Girls, have you ever had a relationship with a man 20+ years older than you?

[Anonymous]

Have you ever dated someone a lot older than you and how did you make it happen?
I’ve completely fallen for an older man but I don’t know how to move it forward or how to even flirt with him.

Any tips !!

[Blackcupcake]

20 years is a big gap for me, but honestly if I really liked the guy then I'd say fuck it and just do my own thing... with him. Both of you are over 18, it's not like you're a naive little girl he's trying to take advantage of or vice versa, so just go for it.

Older guys usually prefer for a girl to be mature if there's an age gap, that's something I've heard from men. So assuming that you are mature, I think you should just be yourself, approach him, be friendly, joke, tease, flirt a little. See how he takes that. If he enjoys and goes with it then go a bit further, if not then keep testing the waters.

Also add in some questions, hint that you're trying to get to know him on a deeper level but start off with easy questions and slowly work yourself up.

Both of you might feel the sparks as you're getting to know each other, OR you might just realise that damn, he's a great guy but more of a friends material. So explore, don't put any expectations on him or yourself, enjoy yourself and see how it goes.😊

[Bhrianne]

I can only speak from my own experience. When i was 16 I formed a very strong bond with a coach of mine and he was 40. We got on really well and it was more of just a friendship. With him I was just myself. Men that age have seen it all so they will see right through you if you try to be something you are not or try to hard. I was also in a relationship with a 35 year old man when I was 18... once again I was just myself and spoke normally with him. If they like you they will like you for you. Enjoy the journey

[molonski2]

I've had the opposite a number of times , well many many over the years..
Currently the age gap is 22 years , Im older obviously..
Have found always that it works very well , never been a problem.

[Asker]

If you don’t mind me asking how did these relationships start off and when/how did you know these younger women were into you?
I also find it hard to tell if he’s flirting with me or just being friendly.
I’m so nervous around this man and I’ve never been like this with guys around my own age.
I’m terrified I make a complete full of myself.

[molonski2]

No prob , I will get back to you tomorrow , with detail..

[Asker]

Thanks!

[molonski2]

How did I know? Well , I guess it was made pretty obvious to me , everything I've done for last 20 years plus started on line , so it might be more difficult when you haven't done that initial screening.
Because , he's the older one , he has to be a little careful ( to be certain ) , but really sounds like you need a drink in a bar or a dinner date , getting into a more comfortable environment , older guys love younger women , so dont be too scared.
Make it obvious , all the usual's , touch , play with you hair , laugh with him.. etc

[Vikkrram]

Just go and have chat wid him, by chatting for sometime, you can make ur intentions clear

[just_a_potato]

20 years? Nope and I wouldn't want to, but that would be some pretty hot fantasy sex I tell you that.

[lilkittyamy_]

I dont have actual relationships cause im way too poly for that, but I will fuck anyone regardless of age differences!

[Anonymous]

He is a person; just be yourself and flirt with him like you would with anyone else.

[EmmaMary]

Sorry, can't help you with this one.

[jenna15]

i have with 4 years older

[Sam_The_Savage]

Sexual relationship yes