How do I tell my sister “no”?

[Anonymous]

So my sister is super into kpop, and I went to a concert last time because she didn’t want to go by herself. And I hated it!!! I was like one of ten guys there. And some girls behind me were talking shit on my outfit. Like it brought down my confidence down and made me self conscious about myself. And I seriously felt like a freak of nature there because I keep getting stared at! And during the concert, the girls kept screaming till the top of their lungs, and I swear I got some permanent hearing damage from it! It’s like hearing a woman yell at you, but worse, because some were literally crying from the excitement (cringe). And it lasted for HOURS. After a while you can see why most of these women are single (especially the ones who shit talked me). And I hope to never go to one again. But my sister bought me a ticket to another show 😫!!! And I seriously don’t want to go! Like why can’t she just find a boyfriend? Like I love her, but I don’t want to do that….

[OneViewpoint]

Dude, you're 35 and can't use the word "No"... not even with your sister? Tell her you're not interested and to go find a friend to drag to this teenybopper event. It won't kill her. And she'll forgive you. You brought this on by agreeing to go the first time. Now clean up your mess and learn to say "No".

[Subtle_Luminescence]

Simply don't go. She should understand this.

[Anonymous]

Get some noise cancelling headphones or earbuds, go and just drift into your own world. It’s nice that she has you to keep an eye out for her, but before she just buys you a ticket out of no where next time she should give you a heads up.

[Asker]

They are safe. Like it’s 99 percent filled with women. And I seen some girls by themselves there. Trying to be a nice brother to her only led me to pain. So I’m good with not going. I just always have hard time saying no to anyone

[Opinion Owner]

Even if you think they’re safe, you never know. Ariana Grande concert got bomb threatened, Christina Grimmy got shot. Not to mention the creepy dudes who hide around outside of these concerts with young women/teens/girls hoping to snatch one up. It’s dangerous for your sister to go alone, so unless she can go with a friend or a boyfriend, you’re her only option. Not saying you should always go — totally not. She should ask before not just buy the ticket. I’m only saying she shouldn’t go alone.

[Flower7]

Did you tell her after the last concert that you didn’t like it? Or did you pretend that you had a good time?

[dean55au]

Tell her to take a friend

[Asker]

She doesn’t make friends like that. She’s an avoidant person. So she’s mostly by herself

[dean55au]

Just be honest and tell her you hate it and you don't want to go

[msc545]

Say NO.