Should I invite my ex to my birthday party?

[madison12]

We broke up 11 months ago and we decided to be just friends. 3 months ago he got a new girlfriend and told me that he doesn't want to talk with me because this could annoy his new girlfriend. I am going to invite her because she's my classmate but should I invite him?

[liv2109]

Well this is an awkward situation... it could have consequences either way.

I'd definitely invite his new girlfriend as I'm assuming you've got no problem with her? Then just I'd just tell her that she can bring her boyfriend if she wants to and that you didn't invite him personally because you didn't want to cause any problems.

Then you're being nice, you are inviting him but you're ultimately leaving the decision down to them. Even if they do get annoyed with you, in my opinion you've done everything you reasonably can :)

[BrittBratt2416]

ugh.. no I think the only reason you would be inviting her is to get to him cause she might want him to come. He's said he no longer wants to speak, so either just invite her or don't invite any

[madison12]

Do you think it's better to invite her?

[BrittBratt2416]

That should be fine as long as your not secretly trying to get close to this girl in order to get close to your ex.

[madison12]

No no i'm not close to this girl and i don't want to be with him anymore

[BrittBratt2416]

okay that's totally fine.. just invite her cause you don't want awkwardness between all 3 of you guys.

[madison12]

Thank you so much xx

[XRabbitHeartX]

Yeah you can invite him if you are completely ovwr him.

[Mikmex1651]

I wouldn't, especially if you still have feelings for him. You wouldn't enjoy your party seeing someone you still like with someone else.

[dudeinohio]

my philosophy on exes : www.girlsaskguys.com/.../a47548-a-proper-perspective-in-dealing-with-an-ex-life-goes-on-you-should

[Robsinsf53]

Why? Let her know they're both invited, if that's how you really want it. I personally wouldn't invite either one. I've got enough friends without a classmate and an ex. Just my opinion.

[Pro14340]

I don't think you should invite him. After all, there is no point in getting into awkward situations. Right?

[kilowatt04]

How could I know the right answer? I know some people whose exes are good company and would be obvious to invite, and others who are bitter and inviting them would be an obvious no.

[madison12]

He was very rude when he told me that we must stop talking

[kilowatt04]

I guess not. He probably doesn't want to be around you.

[madison12]

What surprised me the most is that a week before confessing his love to this girl, he told me that being with me could make him very happy

[Stvniqua]

Depends on you. They might go all kissy and stuff. So if you are jeallous quickly, That might not be the best option.

[madison12]

Yes and i may have feelings again

[Stvniqua]

Then it might not be the best option to invite him. I know it may be hard. But it's your bday coming up! And you have to stay happy!

[madison12]

Thankk you so muchh!!

[Stvniqua]

Anytime, Have a nice birthday!

[madison12]

Thanksss🙈

[Mystr]

Just tell her your ex is welcome as well. So, you don't have to ask him. He can decide himself.

[madison12]

I don't know if she wants him to come because she doesn't like him to be around me

[madison12]

But she also wants him to be with her

[Mystr]

There you go.. Just let them decide themselves. Have fun at your party sweetie.. X

[madison12]

Thank you so muchhh

[madhatters4]

if you are going to invite her you may as well invite him. may be a good way to build bridges

[Cmasterson]

I don't see why you should to be honest. You don't really talk to him.

[Wonderer89]

Nope, he's not a friend and there is no reason for him to be there

[TacosRAwesome]

Invite her. If she asks to being him along say yes. Or just put a plus one clause on the invites.

[johnmichaei]

well if your invite her and she comes you know he's coming

[CyDra]

no, but tell the girl she can bring him if she wants.

[madison12]

The party is at my house so she cannot invite him

[Midget_Hug]

I don't care. No one cares. This is so... Unimportant. The automatic featuring system is terrible.

[madison12]

So why are you even bothering yourself and answering?

[TILLBEANS]

Bad idea. No. Why subject yourself to this drama?

[worldscolide]

seconded. you said what I wanted to

[madison12]

I think i am seizing any opportunity to see him

[TILLBEANS]

Wow. This seems awkward to me. So you want him back?

[madison12]

I want but he doesn't

[TILLBEANS]

Find another guy?

[madison12]

Maybe but not now

[TILLBEANS]

Why not now?

[madison12]

There's a guy and we are flirting but i think he still has feelings with his ex. I'm trying to make him forget her so if it's ok it would be a perfect guy for me

[TILLBEANS]

Oh the tangled webs...

[madison12]

Hahaha i know it's very complicated

[TILLBEANS]

I think you love the drama though.

[madison12]

No one loves to be hurt

[TILLBEANS]

You are subjecting yourself to drama.

[madison12]

Maybe

[TILLBEANS]

No maybe about it. You are subjecting yourself to drama.

[madison12]

Okay

[PoorLittleSnowflake]

It's gonna be so awkward.

[madison12]

I won't spend time with him at all

[naraku]

Certainly not !

Why would you?

[madison12]

I want him to see me with other guys and make him jealous

[naraku]

So you are not over him?

If he has a girlfriend why would he be jealous?
Also, aren't there other places you could make him jealous?

[madison12]

I didn't move on completely to be honest

[naraku]

Why?

I am sure you are a great person who can get a guy. You already told me you will have guy's around you at the party.

[madison12]

Yes but i can't get in a relationship with anyone

[madison12]

I just can't accept the fact that i could be with someone else

[naraku]

why?

There's a time to accept it. There's a time to realize there are other's.
But if you really aren't ready for that then OK.

[madison12]

I am trying to get over him but I don't want to be in a relationship i would be a rebound

[naraku]

So everyone rebounds. The important thing is to do your best and move on as you can.
If you invite him you invite him but don't let your own party go bad because of one guy no matter who he is or was to you.

[madison12]

Thank youu this really helped me !

[naraku]

No need for thanks.
Good luck with everything. Send me a message if you need to , I don't mind shooting the breeze. :)

[madison12]

Thank youu so much🙈

[naraku]

No problem !👍😊

[dilligaff]

That's a big fat NO!!

[Anonymous]

Leave it up to his girlfriend.

[eagle1951]

why would you want your Ex there?

[madison12]

Maybe he'll regret leaving me

[eagle1951]

and maybe you'll just get hurt again

[madison12]

I don't know how to forget him

[eagle1951]

well for one. find someone else. 2. hang with friends, have fun.

[madison12]

I'll try

[eagle1951]

first Ex is always the hardest unless you broke up with them.

[madison12]

He's my first love

[eagle1951]

I figured as much. why did you 2 break up

[madison12]

Religion. I know it seems strange but we broke up and we were still in love with each other

[eagle1951]

well I'm guessing that has not changed. did you 2 have sex

[madison12]

Never

[eagle1951]

ok thought maybe that also played into missing him

[madison12]

If we had sex it would have been worse

[eagle1951]

yeah that's what i was thinking

[madison12]

I am moving on but slowly

[eagle1951]

well good. don't make it harder on yourself though by inviting him to your birthday party. and Happy early Birthday

[madison12]

Thank you so much for your advice

[eagle1951]

well it's only my opinion. but i try and help

[madison12]

I respect it

[eagle1951]

thank you ma'am

[emerald77]

Don't do it.

[madison12]

I'm still in love with him

[Anonymous]

Not at all. Ex is ex... leave him , move on