Girls, How do I tell my girlfriend that I am not comfortable wrestling her sister?

[Anonymous]

My girlfriend has a high school aged sister who hangs out with friends at my girlfriend's parent's house. I am there often to see my girlfriend also. Sometimes we are all in the living room area at the same time. I would pick on her sister and her sister's friends sometimes, that was all fun.
Lately, her sister and friends have become a little more confrontational and it has evolved into wrestling. When there are 3 or more of them, they have even succeeded in pinning me / teasing me (they are athletes, stronger than I expected), which my girlfriend finds hilarious.
Problem is, while it is all just fun and nothing more, I've found that it kind of turns me on. I have tried to subtly avoid it, but my girlfriend teases me about me being afraid to lose, and encourages them to continue.
I can't tell her the real reason I need it to stop! And I haven't found a way to avoid it. It's getting to the point that they just assume we are going to wrestle like this when we are all together. How do I get this to stop?

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[lilkittyamy_]

Just be calm and rational about it. Tell her what you are feeling. Tell her that you feel really awkward that the activity is turning you on and that you are worried how it makes you feel. If she's at all a good person she will listen to you about it and deal with the situation properly like an adult. there's a good chance she may already realize it, cause girls are usually really aware when guys have hardons around them lmao.

Now my question, does the arousal/activity actually make you uncomfortable in itselfare you just uncomfortable because you are worried your girlfriend will think the arousal means you might be thinking of cheating? If she was okay with the arousal and still continuing the wrestling would you like to continue it yourself? Maybe even leading to something further if your girlfriend allowed it? It might be a chance for a three (or more!) some :P

I think you are really lucky that you get to wrestle around with more hot chicks than just your girlfriend and your girlfriend just thinks its fun/funny lmao.

[Asker]

This is an interesting answer because it is making me think more about what it is that makes me feel so awkward. First, I want to get this out of the way, a three some is out of the question. I just want to be with my girlfriend.

About not telling my girlfriend, a huge part of it is not wanting to make my girlfriend feel awkward about it and me being around her sister. How would I justify waiting so long to tell her? And we do all have fun hanging out regardless, so I don't want that to suddenly get weird.

The activity itself isn't what is making me feel uncomfortable. Last night, her sister only had one friend over and I was able to stay in control and avoid the contact that leads to being turned on. When there are more, it's a lot harder to avoid this, and impossible if they are able to get me pinned.

I can't say that the arousal makes me feel like I am cheating... it feels weird because they are in high school (I am a senior in college), because my girlfriend trusts me hanging out with them, because I don't think they are doing it on purpose. I guess it all makes me feel like I am a creep.

[cloudspy]

Who is instigating all this wrestling? I really don't think it's only you that is getting turned on by this. And I think it's normal that you are getting turned on by it too, I think most guys would.

Your girlfriend seems pretty niave. If I was your girlfriend I would not want or be letting other girls wrestle with you and pin you down.

Maybe you could say to her that so far it's all been good fun and that but from now on you don't think it's appropriate for a senior to be wrestling with high school girls. Say you are worried what her parents might think. Surely she would see your point if she's got any sense.

Alternatively you could also jokingly say you're starting to think that maybe the girls fancy you or something cause they can't seem to keep their hands off you. That you think only your girlfriend should be able to touch you. You might get accused of being big headed by the girls but if they're not getting off on it themselves and don't want you to think they like you in that way then I think it might stop.

[lizchill]

Tell all the girls you are not comfortable wrestling with them anymore nc you think that it's like secual harassment

[Asker]

I am kind of friends with them, and I don't think they think of it that way at all. Wouldn't it make things really awkward with everybody (especially with my girlfriend) if I said this?

[lizchill]

It would explain why u don't want to do it anymore without revealing your true reason.

[Asker]

When I have said that I am uncomfortable, they just say "you are uncomfortable losing to girls" and all laugh more. It just seems to make it worse. They don't really get that it makes me uncomfortable. They think I am just playing.

[karaspara]

Tell your girlfriend it makes you feel uncomfortable and ask her to back you up

[Asker]

I know I need to get this point across, I just don't know a good way to say it. It's like the possibility of this is so far away, anything I say like this she takes as a joke. I have said that I don't want to play with them like that anymore, she laughs and says that I shouldn't be afraid of high school girls, or that I just don't like when I lose to girls... things like that.

I am afraid to say that it makes me feel uncomfortable because I don't even want to hint at the possibility that these girls have made me feel like that. Wouldn't that make me look like a creep to her?

[fantasygirl773]

U like it just don't want her to know u get turned on

[Asker]

Is it relevant if I like it or not? My question is about how to get them to stop without revealing to my girlfriend the reason I want it to stop.