Do guys like women who are sweet and caring?

[NotAnother_RedHead]

I feel like a lot of women are just not very nice anymore. I feel like it’s out of style to do nice things for people even if you don’t get something in return.
Sure, have boundaries and stick with them and respect yourself. I’m not saying be a pick me or bend over backwards for anyone. But I just feel like rude women are apparently supposed to be winning more than “kind” women? What’s up with that?
I’ve never had to be rude to get to where I am and I work in a male-dominated industry, make a lot of money and have a lot going for me. When I’m nice good things come better.
I feel like a lot of American women especially are just so rude and unfriendly towards other women and also men. It’s so unattractive.
So men, do you like women who are obnoxious and mean, ignore you and make you feel like you have to chase them? Do they challenge you? Or is a sweet, kindhearted woman (who still has healthy boundaries) more desirable?

[NamerOfStars]

Very much so. But there's a catch, and it's that, for numerous and complicated reasons I doubt I fully understand, people notice nasty people much more readily than nice ones. It can be hard to get attention if you're not standing out, and while what catches the eye is not always what keeps it, it's hard to keep what you never catch.

[Dchrls78104]

I like the sweet and caring woman. As for the rude ones, they're rotten and toxic; I'd rather not go near them.

[NotAnother_RedHead]

What if she’s really shy but really sweet? Sometimes I might seem aloof but I’m deeply shy and quiet.

[NotAnother_RedHead]

Women are giving advice to one another to be mean to guys because it’ll make them chase... yeah... the players will chase you LOL

[Dchrls78104]

This would be part of the attraction for me.

[Dchrls78104]

Yes, the stupid guys and the masochists would chase the mean ones... and then get abused and abandoned and complain that all women are bad. As for me, give me a sweet, quiet woman every time!

[NotAnother_RedHead]

Exactly! Love to hear that.

[Anonymous]

Of course! But the nice women are rare anymore. And most women that say they're nice are predators in disguise. When a woman says she's sweet and caring that's usually a good sign she's anything but.

[NotAnother_RedHead]

Not necessarily. I feel like I genuinely care how people feel and if they’re doing ok. But yeah I don’t think a lot of women are really nice anymore - maybe they’re so insecure that being mean shows superiority? I don't know LOL

[Opinion Owner]

It's the unintended consequence of decades of feminism. Most women don't even know what it means to be a woman anymore. They've been told to compete with men for equality for so long they're confused because Feminism tells them one thing and their biology tells them another. The funniest part is they use their bodies to gain the upper hand on men. Which is about as anti-feminists as can be if you ask me. Truly strong women don't need to use their body to influence men.

[NotAnother_RedHead]

I work as a software engineer but because I’m just really passionate about math and science. I went into the field and immediately was around these nut job feminists. They think allll men are asses but then encourage women to be that way.. as well? I was told to act like a guy if I wanted to go far. I actually just used my brain. They make up a TON of bullshit about the STEM field and like “oh women have to work so much harder to be taken seriously” and would turn me against my male colleagues and tell me to be rude to them. Like they’re sooooo f***ing insane. And a guy would come flirt with me in front of them and they’d tell the guy to go away and that he’s “objectifying” me. Like they literally don’t want men to talk to women anymore. Sure, there are creeps and predators but that’s not the norm. And for the love of God... some of them don’t shave their legs! Because it’s apparently oppressive. Like I just can’t anymore - it’s too much.

[Avicenna]

Yes, we strongly prefer them

[NotAnother_RedHead]

I feel like when I’m in a relationship I do all the cooking which is fun and I love taking care of the guy I’m with. My ex used to work from home and so would I, and I’d still go give him massages and offer him tea and stuff.

[Avicenna]

You sound like a dream girlfriend

[Anonymous]

Yes, of course. They are the best women.

[NotAnother_RedHead]

What if she’s also like super quiet and shy?

[Opinion Owner]

I can't speak for all men but that's totally fine with me.

[Professor-college]

I'd like that more than a woman with bad attitude

[bean2k21]

no not really

[Jay3344]

Yes of course

[Cringe]

Yeah

[htmndg183]

Yes we do.

[Zlantur2]

Of course we do