Girls only care about a guy when they have an interest in him. What is the reason to that?

[Anonymous]

Can't girls respect a friendship?

[Browneye57]

Priceless, coming from a guy. As in no guy worth his salt ever voluntarily goes into the friendzone.
Women are no different, they have plenty of girlfriends, so they don't need your sorry ass if you're not into her. And besides, a rejection is taken as a direct insult by any woman - it's a hit to their sexuality.

Geez man, you're 31 and you're still this confused about women? WTF over.
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[Asker]

That's actually pathetic. We can't date every girl we see. And a friend can be a man or woman.

[Browneye57]

Bullshit. You're one of those girlie-men, aren't you?
So, you think you might have a chance to go shoe-shopping with her? Hang out at the cosmetics counter at Macy's?
Fuck no. You're clueless.

[Asker]

You sound sick and pathetic

[Anonymous]

Can't they respect stranger's too like that. Why do they play faves with their lover and then treat the next stranger with less enthusiasm or mundane enthusiasm until pretty guy returns or says hey now that stranger you're being short with is my X Y Z friend mother whoever. 🤓

[Anonymous]

It’s not about caring, I care plenty about the guy friends who are actually find with being friends. The thing is, men who don’t know how to be a friend are the ones you have to thank for this. It’s nearly impossible to be just friends with a guy bc 9/10 he never wanted to be a friend, he’s just stuck in the zone.

[Asker]

And there are guys whom you confessed yourself that you like him. It doesn't mean you can't be a friend of him. They come as a friend and flirt. They behave like they care of you and be there for you any time. But as soon as a guy only wants a friendship, the girl starts to behave differently and show her bitchiness to him.

[Opinion Owner]

Of course there are situations where the girl has to settle for friendship. But the difference is, women are more capable of being a guys friend than vice versa. Do you know how rare it is that a guy approaches a girl and only wants to be her friend? With no strings attached, no feelings for her, etc? Basically NEVER and any guy who isn’t trying to be narrow minded will tell you that. Like why do you think guys never want their girlfriend to have guy friends? Because men know other men! Let’s not be delusional here. Even you say “they come as friend and flirt”. Dude, why would I want to flirt with my friends? Why would I want to treat my friend like a boyfriend, then he get jealous why I actually get one? Girls be bitchy once a guy acts like a friend is complete bullshit I’m sorry. If anything we are grateful to have a guy actually want to be friends with no strings attached.

[Asker]

Actually, this happened to me with a married woman who has a husband and a child. She was talking to me as a friend and I believed it. And later she was saying she has a crush on me. I explained to her that it's she ruining her husband's trust. She started to be distant. And eventually this woman said I'm not even a friend of hers.

[Asker]

But before me telling those to her, she behaved like she is my girlfriend. She would text me or call me everyday morning to late night.

[Opinion Owner]

But see that there — she behaved like she was your girlfriend. She was not purely your friend, hence why I said of course there are situations where a woman can not purely be a guys friend. A lot of girls don’t want that situation, we want a flat out friend. If you personally are capable of being a friend, without flirting, or having them behave like a girlfriend then more power to you, you’re one of few. But so often this is not the case. The guy is settling for friendship because he is friendzoned, she’s taken, or you have tried to date in the past and it didn’t work out.

[Asker]

She is a married woman. If she can't find another man just a friend, I don't know who can. Hence the question

[Asker]

Irony was this woman ditched the connection we had as soon as she knew I am not into her that way and she won't get a secret relationship with me.

[Opinion Owner]

About 90% of other women can, dude lol. She is not the representation for how all women act, and I think you know that. And as for her ditching you when she knew you were into her, join the club lol this is so very much a regular experience for women. I cannot count the number of times I’ve had a male friend either go off on me out stop being friends with me the moment they know they aren’t escaping the friendzone. It’s really shitty, but at least you have an idea of what we go through.

[Asker]

Well, you are talking about 90% here, dudette. So it speaks for the majority.

[Asker]

And the only zone here is a friend. Married person can only have friends.

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, and I hope it’s clear that when I say 90%, I’m saying 90% of women are capable of being a guys friend. There aren’t many cases of friend-zoned women who want something with a guy and don’t get it, unless her situation is like for a guy: where she’s unattractive, they’ve already tried dating or he’s currently with someone. Then there’s situations like yours, where she’s trying to be a cheater. It’s good that you didn’t feed into that tho.

[Asker]

Sorry, It seems I didn't get you. But still women are like this. They only talk to a guy when they are interested in the guy. They don't even have a lasting casual conversation, if they are not interested in him romantically.

[Opinion Owner]

Not even trying to dispute you, because this simply isn’t true, at least not for every woman. Every time in my life that I have talked to a guy, it’s not always because I’m interested. 9/10 I am not. Are you interested in every single girl you talk to? Probably not. Same thing goes for us.

[Opinion Owner]

There are so many men, that I have tried to be only their friends. Whether it’s gaming, going to the bar, or whatever. There was a point that I would have loved guy friends. But men are usually the ones who can’t be friends with women, because they want more than a friendship with that woman. Ask almost any guy on this website, or in real life. You even have a man who commented and confirmed this. Like why do you think boyfriends never want their girlfriend to have guy friends? Because guys always want more. They want to flirt, or do more than a friend does. It never fails dude.

[Asker]

Yeah, it's the problem. No matter what either one would want more.

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[Asker]

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[JosyJosy]

no clue!

[Asker]

Friendships last longer than relationships. I don't know why girls behave like this. Even a married women can't stay just friends with a guy.

[JosyJosy]

I've got myself quite a few guy friends so I can't help you there