I haven't spoken to him since we broke up like nine months ago. We dated for about 3 years and I got really close to his family (and have kept in contact with them since...they were REALLY good to me). The break up was UGLY cause he cheated on me w/a friend. I'm happily in a relationship w/my boyfriend of six months, and they invited my boyfriend too, but I don't want to see my ex. Do I say yes or no?
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If you say "yes" - expect to see your ex. If you plan for the worst, you'll have pre-planned a classy way to handle a potentially bad encounter (with the ex).
If you say "no" - seeing as you've already spotted the fact that they care about you, they most likely won't hold a grudge against you for not showing.
If I were in your shoes; it would be awkward to sit around for a longer amount of time (3+ hours).. But if you were to stop by for 15-45 minutes (or until your tolerance ran out) then it would show that you do appreciate the invitation and that you can get past your previous experiences.
A fall-back to "avoiding the ex" is to hold your boyfriends hand while speaking with everyone.. It shows your boyfriend that you love him and won't leave him; and it shows this other guy that you're taken.
- And a second one being to speak to your ex when he tries to talk to you. Most people think this second one is "rude", but if you truly aren't interested in speaking with him (like if he's trying to flirt with you), then it's better to do this for both your interests and his. You'll save him from wasting his breath and further spare yourself.