Why would someone dont talk to anymore invite to kids birthday party?

[Anonymous]

Ok, so we talked for few months then stop talking which personally I think timing was off why we stop talking but been few months since we talked.. So I find it odd and kinda weird to invite me to their kids party cause we haven't talked couple months and 2 I dont even have a kid to take.. Dont know how to take it

[horatiohornblower]

Did it just fizzle out or something? If you are still interested in her. I'd ask her if she's interested in trying out a relationship again. Maybe she's just having second thoughts.

[Asker]

She was greiving so I dont know if that had a lot to do with it or not.. I'm personally still interested. Just didn't know if I should take it as she trying to open that door or not, i just know its kinda odd n I wouldn't inv someone to my kid party I dnt have nothing to do with or talk to

[horatiohornblower]

Since it's been a while. This is at least an opening. It's a kids party. Adults usually go somewhere else in the house or into their own group. While the kids run wild.

There's going to be married couples there. She likely doesn't want to be going stag to her own kids party. At least you are her choice to present to other parents. So, you are at least someone she see's as worthwhile enough to show off.

Tell her you'd like to take her to dinner to talk and get to know each other better first. That you'd be happy to be her date to her kids party.

[Asker]

Yeah she invited but hasn't said a word to me about anything.. Plan on asking about it cause not fair on the kid nor myself.. Even if the kid asked for me to be invited she shouldn't if it isn't a door opening. Friends at least chit chat here n there

[horatiohornblower]

Make it clear you want to date.

[Asker]

Honestly I'm new to dating in this age my last relationship was 13 years and I got into that at 16 so I feel lost/dumb sometimes cause lack of experience suppose to learn at that age

[Asker]

Thanks for the advice now just need to do it... Worse case I get uninvited n we still dont talk lol

[horatiohornblower]

Just remember. If she's a good mom. Her kid is going to always be number one. You'll be judged not just as someone she wants to date but how good you'll be for her kid.

I'd also suggest letting her know early on. You don't want to get too involved in her kids life. Until you both can see serious relationship potential. Because you don't want to be some guy who becomes part of the kids life and just disappears. Since that isn't fair for the kid.

[Asker]

I agree, think kid already got little attached when we was talking n I was around we tried best not to get them to involved but no way around it. Only reason i dont want to go if nothing there relationship wise so she doesn't get confused

[Asker]

Well my man I asked bout the invite n a dinner, got told she figured I would like to come to it which I dont see how. Since we dont talk and she had plans on night ask bout dinner so think should just let go n not go to the party

[horatiohornblower]

If she won’tc consider you her date nor date you. I don’t see the point.

[Asker]

Yeah, response for dinner for another time was ok. So imma take n run with that as a nice no lol

[PrettyPriya]

That does seem odd. Perhaps just politely decline as it could be very awkward.

[Asker]

Yeah I'm a bit confused about it. didn't know how to take it.. I would understand if I played a part in their lives for few years but didn't.. So dont know if should take it as trying to open that door again or not

[PrettyPriya]

Not sure because seems like more appropriate to go to lunch or something, rather than family event. Just my opinion.

[Asker]

I completely agree with you.. Shouldn't of been invited I thought it was a spam invite till I saw list of people thats invited. Was trying to get other people opinion on it

[PrettyPriya]

I’d say politely decline, if it were me. Good luck!

[Starla1234]

Yeah that’s weird.. I wouldn’t go. Plus kids birthday parties are terrifying

[Asker]

Lol kinda is.. But why would you do it if u did

[bean2k21]

do you have clown skills maybe?

[Asker]

No lmao

[In_Trance]

Are you going or nah?

[Asker]

100% a present from me will be there 90% on myself