Guys, does it bother you if other guys check out your girlfriend or do you take it as compliment?

[Layafell]

If you're girlfriend turns heads does it bother you if you notice it or does it maybe even make you proud that you have a good looking girlfriend?

[TheorionMage]

It has ALWAYS BEEN at it very roots a matter of mutual prestige.
Short of obvious wealth or physical prowess in sport or by combat
EVERY male judges each male in large part by the desirability of the female on his arm
and fantasizes of their private intimacies. 'Glamoury' plays no small part.

You need look no further than the pop lyrics of Gary Puckett's "Have You got Cheating on your Mind' and Rick Springfield's "I Wish I had Jess's Girl". The critical issue is the lyric: "its knowing that YOU'RE looking back, that's REALLY kilning me. Have you got cheating on your mind?"
There's a BIG difference in being 'Mr. Right' and only being 'Mr. Right Now'.

The culture novelty store 'SPENCER GIFTS' used to sell a T-shirt which read:
"You can't be my First (implying she's sexually experienced & active)
but you COULD BE my Next" (her fidelity's is open to negotiation.)

Her 'fantasy 'allure' and her pragmatic 'fidelity' are the TWO key criteria...
no male wants a companion that no other male desires... but also does not want
a companion the community knows any male can 'woo' for a price~
While some females view this as a double-standard limiting their 'freedom'
... that application of their freedom defines them as either 'enticing' or just a 'slut'.
and I despise that label: 'slut'.

[DaveJord]

It's a compliment to me. See I have always said, that if I am dating a person its because obviously I think she is sexy as hell. So given that fact, then obviously other guys are going to think she's sex as hell and I would expect them to look.

But I am very confident person who believes I have a lot to offer an attractive lady. See all the guys in the world have not made any promises to me or own me any thing in return. So expect other guys to want to fuck my girlfriend... so it would not be about guys looking it would be about how she reacts to it, or if she acts upon it.

She see a guy looking and she smiles at him and laughs about it with a sparkle in her eye... well that disrespectful to me. But if she sees it and them pulls me closer and gives me a kiss on the cheek then we can both laugh about it.

I am not a jealous type... so I would cut her loose in a minute if I perceived any disrespect or desire on her part. I have been cheated on, but it didn't really hurt me as much as most people I guess. Her lose I just cut her loose, and move on because like I said... I have a lot to offer a lady so she's screwed it up not me.

[ChrisMaster69]

Had it happen a few times, a lot is the context of the ‘checking out’.

At times if it’s done with just a look, then I view it as a compliment (towards her more than me).

it’s when it starts entering the more staring too long, becomes a verbal, where they not only check out but say something, that’s when I tend to get defensive towards her.

i am confident she can handle herself, as let’s face it when she is on her own, she faces more ‘checking out’ and comments than with me.

yes there is an element of being proud, however I think it’s more for her looking so good etc.

It is I think a very fine line.

[ChrisMaster69]

@layafell what’s the girls take on this, if you are walking down street with your guy, and other guys check you out, how do you feel?

I appreciate as a girl getting checked out is an constant occurrence at times, however what about when with a guy.

[Layafell]

It doesn't change or matter as long as it's not some creepy starring. I usually don't pay much attention to it since there's always someone looking...

[ChrisMaster69]

@layafell yeah had a feeling it would a case of someone always looking…

Some looks are appraising and some down right creepy n weird.

[Slartybartfast]

Usually I only noticed when she complained, my ex was a very beautiful woman so pretty much everywhere she got attention.

She was a solid 8 when we got married, then she got her wisdom teeth pulled and came back from the dentist a ten.. ( her jawline was a bit to wide and that corrected it, it was amazing how much better she looked like a different person and was asked to model) she was always fit and had usually perky double D's (nickname torpedos in highschool) the first time I saw her I said " I'm going to marry a women with legs like hers" so she had it all.

Unfortunately she could be as cold as she was beautiful.

[ShadezMcgee]

Doesn't bother me because that is what comes with dating a good looking woman. She will get attention from guys both direct and indirect and you can't do anything about it as a guy. You can only control how you respond.

If your woman is good, she will be polite to those who approach her, but tell them she is taken or make it clear they are there with someone else.

[Leonharted]

Neither. I don't care what strangers do. I love my wife, and I trust her to remain loyal. So long as those 2 things remain true, the only reason I'd care about what another man does is if he tries to use force to achieve his desires (rape, kidnapping, etc).

[jamesgoldman]

It's a compliment

I can remember when I was dating, actually having guys flirt with her in front of me and we'd just let them for a couple of minutes before she'd lean over and kiss me because at my best I was a 6 as opposed to them being a 9 or 10

[Diodoro]

Makes me proud as long as they keep it respectful. They can look. If they come by and shoot their shot over and over when they know she's with me then we have a problem.

Actually almost grabbed a guy by his throat one night outside a bar who was doing just that when she already told him to leave. Like I shouldn't have to tell you to back off anyways. But if my girl tells you to backoff and you don't we have a problem

[t-8900]

He can stare. He may not approach, he may not break words. If he touches he's going to be needing a walker for a long time. Thats of course if he can get past my dominance gestures and stare down. The stare down gets them everytime anyways and that's it.

[Novacane]

Between the both I would say I would take it more as proud than anything, i wouldn’t say it bothers me because i know how guys are, we would look at anything that catches our attention and there are a lot of guys out there who don’t get attention from women so they will give attention to any women, but if I caught them looking and I would look at them and give the a thumbs up like a “she’s bad huh? I don't know how I get her” look just to be funny

[ohshee]

Depends on how far they go I mean if they know that she's taken and they keep trying as well usually the girls that I'm with will put them in their spot but I've been walking to a mall before and notice guys staring at my girlfriend and we would just smile at each other my girlfriend and I that is it's not a big deal if she knows how to take care of yourself most girls that I go with

[Neilbud]

I think it depends more on how she reacts to it. Some girls will dress to impress, and it's not just to impress the guy she's dating (red flag). Other girls could wear a paper bag over their head and still attract attention, and that's not their fault. Same goes for guys too.

Also if it seems a little excessive, like they might take it past the point of looking, that might make me slightly nervous.

I guess the answer is, it depends.

[Phoenix98]

I generally don’t care as long as they aren’t making her uncomfortable. And if they are I can just subtly tell them through an action that she’s mine.

but generally I don’t care at the end of the day she’s the one leaving with me.

[ironmidget]

I don't get upset by the guy unless he is disrespectful. It is a compliment. However,, my girlfriend is ultimately the one who is going to decide how that goes down. For example, if my girl doesn't put dude in his place by making her loyalty to me, as her man Than she just gave him the green light. At that point it's no longer a compliment but an insult.

[wankiam]

guys can look all they want... its me that gets to play with her... thats how i look at it so i really dont care when guys look

[Anonymous]

I could care less

i take it as a compliment, I have a peice of ass that sleeps in my bed
that everyone wants.

Im not insecure so it doesn’t bother me any. If anything its a win

[buttsniffer]

i dont give a shit, i dont have the energy to give a shit about things that dont matter,
its only if he tries flirt with her that il get worried or jelous

[TheAfrikan]

If am out woth last girl and I happen to step away, maybe preferably to pickup our eats or drinks. And a few dudes keep making a move on her, and she turns them down ina whisker. That would make me happy sinve it shows how attractive my girl is.

[ElvenMr]

It's a good feeling, it doesn't really bother me, unless some dude decides to come up to her while i'm right next to her.. i mean okay dude, are you for real trying to hit on my girl while i'm right there?

[hahahmm]

Usually it wouldn't bother me at all. If she went alone to a place where there's guys who can put something in her drink... then it's going to bother me.

[AnthonyJ01]

People will look, hunan nature. It us the sorry ass bitch that has a problem if you look at his girlfriend. So many overposessive A-HOLES think that nobody is allowed to even look at their girlfriend or even boyfriend. They get really bad attitudes if anyone even looks at them and want to made a scene. If there is no touching or anything but looking, there is no problem.

[Akumuviral]

It doesn't bother me one bit. I expect it. You most likely look good if i date you.
Depending on our relationship, my girls reaction of all i care about. What they do means nothing.

[Vick2727]

Uh, it depends. If it's like, dude, you are lucky your girl is cute, then cool. But if a guy checks my girl out, I'll be mad. But I won't start a fight

[Lliam]

It makes me proud to be with such a beautiful woman and to be the man that she chose. I'm not jealous at all as long as I trust her to be faithful to me.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I'm dating an ex model. It's par for the course. Truth is I have so much confidence in myself and her that I have no problem with guys looking.. She gets more attention funny enough though from women!

[Not_Average]

If it’s a quick glance, I don’t mind. She’s attractive, and I get it. If he’s staring and wants her to respond, I’m going to step in. My wife doesn’t want to be harassed like that.

[jshm2]

She's only a girlfriend, and it's a red flag if the guy is overprotective.

When the ring is on the finger, that's a different matter entirely.

[Layafell]

I don't think it should make a difference. Also just asking if it makes you uncomfortable or not... Nothing to do with being overprotective in my opinion

[FunkyMonkee]

It's like poison ivy; you can look but you better not touch!
I'd be proud if guys looked at her.

[bowenw]

It's human nature for guys to check out girls and vice versa. It doesn't bother me.

[jasco]

no even more so if my girl is hot, honestly i be happy to know that my girl is so attractive that she gets compliments like that

[AncientWisdom]

It depends on her reaction and if it’s a respectful checkout if it’s disrespectful I’m in Texas and said checker outer will be missing teeth shortly

[TonyMetal___86]

I don't like it because i respect girls who are taken, there are a lot of single girls out there and a taken girl should be treated with respect because she already have a man...