Has she lost interest or am I just overthinking and making things worse?

[Anonymous]

From the moment I started texting her, we didn't stop. Every day, when I didn't text her, she would text me. My crush was super into me. The day I confessed that I like her, she also confessed that she likes me. For 1 month, we were very close, but since November 4, everything changed.

She didn't start conversations anymore, and I felt that something was wrong, so I, overthinking it, started sending her a bunch of messages every day. For example, last week, on Monday, I asked her if she was mad at me, on Tuesday I asked her why she wasn't talking to me, on Thursday I said I wanted some attention from her. Then I gave her a 4 days break and this week on Tuesday I asked her to forget everything that happened last week and to move on. She said, "it's good that you acknowledged [the mistake]". We talked for an hour about travels, and on Wednesday she ignored my last message.

Has she lost interest in me, or am I just being annoying?

[DaveJord]

You're under 18, its normal for people your age to get infatuated and lose interest quick. So I would limit your texting, if she is not replying I would let it go.

To grownups we would say she's playing games or not interested in you. Obviously you can't keep up the text game forever, so naturally it will slow down on the number texts... but it sounds like she's blowing you off my man or intentionally trying to mess with you.

I'd stop texting her and next time if ever she texts you I would not reply right away.

[kyleelyn199723]

I think she isn’t being transparent about your feelings, but you also aren’t getting the clue. Number one rule is never lose dignity and self respect for another person. There’s absolutely no reason to message some consistently when they aren’t giving you that same mutual attention. If she isn’t showing interest even though she was at one point, that is a sign you shouldn’t ignore. It’s not a fluke that she was just deciding to not put in as much effort one day.

[kyleelyn199723]

Isn’t transparent about her feelings *

[PrettyPriya]

Sounds to me like you were being a little clingy/needy. The better question is what led her to change her behaviour.

[Asker]

Probably because I tried to talk to her every day. She didn't speak to me on Friday (05) and weekend, so I felt something was wrong and on Monday... well, I told you above. I think I exaggerated.

[PrettyPriya]

Honestly, if she had some problem, seems like she needed to communicate that better. As a result, she got annoyed simply because she didn't answer.

So, if she perceived you to be clingy, that is quite a bit her doing too.

[PrettyPriya]

Thank you for MHG