Girls, Why do guys get so upset when a girl beats them at anything?

[Anonymous]

[laraWM]

Because most men are raised learning they should be competitive. So it means being a man is linked to that fact, and it comes with masculinity globally.
So some feel threatened when you are better than them.

[Asker]

All the guys in my self defense martial arts get so pissy when we take them down, especially if we nailed them in the nuts, which is legal in our sport. They wear cups of course

[laraWM]

I think physical strength is a specific point associated to masculinity so they expect to win.
On your specific point, why do they even go to self defense class if they don't want to practice groin strikes? lol

[Asker]

I don’t know! They give me a hard time for using that target but the instructor says to aim there.

They are wearing cups too so I don’t get why they are so upset

[laraWM]

Yes, you're right to follow the instructions.
But you're the only one to practice properly? Other people don't do it?

[Asker]

Yeah all the girls use it on the guys. The guys typically don’t aim there on other guys but they are allowed to.

Have you used that move before?

[laraWM]

I don't get it, I mean if they are assaulted they are not going to use groin strikes? I don't understand guys lol

Fortunately no, never had to

[Asker]

I think it’s a pride thing.

But it makes me kinda giggle when I see a tall and muscular guy drop to his knees from a light shot to the balls, plus you know how they old themselves? It’s hard not to giggle especially with the cocky guys

[laraWM]

Maybe pride yes. But self defense is not about pride, it's about disabling the guy and run away lol
I understand you are tempted to giggle but I don't think it's a good idea. I mean groin strikes work well on guys, that's why the instructor insist on using them

[Asker]

I just meant it’s kinda funny how even a light slap can drop a big guy to his knees

[laraWM]

I see, if funny you mean unexpected then yes.
I must admit it is hard to believe it works so well. Once my boyfriend was hit in the groin accidentally by my sister. I remember he still couldn't get up when my mom came like 10 minutes later

[Asker]

Did your mom get mad at your sister or say anything to him?

[laraWM]

No lol, she was already 20 I think at the time and she was already embarrassed enough.
I think she asked what happened because she didn't realize at first

[Asker]

How did she not realize what happened? I think I’d be so embarrassed if my mom was talking about my boyfriends penis!

[laraWM]

I guess it's not the first thing that comes in mind when you see someone on the floor lol
Yes it was kinda embarrassing but we couldn't really avoid it

[Asker]

Did you tell her what happened? I bet she was surprised too

[laraWM]

Yes of course I told her and yes she was surprised it was so debilitating to him

[Asker]

What did she say? I would be so embarrassed!

[laraWM]

I don't really remember. I know she said something like if all guys react the same I understand better why they told to target that spot in self defense

She also said let him breathe and she went out with my sister to get some things left in the car

[Asker]

Yeah but it must’ve weird for her to talk about your boyfriends penis like that, especially that he got beat up lol

[laraWM]

Yes it was.
The sadest part is when they were outside my boyfriend finally managed to move. And when my mom came back he got up to say hello but he still couldn't handle the pain and had to go on his knees again in front of her

[Asker]

Jeez do you think your mom thought he was overreacting?

[laraWM]

Yes, I don't know why I told you that lol. Fortunately he'll never know

Honestly I don't know what she thought at the time.
But it turned out he didn't realized my mom was there before because he tried to pretend nothing happened

[Asker]

I’m surprised your mom didn’t make fun of him a bit for getting taken down by your little sister lol

[laraWM]

She said to him you don't need to kneel down I'm not a queen lol.
But when he tried to pretend he's fine, she apologizes and said I know you can't get up from what happened to you. Stay on your knees while you need it.

[Asker]

I’m pretty surprised when guys can’t handle what seems like light hits there. I bet your mom was surprised too since she’s your little sister and I’m sure she’s a lot smaller than him

[laraWM]

Yes to be honest we thought he was joking when he went to his knees again in front of my mom
Fortunately with the three of us we managed to help him sit on a chair and spend a pretty almost normal meal lol

[Asker]

Was it holding his balls in front of your mom? I bet she thought that was weird

[laraWM]

I think it is some sort of reflex to hold some body part that hurts, like you can't help it

[Asker]

Yeah but it’s weird because it’s his junk and ur mom was watching

[laraWM]

Yes of course, it was. Especially when he tried to pretend nothing happened whereas my mom already knows where he was kicked. But he ended up holding himself again because of the pain

[Asker]

How did she know he got kicked there

[laraWM]

I mean I told her when she first came in because she asked what happened. But my boyfriend didn't realize she was here
So when she came back he tried to pretend nothing happened and it was a little awkward

[Asker]

I always think guys overreact to that stuff so I’m sure she did too

[laraWM]

I'm not sure it was an overreaction because I don't think he wanted to stay on his knees in front of us, and especially my mom.
But of course we were all surprised how debilitating it was to him

[Asker]

Did you all make fun of him a bit for being a wimp? I doubt ur little sister is that strong

[laraWM]

At first, not really, because we were kinda embarrassed.
My sister felt guilty, she kept saying I didn't kick him that bad but I mean we'll never know how bad it can be

[Asker]

why embarrassed? if your sister didn't kick him that bad why wouldn't ur mom think he was exagerating?

[laraWM]

Because I mean you don't want to see people in pain.
I don't know but to be fair we asked him later and he said it was a strong kick, and everyone knows the groin is a weakspot on guys

[Asker]

yeah true, does he have a big pair of balls? that may be why it hurt so much lol

[laraWM]

lol not sure it matters. Maybe makes an easier target

[Asker]

why do you think an easier target? do his hang low?

[laraWM]

lol no, simple logic. The bigger it is, the easier it is to target

[Asker]

there is one really hot guy in my self defense class.. I'd love to get to spar with him naked so I can see his package, wouldn't that be fun?

[laraWM]

To be honest I find it weird unless he's my boyfriend already

[Asker]

what do you find weird?

[laraWM]

Fighting naked with a random guy.
And from what you said earlier I'm not sure he'd like to fight with you with no cup lol

[Asker]

you don't think a guy would find it hot to fight a girl naked?

[laraWM]

I guess yes they'd like it

[Asker]

do you think a naked fight is fair to both guy and girl? since they are both equally exposed

[laraWM]

Yes I guess it'd be as fair as a normal fight
Maybe the guy'd be distracted by looking at your body

[Asker]

haha guys always get distracted at boobs. why did you say the thing about him not wanting to fight without a cup?

[laraWM]

Yes true. I saw that in a movie
Because I'm not sure he'd like to take the risk of a groin kick

[Asker]

do u think its unfair for me to use that move in a fight?

[laraWM]

You mean a fight with that guy? Personally I wouldn't do that based on what happened to my boyfriend, I can't imagine the result of an intentional kick

[Asker]

yeah like if ur in a self defense style class and you have to fight a guy, and he's actually trying to take you down

[laraWM]

In self defense class, yes of course it's fine

[Asker]

thats why i dont get why he's so pissy about it, we're encouraged to aim there!!

[laraWM]

Yes you need to master that move.
Maybe ask the teacher to remind that he is also encouraged to aim there against a male attacker because it works well

[Asker]

I think he's embarrassed because he can't take a kick there without dropping to his knees lol

[laraWM]

Tell him he's not the only one, and it is exactly why they encourage to kick the groin in self defense class

[Asker]

he's a lot more muscular and tall then the other guys

[laraWM]

Maybe it was not a good idea he went to a self defense class.
I mean if he's strong and if he doesn't want to practice the effective moves

[Asker]

He can take just about every other shot, but when his balls get smacked he's down for the count lol

[laraWM]

I really don't get it. He knows first hand the groin kick is really effective and he doesn't want people to learn and use it?

[Asker]

I do kinda make fun of him a bit saying "awww do your little balls hurt now, not so cocky are you" --- He's really cocky and talks about how women are the weaker sex

[laraWM]

Oh I see, so I guess it is more about being beaten up by a girl.
He has really nothing to do in a self defense class. It makes him realize who really is the weaker sex lol

[Asker]

lol you think guys are the weaker sex?

[laraWM]

No, I just think it is ironic to call us the weaker sex, when a kick there makes you go to your knees

[Asker]

does your boyfriend think the same thing?

[laraWM]

No, if he said something about weaker sex, I'd kindly remind him that time he was unable to get up in front of my mom until I helped him

[Asker]

lol so that incident made you think he was weak?

[laraWM]

No, not weak but he's not stronger than me and I'm not weaker than him. Everyone has strenghts and weaknesses

[Asker]

Do you think you could take him down if you had a free shot?

[laraWM]

My sister did it on accident with a groin kick, so I guess anyone can kick the same spot and get the same result. But I'll never do that

[Asker]

poor guy with sensitive balls!

[laraWM]

Yes but luckily groin kicks almost never happen. I think I've only seen it once

[Asker]

you've never accidenally tapped his balls while playing around or hooking up?

[laraWM]

I think I didn't

[Asker]

I've accidentally knocked a few guys in the balls when hooking up lol

[laraWM]

I guess it ruined the mood

[Asker]

yeah but he got it back up pretty quick lol

[laraWM]

Good for him. I'm really careful because I'm afraid to hurt my boyfriend badly

[Asker]

does he have a big package?

[laraWM]

Maybe lol