out there who don’t get attention from women so they will give attention to any women, but if I caught them looking and I would look at them and give the a thumbs up like a “she’s bad huh? I don't know how I get her” look just to be funny

[ohshee]

Depends on how far they go I mean if they know that she's taken and they keep trying as well usually the girls that I'm with will put them in their spot but I've been walking to a mall before and notice guys staring at my girlfriend and we would just smile at each other my girlfriend and I that is it's not a big deal if she knows how to take care of yourself most girls that I go with

[Neilbud]

I think it depends more on how she reacts to it. Some girls will dress to impress, and it's not just to impress the guy she's dating (red flag). Other girls could wear a paper bag over their head and still attract attention, and that's not their fault. Same goes for guys too.

Also if it seems a little excessive, like they might take it past the point of looking, that might make me slightly nervous.

I guess the answer is, it depends.